Does it seem like some people have all the luck in the world when it comes to love?
But, what makes them so successful? Why is it that they can find love and keep it while you’re still searching for the one? Is there a secret?
Well, while there’s no “secret” per se, there are actually certain personality traits that people who are successful in love have.
Now, while some people are born with these personality traits, others develop them.
With the goal of helping you find success in love, I’m gonna share these traits with you.
Here we go:
Now, one of the first traits that comes to mind is empathy.
That’s because one of the things that makes a relationship work is the ability of two people to understand each other and relate to each other’s feelings and experiences.
And why’s that important?
Because it leads to better communication and most importantly, a deeper connection between the lovebirds.
And do you know what? Being able to put yourself in your partner’s shoes brings a whole new level of intimacy to a relationship.
2) Communication skills
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: communication is key to a healthy and happy relationship.
I really don’t see how two people can have a successful relationship if they’re unable to convey their needs, opinions, and feelings to each other.
Good communication is all about being able to express yourself effectively, constructively, and always in a respectful manner.
*Here’s a pro tip: It’s always a good idea to use “I” statements to get across what you think, need, or feel and to avoid accusatory remarks which only lead to arguments and hurt feelings.
But that’s not all!
Good communication is also about listening.
That’s right, it’s not all about what you have to say but about actively listening to what your partner has to say. This means asking questions, reacting in an appropriate manner, and validating their feelings.
This is another pillar of a successful relationship.
In order for two people to get close, be intimate, and truly open up to one another, they need to know that they can trust each other.
Trustworthy people are all about being honest and transparent.
They tell the truth and that also means that they don’t lie by omission – i.e. they don’t hide things from their loved ones.
They’re loyal and would never do anything to hurt or betray the people they love.
It certainly can’t hurt to be self-aware.
Let me point out the obvious – it means that a person knows themselves.
- They’re able to identify emotional triggers and therefore manage their emotions. This is especially important when it comes to communication. For example, if someone is sensitive to any kind of criticism and they’re aware of it, they can take a step back, take a deep breath, and respond calmly. The alternative (for anyone who isn’t self-aware) is to get upset and lash out. Not the best way to have a successful relationship.
- They’re able to identify any patterns in their behavior that could be affecting their relationship in a negative way. For example, if someone knows that they have a tendency to withdraw from their partner when they’re stressed, they can actively work on staying present and even sharing their concerns with their partner.
Self-awareness can lead to personal growth: by understanding themselves, people are able to make positive changes that are good for themselves as well as their relationships.
Sounds good, right?
It’s true that you don’t have to be super confident to be in a happy relationship. But I’d be lying if I didn’t say that a lot of people in successful relationships are confident.
One of the reasons is that confident people know their own worth, and that affects how they interact with other people.
But it’s more than that.
It’s an attractive quality, and confident people are seen as appealing and desirable.
And finally, it’s one of the things that contribute to good communication.
You see, when you trust in yourself and your own abilities, you’re more likely to speak out and express your thoughts and feelings openly and honestly.
You’re not scared of being judged and you don’t feel like you have anything to hide from your partner.
6) Sense of humor
Do you know who doesn’t look for a good sense of humor in their partner?
Someone without a sense of humor!
A good sense of humor can help diffuse tense situations and break down barriers. It helps navigate difficult conversations and is a powerful tool for stress relief.
What’s more, when two people laugh together it creates a sense of intimacy that’s not easy to come by.
Now think about it:
Would you rather be with someone with a great sense of humor or someone without one?
A relationship is essentially two different people choosing to be together.
Now, these are two people with different personalities, needs, tastes, and communication styles. Even when two people are compatible and have a lot in common, they’re still gonna have a lot of differences, that’s why patience is crucial.
Patient people take the time to listen to their partners and to understand where they’re coming from. They stay calm during disagreements instead of running off the wagon.
When two people are patient with each other, they’re more likely to be open to compromise and finding a solution to problems.
All in all, patient people are willing to put in the time and effort required to build a strong and healthy relationship.
8) Emotional intelligence
What exactly is emotional intelligence?
Well, it’s the ability to recognize and understand one’s own emotions and the emotions of others.
It’s often the thing that makes or breaks a relationship.
Let me explain.
People with low emotional intelligence often struggle to express themselves and have a hard time communicating, essentially this leads to misunderstandings and even resentment.
Turns out that people who are successful in love often have high levels of emotional intelligence which help them communicate better and navigate complex emotional situations.
If you can’t forgive and forget, it’s going to be damn hard to move forward with your partner.
I mean, how can you have a successful – happy and healthy – relationship if you keep bringing up the past?
While conflict is a natural part of any relationship, forgiveness is essential for that relationship to flourish.
People who are successful in love are able to let go of grudges and move on from past hurts.
When two people respect each other, it means that they value each other’s opinions and feelings.
Respect is important in any kind of relationship – whether it be of a personal or professional nature – because it builds trust and promotes open and honest communication.
In short: a relationship without respect is no relationship worth having.