Leila El-Dean
Let’s be honest, does anyone actually want to grow up?
More responsibility, less time for yourself, and don’t even mention those hangovers.
But wait a second!
It’s not as bad as you think. In fact, studies have shown that becoming older, wiser, and more mature is better for relationships, helps you gain respect from others, and improves work opportunities.
The good news is, by simply widening your vocabulary you can start appearing more mature today.
It’s a shortcut that can give you more credibility and leadership skills.
Call it a life hack!
Not to mention, a wide vocabulary actually makes you more attractive, helping you stand out to that special guy or gal.
So what are you waiting for?
Here are ten phrases that will supercharge your maturity levels!
1) “In my experience”
Whether you’re at your workplace or down the pub with your mates, using this phrase demonstrates that your viewpoint is based on real-life situations.
Not only that, but it adds credibility to your statement.
And let’s face it.
If you’re 30-plus, you’ve probably gained some insight over the years.
2) “I hear you”
Who doesn’t want to feel understood?
By uttering these three little words, you can make the speaker feel heard.
For starters, it shows that you’re actively listening to them. And secondly, that you comprehend what they’re trying to say.
Simply put – it reassures them and puts their mind at ease.
3) “Tell me more about that?”
Another easy way to communicate that you’re engaged and listening is by asking follow-up questions.
This phrase is also a clever (and polite) way to gain more information when you don’t fully understand what someone is saying.
Plus, it keeps the conversation going.
Even if you’re confused by what they’re trying to convey, it implies that you’re willing to learn.
4) “I’ll take that into consideration”
By taking someone’s opinion into consideration, it indicates that you’re receptive to feedback.
It also proves to the speaker that you value their perspective in the decision-making process.
And if you’re on the fence about something, it gives you more time to properly think it over.
Or if you’ve already made up your mind, this simple phrase is a diplomatic way to let someone down without coming across as rude or dismissive.
Basically, you’re taking it under advisement. But you’re not committing to anything. Not just yet, anyway.
5) “That’s a good question”
This phrase has a couple of meanings.
More often than not, it’s a great way to buy more time and think about an appropriate answer to a tough question.
Let me put it this way.
That short pause gives you a moment to compose yourself – especially if the question is particularly shocking or unexpected.
Alternatively, it can mean just that – an excellent question.
You genuinely think what they asked was interesting, insightful, or intelligent. In response, you’re giving them positive feedback.
And who can resist a bit of flattery?
6) “How do you feel about that?”
Have you ever heard about the 12 golden rules of conversation?
Originally compiled in the 1920s, these gems of wisdom still ring true today.
This includes golden oldies such as being a good listener, using tact, not doing all the talking, and not always being the hero – among others.
A great way to put this into practice is by asking someone how they feel.
Why?
Well, not only does it indicate that you’re paying attention (and interested), but it demonstrates empathy.
Essentially, you’re acknowledging their feelings in a respectful way.
In turn, this allows you to gain a better understanding by putting yourself in their shoes.
7) “What do you mean?”
Sometimes it pays to be direct. And asking for clarification does just that.
Not only does it give the speaker a chance to explain their point fully, but it demonstrates a level of maturity on your part.
Let me explain.
When you’re young, it can be difficult to admit that you don’t understand something. Perhaps you’re worried you’ll “look stupid”, that you’re “too inexperienced”, or that “you weren’t listening”.
The thing is – it’s actually quite the opposite.
In fact, it shows that you’re secure enough to speak up. It also denotes a willingness to learn more and improve.
And that’s because you’re not burdened with self-doubt. After all, nothing says maturity more than an abundance of confidence.
It’s also important to note that asking “What do you mean?” is different from asking them to repeat something.
8) “I appreciate your input”
Sometimes it’s all about expressing gratitude.
And by acknowledging someone’s contribution, it promotes a positive dialogue.
In short, it’s a form of mutual respect.
In return, it gives them the opportunity to feel proud of themself. As a result, they’ll be more likely to assist in the future.
9) “I was wrong”
Let’s face it. It can be difficult to accept when you’re in the wrong, and even harder to say it out loud.
The thing is – that’s your ego getting in the way.
By admitting to your mistakes, it symbolizes that you’re responsible and willing to take accountability for your actions.
And by sharing it with others, it allows you to move forward and find a solution together.
Not only does that stress your strength of character, but it highlights your integrity and emotional maturity.
In turn, that earns you respect.
10) “Thank you”
This one may seem obvious, but those two little words can have a powerful impact on the recipient.
In fact, studies suggest public displays of gratitude can benefit more than just one-on-one relationships – but also those who witness it.
They’re not considered one of the “magic words” for no reason, after all!
That’s right. “Please”, “Thank you”, and “You’re welcome” – all the words you were taught as a child are just as important in adulthood.
But it’s more than just a common courtesy or sign of respect. No, it shows legitimate appreciation for someone’s efforts.
Furthermore, it proves that you’re not entitled. Something you learn as you get older.
Ultimately, you understand that someone has gone out of their way to help you because they want to, and not because they have to.
And for that, you’re truly grateful.
