Look, everyone’s different.
Some guys are into sports and others are into books. Thus, it goes to follow that there’s no ideal, “one-size-fits-all” type of woman.
There are a lot of factors at play when it comes to choosing the perfect wife.
That being said, there are some universal characteristics that a lot of men would agree make a good wife.
In this article, we’re going to take a look at 20 personality traits of a good wife.
Let’s jump right in:
1) She’s caring
A good wife loves her husband and cares about his well-being and happiness.
Unlike in the 50s and 60s, being a caring wife doesn’t mean that she spends all day cleaning the house and making herself pretty for her husband.
It doesn’t mean that as soon as he walks through the door she’ll take his jacket, kiss him, and serve him the perfect five-course meal.
That’s not what makes a good wife. Actually, to me, that sounds more like a servant than a spouse.
Women today are independent and need to be treated as equals. They also have careers and that means that household chores should be shared.
So how does she show her husband that she cares?
- No matter how busy she is, no matter how chaotic her day is, or how exhausted she feels, she always makes time to check in with her man, to find out how his day went, and how he’s doing.She knows how important quality time is for a happy and healthy relationship.
- And when he has a problem at work, she’s there to offer a sympathetic ear as well as her advice and emotional support.
- She makes an effort to learn about his interests and hobbies and is ready to join in if that’s what he wants.
- She takes care of him when he’s sick.The truth is that women are a lot tougher when it comes to illness. When a woman is sick, she’ll still go to work, clean the house, cook, go shopping, and take care of the kids.But when a guy is sick, he’ll stay in bed, unable to do anything. It’s like he’s dying every time he has the flu! (Both my husband and my father are like that.)
So, even if she’s sick herself, a good wife can be counted upon to nurse her man back to health.
2) She’s compassionate
A good wife is a good human being.
That means she’s someone with an endless supply of empathy and kindness.
So, no matter what’s going on with her husband, she’s always able to put herself in his shoes and see things from his perspective.
And do you know what?
She never passes judgment. She knows that no one is perfect.
She accepts her husband with all his flaws. And when he’s struggling or going through a difficult phase, she stands by him.
In short: a good and compassionate wife is a source of love and comfort to her husband.
3) She’s selfless
And that means that she puts his needs before hers.
For example, if his dream is to get his Master’s degree and run his own business one day, then she’ll take on extra jobs in order to support him through his studies.
And it’s not always easy.
Sometimes it means putting her own dreams aside – whether they be starting a family, changing careers, or even traveling the world.
But her husband’s happiness means the world to her and she’ll do anything to help him achieve his goals.
4) She has good communication skills
Here’s the thing: Unlike some women, a good wife doesn’t expect her husband to read her mind.
If she has something that she wants to say, she’ll come right out and say it.
- If she’s unhappy, she’ll let him know instead of giving him the silent treatment.
- If she’s angry, she’ll tell him what he did wrong instead of being passive-aggressive.
- If there’s something she needs, she’ll be sure to let him know instead of hoping he’ll guess.
But that’s not all.
When it comes to arguments, she’s eager to resolve them as quickly and painlessly as possible. She doesn’t like tears, drama, and long drawn-out fights. This is real life, not a telenovela!
She’s all about finding a resolution, which means actively listening to what he has to say and trying to understand his side of the story.
And finally, she knows the importance of compromise when it comes to making a marriage work.
5) She’s honest
With her husband, with the world, and with herself.
If you ask me, there’s nothing worse than someone who is fake and two-faced.
I know several such people and it drives me crazy just trying to figure out what’s actually going on behind their fake smiles. I wish they’d just show their true selves, even if that means showing me how much they dislike me – I can take it.
The good news is that you don’t have to worry about that with a good wife because she doesn’t pretend to be someone she’s not for other people’s benefit.
She’s not the type of person to have an ulterior motive and she hates to lie.
Basically, what you see is what you get. And if you don’t like it, that’s your problem.
