10 phrases only the kindest people use, according to psychology

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Kindness has the power to transform people’s lives.  

It is a virtue that manifests in many forms, such as being considerate, assisting others, and showing goodwill. 

A genuine expression of care and understanding, it is informed by the belief that every person and living creature deserves love, respect, and support. 

Kind people are friendly, welcoming, and generous, and often prioritize the wellbeing of others without a second thought or without expecting anything in return.  

And their language reflects this.  

So, how can you tell a sincerely kind person simply by what they say? 

Here are 10 phrases only the kindest people use, according to psychology. 

1) “Please tell me how you’re doing”

Kindness extends way beyond superficial or merely polite gestures.  

It is about caring for someone is a proactive way. 

And the kindest people tend to be extremely agreeable, which means they will be warm and inviting. 

This is why they will use a phrase like, “please tell me how you are doing”. 

It’s not a polite, “How are you?”  

This invites one-word answers and doesn’t get to the heart of what the person feels. 

Whereas the phrase above encourages someone to speak openly and honestly, and at length if necessary.  

This makes them feel comfortable and accepted.

The second phrase used by the kindest people is… 

2) “I am so lucky”

Kindness has been scientifically proven to make people happier.  

So, it’s no surprise that kindness and well-being go together.  

And this also makes the genuinely kind incredibly grateful.  

So, they are very likely to express this regularly. 

Saying, “I’m so lucky” or “I’m blessed” doesn’t mean they think everything is perfect in their lives, but it shows that they are grateful for what they have.  

A sign of an extremely kind-hearted person.  

And from gratitude to generosity… 

3) “What can I do right now to help you?”

Kindness is a genuine expression of goodwill and a willingness to help others.  

Particularly when people don’t expect to receive anything in return.  

This makes the kindest of people the most generous with their effort and their time.  

Asking, “what can I do right now to help?” communicates a willingness to do whatever is necessary to support someone else right now. 

As opposed to simply asking, “can I help?”, which is vaguer and more noncommittal. 

(And a silly question, I mean, we can always help, right?)  

4) “Things are going to improve for you”

The people with the biggest hearts are also some of the most optimistic people on the planet.  

They believe in the innate goodness in all people and approach the world as they see it: full of wonderful people and great opportunities.  

So, any phrases they use will reflect this awesome positivity and propensity to look on the bright side.  

Stating that, “things are going to get better” (or that “this too shall pass”) is affirming and comforting and typical of a truly kind-hearted individual.  

And as well as being positive, they are also pretty chilled… 

5) “Everything will work out the way it’s supposed to”

Kindness is known to be a stress reducer.  

So, it’s no surprise that the kindest people are often the most relaxed.  

Their calmness and serenity also give them a favourable outlook which they try to pass on to others. 

They will use language and phrases that will encourage others not to worry or become anxious.  

Telling someone that “everything will work out the way it’s meant to” shows faith in the world, as well as a deep capacity for kindness.  

6) “I understand how you’re feeling”

The kindest people are also the most empathetic towards others. 

It’s the understanding of what people are going through that fuels their selfless willingness to help. 

They show understanding and compassion to others through active listening and non-judgmental support.  

Because they know these bring genuine comfort to others.  

As does being included which is what the next phrase only the kindest people use is all about… 

7) “You are not alone in this”

Big-hearted people go out of their way to include others

Seeing someone isolated, lonely, or vulnerable upsets them at their core.  

This makes them incredibly inclusive, doing whatever it takes to bring someone who needs support into the fold and making them part of the community.  

This is why phrases like, “you’re not alone” and “I’m here for you” are common from a kind-hearted person.

As in encouragement, which bring us to the next phrase… 

8) “You will get there, just keep going”

The kindest souls are the happiest when they see others flourishing

They want everyone to be thriving, happy, and fulfilled, and go out of their way to help people achieve their personal goals, overcome challenges, and live their best lives.  

When they use phrases like, “I believe in you”, “you’ve got this”, or “you’ll get there, just keep going”, they are communicating their belief in and support for that person.

As well as their personal wish for the person to succeed.  

9) “I’m just delighted to be able to help”

The kindest people know the power of humility to build deeper connections and enhance compassion. 

Although they can regularly practice extraordinary acts of kindness in service to others, they will never expect to be praised for it. 

They don’t do it for acknowledgment, their kindness is satisfied only by the knowledge that they have made someone else’s day, present situation, or life in general better.  

So, if they do receive praise or kudos for their efforts, they will generally brush them off with phrases like, “I’m just delighted to be able to help.” 

Their amazing kindness renders them incredibly humble.  

And now for the final phrase often used by the kindest of people… 

10) “I’ll be here when you need me”

Kind people are extremely tolerant, non-judgmental, and can exercise self-control. 

And this is the essence of patience.  

And indeed, the two virtues have a mutually dependent relationship with each other. 

Kindness is enhanced by patience because it allows people to offer support and understanding even in challenging circumstances.  

Similarly, patience is itself, a form of kindness as it ensures people can approach others with compassion and empathy, even in frustration and adversity.  

So, the final phrase used by a kind-hearted person will communicate their calmness and patience.  

Saying, “I’m here when you need me” is reassuring, supportive, and shows a great amount of patience.  

Kindness is intent and action  

Kindness is a powerful force that has the potential to create ripples of positivity that reach far and wide shaping individuals, families, and communities. 

It has the power to literally transform lives. 

And although it is an innate human quality that most of us possess, some special people have it in abundance. 

And often, their commonly used phrases give great insight into their intentions and their subsequent actions as they go about their business elevating the human experience.  

Niamh McNamara

A freelance writer fascinated with human nature and social dynamics, Niamh read literature, history, and philosophy at university before spending time in journalism and PR. Armed with a passion for words and ideas, and a healthy appreciation of the ridiculous, she tries to make sense of it all. Connect with Niamh on X @NBMcnamara123

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