Ethan Sterling
When someone says “I’m always here for you”, it feels good, right? But what if they aren’t there when you need them? That’s when you know they’re fake.
Understanding human behavior can be as tricky as solving a Rubik’s cube blindfolded.
But psychology has given us some clues to identify those who don’t mean what they say.
You see, fake people have some tell-tale phrases up their sleeves. And once you know these, spotting them becomes a whole lot easier.
Let’s dive into this intriguing world of deception and learn about “phrases only really fake people use, according to psychology”.
1) “Trust me, I would never lie to you”
Isn’t it strange when someone has to constantly reassure you of their honesty?
This is a classic line used by those who are not as genuine as they would like you to believe.
Often, those who constantly assert their honesty are the ones with something to hide.
Remember, actions speak louder than words.
Genuine people don’t need to convince others of their truthfulness; their actions do it for them.
So next time someone insists on their honesty a bit too much, it might be a sign they’re hiding something.
And that’s your first clue in identifying a fake person.
2) “I’m always here for you”
This phrase is a tricky one. It’s supposed to signal support and care, but sometimes it’s just empty words.
I remember a friend who would always say this to me. She would insist she was there for me, no matter what.
But when my world came crashing down, when I desperately needed someone to lean on, she was nowhere to be found.
The phrase became a hollow promise, a facade of care that disappeared when actually needed.
Fake people often use such phrases to maintain a positive image, but fail to follow through when action is required.
That’s why it’s crucial to observe their actions over their words.
3) “I hate drama”
This phrase is a paradox in itself. Often, the ones who claim to detest drama the most are the ones who create it.
In psychology, this behavior is referred to as projection – unconsciously attributing one’s own traits or behaviors onto others.
So when someone is constantly saying they hate drama, they could be trying to distance themselves from their own dramatic tendencies.
It’s like a magician’s trick – while you’re focused on their aversion to drama, you may miss the chaos they’re stirring up themselves.
So keep an eye out for these drama despisers, because they might just be the ones stirring the pot.
4) “I’m not like other people”
Ever met someone who constantly tries to set themselves apart from the crowd? It might sound intriguing at first, but it could be a red flag.
When someone keeps asserting how different they are, it’s often a ploy to appear unique or special.
But genuine uniqueness doesn’t need to be advertised; it shows up in actions and character.
This phrase is a classic move in the fake people playbook.
They want you to believe they’re one-of-a-kind, when in reality, they’re just trying too hard to stand out.
It’s not about being different, it’s about being real.
And real people let their actions speak for themselves.
5) “I don’t care what people think”
I’ve found in my experiences that people who often say they don’t care what others think, actually do. A lot.
I used to know someone who would constantly assert how little they cared about others’ opinions.
But I noticed that their actions often told a different story.
They would change their behavior based on who they were with, clearly tailoring their actions to fit others’ expectations.
This phrase, in my opinion, is a defense mechanism. It’s a way for people to shield themselves from potential criticism or judgment.
But who are we kidding? We all care about what people think to some extent.
And that’s perfectly normal. The trick is not to let those opinions dictate who we are.
6) “I’m sorry you feel that way”
This phrase might seem like an apology but it’s actually not. It subtly shifts the blame onto the other person, making it seem as if their feelings are the problem, not the speaker’s actions.
Instead of taking responsibility for their actions, fake people use this phrase to dodge accountability.
It’s a clever way to appear as if they’re apologizing, while actually avoiding any real admission of guilt.
So, next time you hear this phrase, take a moment to consider whether it’s a genuine apology or a deflection tactic.
A real apology acknowledges the mistake made and expresses regret for the impact it had.
7) “I have a lot of haters”
When someone frequently mentions how many “haters” they have, it’s usually a red flag.
It often indicates an inflated sense of self-importance and a desire for sympathy or validation.
In reality, people who genuinely excel in their fields or have unique talents do face criticism but they rarely go around advertising their “haters”.
They focus more on improving themselves and their craft.
So, when someone is constantly playing the victim and blaming their “haters”, it might be time to question their authenticity.
Because real people know that criticism is part of life, and they don’t need to broadcast it for sympathy or validation.
8) “I’m just being honest”
Honesty is a virtue, but when someone frequently uses this phrase, it’s often a cover-up for rudeness or tactlessness.
True honesty doesn’t need a preamble.
Genuine people are able to communicate their thoughts and feelings tactfully and respectfully, without having to justify their honesty.
So when someone frequently uses this phrase, it might be a sign they are not as authentic as they claim to be.
Because real honesty is about respect, not just speaking one’s mind without regard for others’ feelings.
Understanding the value of authenticity
As we navigate through the maze of human interactions, the virtue of authenticity stands tall and strong. It’s not about being perfect, but about being real, being ourselves.
Recognizing these phrases can help us discern between those who are genuine and those who aren’t.
But remember, we all have our moments of insecurity and pretense – it’s part of being human.
So, as we strive to surround ourselves with authentic people, let’s also strive to be more authentic ourselves.
After all, as Mark Twain rightly said, “The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.”
Let this be a call to embrace our true selves, for in our authenticity lies our greatest strength.
Reflect on this as you move forward in your interactions and relationships.
Because authenticity is not just about identifying fake people, it’s about celebrating the real ones – including the one staring back at you in the mirror.