Sounds good right?
6) She’s loyal
She’s committed to her husband and their marriage and that means that she makes their relationship a priority.
And another thing, she’s faithful – both emotionally and physically. She didn’t decide to get married so she can flirt with other men, let alone cheat.
And if the whole world were to turn against her husband, she’d remain devoted and stand by him through thick and thin – in sickness and in health, for better and for worse.
7) She can always be counted on
Well, of course, she’s reliable, she’s a good wife after all.
That means when she says she’ll do something, you can bet anything that she’ll keep her word.
For example, if she says she’ll call the plumber, do the taxes, or get some other important errand done – there’s no need to worry that she’ll forget.
And the best part?
She’s never late and she never flakes at the last minute (don’t you just hate it when people do that?)
She’s basically the first person people call when they need help because they know she can be counted on.
8) She’s trustworthy
There’s just something about her that makes people feel comfortable in her presence. They know they can really open up to her and that whatever she learns will never cross her lips.
I guess she just radiates goodness.
What’s more, she really hates gossip. In fact, when she’s surrounded by other people gossiping, she’ll try to change the subject or she’ll find a pretense to leave.
Trustworthiness is what makes a good wife, a good friend, and a good person.
9) She’s trusting
And that’s just as important as being trustworthy!
You see, a good wife is emotionally mature and secure in her relationship.
She doesn’t check her husband’s phone when he’s not looking. She doesn’t stop him from going out with his friends or ask him to account for every minute he was away from her.
She trusts that he will be as loyal and faithful to her as she is to him, after all, if they can’t trust each other, what good is their relationship?
In other words, a good marriage is based on trust.
10) She’s very patient
They weren’t kidding when they said that patience is a virtue.
Because here’s the thing: Some husbands require a lot of patience.
- Maybe they’re trying to overcome an addiction but they keep slipping. It’s not for them, nor the people around them. That’s why they’re lucky to have such a patient wife.
- Maybe they’re unable to find a job. It’s tough out there at the moment. Plus, getting fired can really mess with a guy’s self-esteem, trust me, I know.
- And some guys struggle with depression. And let me tell you, it’s not easy living with someone whose emotions are all over the place.
Whatever the case, a good wife doesn’t leave. She doesn’t get frustrated, she doesn’t lash out, and she doesn’t give up.
She’s there for her man, no matter how long it takes for him to get his act together.
11) She’s understanding
Patience and understanding go hand in hand.
A good wife knows when her husband is going through a hard time. And as I mentioned before, she doesn’t judge. She really tries to see things from his perspective.
- If he needs some space, she’ll give it to him.
- If he needs someone to talk to, she’s there for him.
Her compassionate nature means that she’s an understanding person and when he’s in a bad mood because of work or something that has nothing to do with her, she doesn’t take it personally.
It would really take something extreme to make her mad. I guess that’s why she’s…
12) She’s forgiving
Look, nobody is perfect and a good wife knows that.
She doesn’t like to hold a grudge when she knows the other person is truly sorry.
She’s eager to forgive and forget because life is too short to stay mad at someone for too long.
Plus, feelings of anger and resentment are very negative and unhealthy for the person feeling them. That’s why it’s in everyone’s best interest to forgive transgressions and move on with their lives.
Don’t you agree?
But that doesn’t mean that you should abuse her forgiving nature. It’s one thing to make a mistake and another one to make it on purpose!
13) She’s flexible and goes with the flow
Flexibility is a good trait to have. It means understanding the impermanent and ever-changing nature of the world.
You see, a good wife is a woman who knows that nothing is set in stone. That’s why when something happens that changes her plans, she doesn’t get too upset. Instead, she adapts.
For example, let’s say she’s been planning a trip with her best friend for the last few weeks. They were supposed to go camping, just them girls.
The day before they’re scheduled to leave, her husband’s mother announces that she’s coming to visit for the weekend.
So, what does she do?
