All women are born fearless. But as they get older, society teaches them to bow their heads and be afraid.
But there are women who remain fearless…and that’s because they have developed traits that set them apart from others.
Want to know what they are?
Here are 12 powerful traits that set fearless women apart.
1) They don’t care if people dislike them
A lot of women fuss over whether they’re liked or not, and will happily bend over backwards just to win the approval of the people around them.
Fearless women are different in that they simply don’t give a damn.
They will say what they want to say, go where they want to go, and date whoever they want to date.
So long as they know they’re acting in line with their conscience and not causing harm, they do their own thing!
And if someone takes issue with the things they say or do, then it’s no chip off their shoulder—they’re better off without that person in their life.
2) They don’t care if they’re liked either
Just as powerful women aren’t too worried about being disliked, they aren’t desperate to be liked either.
They don’t try to impress anyone—not their parents, not their boyfriends, especially not the public (unless it’s their job to, of course).
This is because they’re confident in themselves. They don’t need validation from others to motivate them or make their actions worthwhile.
They pursue the life they want simply because they want to, first and foremost. If people like what they do, then that would simply be a neat bonus—what matters is that they’re living an authentic life.
3) They are ambitious and optimistic
Being fearless and being confident come hand in hand. Fearless people—and not just women—all have plenty of self-confidence to spare.
They dream big, and no matter how great the obstacle they don’t ask “can I even do it?” and instead ask “how long will it take me to get there?”
They don’t go “Bah, I’m too old. There’s no way I’ll get good at piano.” Instead, they’ll tell themselves that if they start now, they’ll be as good as (if not better than) Martha Argerich in ten years…or even five.
Somewhere along the road, they will stumble and fall, but that is no problem to them. Failure is just a stepping stone to success, after all.
So instead of worrying that they’d just be wasting their time and money trying to learn piano at the ripe old age of 40, they just do it. Worst case scenario is that they will have found a new hobby.
4) They have a mind of their own
Fearless women don’t just go with the flow and think what everyone else thinks. No—they’re open-minded and think for themselves.
They’re always questioning themselves and the expectations that society has imposed upon them.
People like to think that women are naturally more “emotional”, for example, or that women should always be “gentle” and “ladylike.”
But what’s keeping women from being rational? Why can’t they be “crass”, and why do they have to be “ladylike?”
Nothing is sacred—not even the religion they were raised in.
Of course, they’re not going to go against the grain just ‘cause. Sometimes things are accepted by the majority for a reason.
Either way, because of this mindset, they way they think is always unique and evolving.
5) They’re not scared to break some rules
If it’s not already established in the signs above, let me just say it outright: fearless women are not afraid to rebel.
They know that rules and norms are not necessarily “right” by virtue.
If they’re convinced that a rule simply doesn’t make sense and that defying it isn’t going to put them behind bars, they’d be happy to break them.
Take weddings, for example. Do they truly have to be so white and sterile? The answer, to them, is no—so if they fancy it, then they’ll wear a somewhat weird outfit to one.
Not everyone likes that they act like this, to be fair. But then again, that’s just part of who they are and what makes them so unique.
6) They don’t try to be “nice”
To be more specific, they don’t try to be anything except themselves.
They might try to be kind and polite, of course. Well, as much as one can reasonably expect from any other person.
But if they’re not “nice” then they simply aren’t going to pretend to be one.
Fearless women are not scared to know that they’re not the nicest person in the world—that they’re not the sweetest mother, or the most loving partner, or the most generous neighbor.
If they’re a little rough around the edges, they let themselves be.
And if some people can’t take their “bad” with their good, then they won’t even try to convince others to like them.
7) They believe they’re meant for great things
Fearless women know they’re special…and not in a self-absorbed kind of way!
They just know that every person is special, and that we are all meant (or at the very least, DESERVE) to have great things in life.
I’m not just talking about them achieving their ambitions in life (of which they have plenty), I’m also talking about the pleasures and luxuries.
They believe they’re meant to have a good partner.
They believe they’re meant to live in a pretty home where they’ll have barbeque and beer with their bestest friends on weekends.
And because of their strong belief that they deserve a beautiful life, they’d do whatever it takes to get it. They’re MEANT to have it, after all.
Of course, they also believe the same is true for everyone else.
8) They don’t get scared, they get excited
Fear and excitement are closely linked in the brain. They share the same physical reaction—and yet one is surely better than the other.
Sometimes, we think we’re scared about something when in fact, we’re actually excited about it. It’s just a matter of perspective.
Most fearless women I know don’t have a lot of fears because they focus on the good things that could happen, instead of the bad.
And even if they’re in a truly scary situation—like they found out they have a lump in their breast and would need an operation, they’ll try to see things positively.
Instead of thinking “Oh no, what if the operation goes wrong or I won’t stop bleeding”, they’d say “Oh thank god this will be over soon. I can’t wait!”
9) They embrace change
Fearless women welcome change.
Sure, they don’t like the inconvenience and uncertainty it brings, but they know that they’ll be fine wherever life takes them.
In fact, they’re quite hopeful that it would take them to a much better place.
So when their boss assigns them to a different position, instead of hating their fate, they’d think, “Oh well, I’d give it a try. Maybe I’ll like it.”
And if it’s a kind of change that’s heartbreaking—like their partner leaves them—they’d feel all the feels…but they’d pretty soon tell themselves, “Oh well, maybe it’s a good time to be single and just enjoy myself.”
10) They stand up for themselves
When someone bullies them in any way, they’d let it pass if it happens once and it’s minor. But they’ll tell them off and make sure they understand that they’re not fine with what they’re doing.
And if it happens again, they won’t hesitate to confront the other person for real—yes, even if it means they’d look a little “bitchy”, “crazy,” or aggressive.
Fearless women respect themselves, and they can’t stand people who don’t respect other people. So they’ll speak up, set clear boundaries, and they won’t hesitate to reprimand people if they have to.
11) They stand up for others
Powerful women aren’t selfish, although their boldness and refusal to conform can often make people think that they are.
If they see someone else in need of help, they will happily come to their side and stand up for them.
However, don’t take this to mean that they’ll just rush to support anyone who comes asking for their help, either.
They’re smart and discerning and will try to see if the person deserves their help first. The last thing they want is to defend someone from well-deserved criticism.
12) They shake things up
Fearless women are not shy about trying out new things. They’re naturally playful and curious…and they’d rather shake things up than stay bored with their lives.
Don’t take this to mean that they’re down to do anything, of course. They aren’t going to kiss a stranger just because they’re bored with their boyfriend.
But otherwise, they’re not afraid to change things around a bit.
If they feel stuck with their career, they’d try to see what they can do about it. They’d try to change the way they work or they’ll add some spice to their work life. But if that doesn’t improve things so much, then they’d be willing to quit and find another job.
They’d rather sail on from an island they know they don’t want to be in anymore, even if it doesn’t guarantee that they’ll find another one that’s better.
Fearless women are not exactly “fearless” in the sense that they never get afraid. Rather, they are that way because they refuse to let fear rule their lives.
So if you want to be more like them, don’t be too concerned about the fact that you feel fear and apprehension. The secret is not in killing your feelings, but in riding with them.
Fearless women are the way they are because time and time again, they simply refuse to be forced into submission. They fought back against their fears and forged ahead.