5 phrases only genuinely nice people use, according to psychology

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While it may not be difficult to find nice people, it’s tougher to find people who are genuinely nice.

Anyone can be a nice person. What matters is if they mean what they say.

And in a world where genuinely nice people are harder to find, it’s good to be able to identify those who truly mean well.

So today we’ll delve into phrases that only genuinely nice people use, according to psychology.

1) “How can I help?”

Genuinely nice people enjoy helping others. There’s a sense of fulfillment and joy when they make someone’s day.

There are people who help others because it’s expected of them to do so, but if the sacrifice of their time or effort is too great, they may try to avoid this altogether. This is because they don’t see the value in doing so especially when it may bring more harm than good.

While it’s reasonable for someone to avoid going all the way to help someone if it will harm them, genuinely nice people are often more willing to make some sacrifices (depending on their threshold) for another person – regardless if they know them or not.

And this usually stems from their altruistic trait – which, according to psychology, is a positive force that benefits the giver and recipient, providing better health, mental well-being, and fostering improved social connections.

This is why genuinely nice people tend to draw others to them because when they render help or assistance, they usually don’t expect anything in return, since the good deed is already a reward in itself.

If you want to be a genuinely nice person, start by asking the people around you if you can offer help in any way. 

2) “I appreciate you.”

Another trait of genuinely nice people is their ability to make people feel appreciated.

They make gratitude a habit and will let people know how much they mean to them. Rather than let someone’s efforts go unseen, genuinely nice people will acknowledge them.

This will not only allow the other person to feel seen, but it will also remind you to be thankful for the people in your life.

Studies show that gratitude is named the mother of all virtues because it sets the foundation for the development of other positive traits, such as patience, humility, and wisdom – all of which are core characteristics of a genuinely nice person. 

If you want to become a nicer person, saying thank you is a great start.

3) “I understand.”

Empathy is a trait that all genuinely nice people have. They show this in their ability to put themselves in the shoes of another and see things from their perspective.

Being empathetic allows the other person to feel validated and seen. It tells them that they’re in a safe space to share their troubles without judgment.

Psychology states that an empathetic person is able to express an understanding of how someone feels and treats them accordingly.

While they may not fully understand what the other person is going through, genuinely nice people will try to be there for that person.

Some may be more sensitive to the other person’s emotions than others and actually feel what the other person is going through.

Having empathy illustrates the depth of someone’s willingness to connect and care for other people.

While most people generally do care for others around them, taking the next step to see things from their perspective takes a little bit more effort.

Thus, if you want to become a nicer person in general, there needs to be a willingness to care more.

4) “I believe in you.”

The first time someone said this to me was when I’d just failed an important test for the first time. Being in a relatively good school, this came as a severe blow to me because I was one of the few people in my cohort to not pass the exam. 

I’d never felt so defeated in my life and it felt as if my world was crumbling all around me. But this phrase – said to me by my parents – was what made me get up and try again.

It sounds simple, but when you hear this phrase from the people closest to you, it becomes a source of motivation to do better the next time.

And this is what genuinely nice people aim to do. They try to uplift others whenever they can, especially when the people around them feel uninspired or discouraged.

No matter how simple you may think this phrase to be, you’ll be surprised at how much it can change a person’s life. 

Therefore, uplifting people is another way to become a much nicer person.

5) “I’m sorry.”

People often do not admit their mistakes because it feels uncomfortable. However, taking responsibility for your actions is a key trait of genuinely nice people as they prioritize the feelings of others over theirs.

According to psychology, taking accountability for your actions usually involves making an effort to take ownership of harmful actions – whether these were done intentionally or not.

Moreover, it’s also a sign of maturity as well. It shows that you’re willing to set aside your pride, apologize and make things right.

Of course, it’s easy to be flippant about this. Anyone can say they’re sorry.

But it takes a lot of character to truly be apologetic and also, to never make the same mistake again.

The last thing genuinely nice people want to do is to hurt others, therefore, they will try their utmost to make up and be more careful with their actions and words.

Concluding thoughts

So there you have it – phrases that genuinely nice people often use. However, putting these phrases into everyday use can be a little difficult, especially if we’re not used to caring for others to this extent.

But with practice, everything gets easier. We’re all in this journey of growth and over time, if you set your mind to it, you’ll realize that you have a greater capacity for good than you realized.

In fact, everyone has the potential to become a genuinely nice person. It just starts with the desire to be that person.

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Tina Fey

I'm Tina Fey, the founder of the blog Love Connection. I've extremely passionate about sharing relationship advice. I've studied psychology and have my Masters in marital, family, and relationship counseling. I hope with all my heart to help you improve your relationships, and I hope that even if one thing I write helps you, it means more to me than just about anything else in the world. Check out my blog Love Connection, and if you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter

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