Many people mistake being single for being lonely.
But that’s simply not true…In fact, there are a growing number of people who make the intentional choice to stay single.
Whether that be because they enjoy the freedom of it, or because they want to prioritize their own self-development, they choose a life that contradicts what society says is the “right” way to live.
So, let’s take a dive into the personality traits of people who stay single and like it…you might find yourself surprised at just how the “other side” lives!
1) They value freedom
This one might come as a given, but someone who stays single and likes it usually prioritizes freedom more than the average Jo!
Now, that’s not to say being in a relationship is like being in jail, but we can’t deny there are some obligations and responsibilities to fulfill.
However, when you’re single, you don’t need to check in with anyone. You can literally pack up your bags and hop on a flight, or change careers, without it affecting anyone else!
That’s why people who value freedom tend to stay single and love every minute of it!
2) They’re self-sufficient
But to be so free-spirited, these types of people also need to be self-sufficient.
The truth is, they’re confident in their ability to look after themselves. They can manage their finances, they prioritize their health and well-being, and they don’t need to rely on anyone else.
It could be this trait that means they enjoy being single more – they don’t need another person to feel safe or secure.
And whilst many of us like the company of a romantic partner, a self-sufficient singleton is quite happy on their own or spending time with friends or family.
The point is, they like being able to look after themselves, and don’t see the need for a partner to fulfill this role!
3) They’re open-minded
Another personality trait of those who stay single and like it is being open-minded.
They enjoy trying new things and hearing new ideas and opinions…which could be why they embrace living the solo life so much!
They’re not bogged down by ideas of “needing” a partner to feel whole in life. They get their fulfillment through diverse experiences and meeting a wide range of people.
But that’s not all…
Someone who is extremely open-minded might find it tough to be in a relationship, especially if they don’t meet someone with the same mindset as them. It may lead them to feel restricted or bored.
So, rather than take the conventional route and find a partner at all costs, they prefer to stay single and they like it!
4) They’re content
The truth is, to stay single and resist all temptation of getting into a relationship, one has to be pretty content with the life they have.
And this is something that shows up time and time again in the traits of people who like staying single – they don’t crave anything more than what they’ve already got!
They’ve designed their lifestyle to suit them in a way that they don’t need anything else.
Sure, a partner might add value, but someone who enjoys being single finds value in other ways; through friendships, work, hobbies, and passions.
5) They’re independent
Now, this next trait might not be such a surprise…
Being highly independent is yet another personality trait of those who stay single and like it, for these reasons:
- It gives them a sense of freedom (as we covered earlier, this is very important!)
- It means they don’t have to rely on anyone else (similar to being self-sufficient)
- They remain in control of their life
- They don’t need companionship to feel safe, secure, or fulfilled
The bottom line is:
Independent people aren’t reliant on others for validation. They don’t need other people to have a good time.
They like being single because it allows them to live their life in the best way possible, without having to factor a partner into the mix!
6) They’re strong-willed
Those of us who actually enjoy being in relationships will know the pressure to be in one, even when you’re temporarily single…
The questions and comments pour in from all angles:
“Haven’t you met anyone yet?”
“Aw, don’t worry, the right one is just around the corner!”
“I’ve got a friend of a friend who you’d just love! Let me set something up.”
So, it goes without saying, to stay single and enjoy it, you’ve got to be strong-willed!
People who resist getting into a relationship primarily do it because they want to be single, but that doesn’t mean they won’t have moments of doubt.
In the end, their strong will lead them back to the conclusion that whilst a relationship does have benefits, they’re happier living life on their own terms.
7) They’re self-aware
Now, one thing we haven’t mentioned so far is the possibility that some people stay single and enjoy it simply because they function better alone.
It could be said that these people have a lot of self-awareness.
They know their strengths and weaknesses, and perhaps they’ve identified that they don’t do particularly well in relationships.
And even if that’s not the case, it could be that their self-awareness has led them to the conclusion that they’d rather invest in their inner relationship than spend time on an external relationship.
They choose to work on themselves and build a healthy, strong, inner connection rather than spending that time and energy elsewhere (and let’s face it, relationships do require a lot of work!).
8) They’re adventurous
Now, another personality trait of those who stay single and like it is being adventurous.
Sure, you can be adventurous in a relationship, but there’s nothing quite like being a free-spirited, lone wolf to expand your horizons and push the limits!
Not to mention, if someone is extremely adventurous at heart, the idea of settling down into a monogamous relationship might sound restricting, boring even.
Finally, adventurous people are more likely to take risks.
And in today’s world where it’s more normal to be coupled up, being single indefinitely is certainly seen as more of a risk than being in a relationship (although I’d question whether reality lines up with the perception!).
9) They’re flexible
If you ever meet someone who is single and likes it, you’ll notice that they tend to be pretty flexible people.
As well as being easygoing, they’re also happy-to-go-with-the-flow types of people who don’t mind seeing where life takes them.
And it’s that very same sentiment that could mean they enjoy the single life more; they’re not actively looking for a partner or a relationship to make them happy.
In fact, their flexibility means that being single probably works out for the best; they’re free to hop on a plane and go abroad whenever it takes their fancy, and free to change jobs or living locations without having to check whether it works for their partner too!
10) They’re non-conformists
The final trait of those who stay single and like it is non-conformity.
Let me explain:
The way society is set up, we’re encouraged to couple up pretty much from a young age. Life is set up around marriage and families. Finding “the one”. Romance.
Single people often face unwanted opinions or narrow-minded viewpoints from family and friends who think they’re making a mistake. They’re consistently told that being in a relationship is what’s best for them, even if it isn’t.
So, to resist all of this societal and familial pressure, a person who commits to staying single is most likely a non-conformist.
This is someone who doesn’t give in to pressure, who doesn’t feel the need to base their entire existence on what other people think is “right”.
And good for them!
After all, we should all be free to live a life that makes us happy – whether that be riding solo or shacking up in a relationship!
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