Does she get angry? Does she tell her husband to deal with his mother by himself?
Of course not! She apologizes to her friend and asks her to reschedule so that she can be there to welcome her mother-in-law.
She always makes plans knowing that something can come up to change them and she’s ok with that, she just goes with the flow.
14) She has a good sense of humor
I understand that looks and attraction play an important part when it comes to choosing a partner, especially for men.
But when it comes to choosing someone you’re going to spend the rest of your life with, good looks just aren’t enough.
Why?
Because beauty fades. And if you pick your wife solely based on looks, you’re going to have a very boring life.
That’s why a good wife isn’t just attractive, she’s also fun to be around.
She has a good sense of humor and the ability to make you laugh even when times are tough. And that’s a wonderful thing to have.
So, remember, there’s more to a person than meets the eye.
15) She’s independent
It’s 2023 and a good wife is a modern, independent woman.
She doesn’t depend on her husband for anything.
She has a job. Whatever she needs, she can get herself. And as Miley Cyrus says, she can buy her own flowers.
My point is that a good wife isn’t with her husband because she’s scared of being alone, or because she needs him to provide for her. She’s with him because she chooses to be.
A good marriage is a union between two people who choose to be together because they love each other and enjoy each other’s company.
16) She’s strong and resilient
These are very positive and enviable traits.
Actually, strength and resilience are useful traits for both partners in a relationship. They’re what will help them get through the challenges that come with marriage. Because marriage can be tough at times.
Just like everything else in life, marriage comes with its own obstacles and it takes someone strong and resilient to overcome them and not give up when things get hard.
And when it comes to conflict, strength and resilience enable a good wife to keep her cool so that she can find a way to resolve the problem.
17) She’s open-minded
If you find an open-minded woman to marry, then you’ve hit the jackpot.
- Open-minded people are partners who are receptive to new ideas. They’re always looking to see things from a new perspective and to understand their partner’s point of view. This is very useful when it comes to difficult conversations.
- Their open-minded nature means that they’re more likely to be creative and out-of-the-box thinkers. That means that they’re great at problem-solving.
- And finally, your wife’s open-mindedness might rub off on you. She’ll expose you to new ideas, challenge your convictions, and inspire you to grow and develop as a human being.
Sounds pretty good huh?
18) She respects her husband
Hold on!
I’m not talking about that old-fashioned way of thinking where the husband was like a god to his wife and commanded her respect.
I’m talking about respect between husband and wife.
In my opinion, a good marriage should be a partnership between two consenting adults who respect each other.
That means being there for each other, accepting each other’s opinions, and recognizing and respecting each other’s boundaries.
It also means treating each other as equals – sharing responsibilities, valuing each other’s contributions, and making decisions as a team.
19) She’s a good friend
Remember how I said that a good wife is more than just easy on the eyes?
Think about what marriage is – it’s a partnership.
Under ideal circumstances, marriage is for life. That means that you’re going to grow old together and be together in sickness and in health.
That’s why I think it’s super important that husband and wife should be good friends.
I’m not saying that sexual attraction isn’t important because it is. But there’s a lot more to marriage than sex.
Let me explain:
- A strong friendship between husband and wife can create a deep emotional connection.
- Shared interests mean that you can bond over your love for adventure, cats, or FRP (fantasy role-playing) and create beautiful memories together.
- Being friends with your spouse also means having meaningful conversations together, laughing together, and crying together.
All in all, whether you play scrabble together, or decide to go climb Everest together, being friends with your wife will help you sustain a happy and lasting relationship.
20) She’s supportive and encouraging
Let’s say you’re one of those guys that’s full of crazy ideas.
One minute you want to open a cat cafe, the next you’re thinking of becoming a writer.
A good wife knows that you tend to get carried away, but she doesn’t think you’re crazy. As a matter of fact, she loves your enthusiasm and love for life.
And there you have it, the ultimate checklist of personality traits that make a good wife. The rest are individual choices.