Want to enjoy your next date and finally spark a deep emotional connection?
Then look no further.
We’ve uncovered famous psychology researcher, Arthur Aron’s 36 questions that are experimentally proven to give you the best chance to fall in love with anyone.
So if you want to finally find your true love, read on.
First, who was Arthur Aron and how did he come up with these questions?
Arhur Aron (born July 2, 1945) is a psychology professor at the State University of New York.
He is well known for his groundbreaking research on intimacy in interpersonal relationships and development of the self-expansion model of motivation in close relationships.
In the nearly 50 years that Arthur Aron studied love, he developed 36 questions to create closeness in a lab setting.
According to the University of Berkeley, these questions have helped break down emotional barriers between thousands of strangers, resulting in friendships, romance and even some marriages.
The questions are divided into 3 sets of 12 and grow increasingly intense. According to Aron:
“When I came in towards the end of each set of questions, there were people crying and talking so openly. It was amazing…They all seemed really moved by it.”
How should you go about using these questions?
According to Psychology Today, you can try these questions with a date, but they’re not necessarily only applicable to fostering romance.
You can try them on anyone – friends, family members etc. Each of you should take a turn answering each question.
It’s a great way to get to know someone deeply and emotionally.
So, without further ado, here they are:
36 questions that spark a deep emotional connection
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
3. Before making a phone call, do you ever rehearse what you’re going to say? Why?
4. What would constitute a perfect day for you?
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you choose?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
11. Take four minutes and tell you partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one quality or ability, what would it be?
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamt of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
17. What is your most treasured memory?
18. What is your most terrible memory?
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19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
20. What does friendship mean to you?
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “we are both in this room feeling…”
26. Complete this sentence “I wish I had someone with whom I could share…”
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
28. Tell your partner what you like about them: be honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
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31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.