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20 wise pieces of advice you’ll regret not listening to

We’ve all received advice that we wish we had taken but didn’t.

Perhaps someone offered to tell you what to do, but for one reason or another, you decided not to listen and you regretted it later.

It’s happened to all of us at some point in our lives, but it doesn’t mean we can’t learn from our mistakes.

Here are 20 pieces of wisdom that are worth listening to.

You might have heard some of them before, but sometimes it takes hearing something multiple times before you can implement it in your life.

1. Trust your own intuition

How many times have you chosen to act in a way that contradicts your true feelings?

And how often have you regretted it after the fact?

Our intuition is powerful and recognizes subtle things about a situation that we can’t quite put into words.

The more we listen to our own intuition, the more we have confidence in our own judgment.

Trust what you’re feeling, and hold firm to it.

2. Learn to be comfortable with discomfort

How many times have you avoided doing something that you know will benefit you because it was a little uncomfortable?

We all do it because we hate experiencing negative emotions like anxiety or fear.

But the truth is, you can’t avoid uncomfortable situations and feelings forever.

And if you want to grow and improve yourself, you need to be okay with feeling uncomfortable every now and then.

3. Take care of your health

Every action you take impacts your health in one way or another.

This goes for the present, as well as how you’ll feel decades from now.

It’s important to take care of your health if you want to live a quality life. Stay active, eat well, and you’ll feel better in the future.

4. Appreciate what you have right now to be happy

So often we think that we will finally be happy when we reach certain goals, but if we always adopt that view, then we’ll never be happy at the moment that is right now.

The key to being happy right now is not to only be satisfied when you reach your goals, it’s to accept and appreciate the life you have right now.

Through practicing gratitude for the things you have, you’ll be able to see how much you’ve already done and accomplished and find solace in what you have been able to create in your life thus far.

5. See failure as a learning experience

It hurts to fail or make a mistake. That’s why so many of us avoid trying new things.

But growth and learning only occur when you take a chance and learn from your failures.

Thomas Edison said it best, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

6. Stop worrying about what other people think

Nobody truly understands who you are and what you’ve been through in life, so why care what they think about you?

The only people that matter is the people you love that already love and accept you.

Other people’s opinions simply don’t matter.

7. Always take a step back and reflect before making big decisions

Making a big decision when you’re feeling angry or emotionally overwhelmed is never going to work for you in the long run.

Make sure you take a step back and analyze your situation properly before making a decision in the heat of the moment.

Be cool, calm, and calculated with your choices.

8. You can’t buy happiness

This goes without saying but many of us believe that the only way to become happier is to make more money and buy new things.

It’s important to be able to earn enough to live a comfortable life, but if you think that buying a Ferrari will make you happy, then you’re in for a rude awakening.

Health, happiness, family, friends. You can’t put a price on those things. And what is what will make your life meaningful and fulfilling.

9. Be proud of your hard work

Our society focuses so much on “talent”, but what’s more important than talent is the work you put in.

You can’t control the gifts you were given when you were born, but you can control what you do with those gifts.

Work hard, show grit, and persevere throughout your life. That’s what really matters.

10. Making everyone happy is for the birds

You can’t make everyone happy, so don’t try to.

People will never be happy. You do you before your time runs out.

If you stand for something, it’s impossible not to step on someone else’s toes. Trying to please everyone will mean that you won’t get anything done.

If you want to achieve your goals, then forget about the need to please others.

11. Perfection is the enemy of progress

Standing in front of the mirror pointing out your flaws will make you old before your time.

Don’t waste another second trying to be anything except what you are right now.

As Master Buddhist Thich Nhat Hanh says below, if you’re always trying to change yourself, you’ll never be happy. True happiness and power come from being who you truly are:

“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself. When you are born a lotus flower, be a beautiful lotus flower, don’t try to be a magnolia flower. If you crave acceptance and recognition and try to change yourself to fit what other people want you to be, you will suffer all your life. True happiness and true power lie in
understanding yourself, accepting yourself, having confidence in yourself.” – Thich Nhat Hanh, The Art of Power

12. Have the courage to take risks.

One of the nursing leaders has a saying: “Jump off the cliff and the parachute will appear.” How could this make any sense?

Obviously, it is scary to lean in. This is natural, and many people cannot overcome this instinct.

Yet, this saying is daring you to be different. It is asking you to be confident enough to believe that there is a safety net even though you can’t see it, that things will work out well despite your not knowing how at the moment. It is suggesting that for those with this kind of bravery, the rewards will be more than worth the risks.

13. Now is all that matters.

Time spent worrying about the past or fearing the future takes you away from the beauty of the present moment.

The present moment is the only thing that exists. Don’t live for the future or resent the past. It will do you no good.

You might not exist tomorrow so don’t put off what you can do today until tomorrow. You might not get the chance.

14. Complaining won’t help you

For some people, complaining seems to be a way of life. Being around chronic complainers can be frustrating and draining.

But guess what? Life is hard for everyone. It’s not supposed to be easy. If you want a different life, go out and get it. No one is going to change it for you.

Complaining won’t help you or anyone change their life for the better.

15. No one knows the path forward, and there is always uncertainty

Those who say they know how things are going to work out with you are just plain wrong.

There are so many decision points, unseens, and unexpected that there is no way to predict an outcome with any certainty.

However, your guts and imagination will see you through. Between your inner reserves (guts) and your ability to keep your goal(s) in your mind’s eye (imagination), you will be able to roll with the punches and come out successful on the other side.

16. Spend time on your relationships

The most important thing in your life is your loved ones. They make life worth living.

Don’t forget to give people your time. Work to show people you care. Don’t assume they know.

Try to look out for your close ones and understand what they’re going through.

17. Reactions are all that matters when things go bad

No matter how bad things get, it’s how you react that’s important. Giving up is a bad idea; pushing forward is always a good idea.

As Charles R. Swindoll said, the most important thing we have control over is our attitude:

“We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude…I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you…we are in charge of our attitudes.” – Charles R. Swindoll

18. You don’t need to compare yourself to others

You can’t compare yourself accurately to anyone. We all have different circumstances in life.

The only person you should be comparing yourself to is your past self.

Accept who you are and what you have. Realize that we’re all unique with incredibly different circumstances. It’s really impossible to compare.

19. It’s important to always keep hope

It’s crucial to keep hope, even in tough times.

Change is built into the nature of things: nothing is inherently fixed, not even our identity.

Therefore, no matter how bad the situation, it’s important to remember that change is only the law in the universe and it will eventually pass.

According to a Buddhist monk, Thanissaro Bhikkhu, the nature of karma gives up hope:

“In the five reflections, the reflection on karma is the one that gives hope. You realize that you’re in charge of your actions. You’re not simply a victim of fate or of the stars or of some other being acting through you. You’re the one who’s making the choices. That’s what gives you hope.”

20. Help others as much as you can

Sometimes it can help to stop focusing on your own problems and instead help people with theirs. Not only will you help them out, but it might just make you feel better about yourself.

Compassion is also about understanding the basic goodness in all people. It helps you connect wholeheartedly with others, which can be a great source of joy.

Seek to live in a way where you treat everyone as you would yourself. Once you begin doing this, you’ll realize the true power of compassion.

Master Buddhist Thich Nhat Hanh offers some great advice:

“When we come into contact with the other person, our thoughts and actions should express our mind of compassion, even if that person says and does things that are not easy to accept. We practice in this way until we see clearly that our love is not contingent upon the other person being lovable.”

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Written by Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 15 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Twitter.

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