Pearl Nash
We all look for something different when it comes to a romantic partner…
…But there are some traits that we can all agree make someone the best boyfriend!
Simply put, there are traits you should take note of.
If you’re looking to meet someone, these are the top things you should keep an eye out for to ensure you have one of the best boyfriends out there!
1) He makes you laugh
Now, laughter is the best medicine.
There is something laughter does that nothing else comes close to!
Laughter has an amazing way of helping us feel light and joyous.
As if that’s not enough, it helps stress melt away and it gives us a new perspective on situations.
If you can find laughter in a relationship, you’ll have one that’s so full of joy.
This doesn’t mean you won’t have difficult times; it just means that you’ll also have a lot of lighthearted moments too!
When you’re getting to know a guy, think about whether he makes you laugh.
Now, I don’t mean to giggle a little bit… I mean, ask yourself whether you two laugh uncontrollably.
In my experience, the first time I hung out with my now boyfriend, I knew we had something good between us.
I knew this because of how much we laughed. We went for a drink and I literally was on the verge of spitting my drink everywhere because I was in hysterics.
I thought he was so funny, and a year down the line… I still think he is!
In my experience, laughter is magical for a relationship so if you mean a man who makes you laugh crazy amounts, don’t pass it up…
…Instead, pursue them!
2) He’s caring
It goes without saying that someone who’s caring will make a great boyfriend.
You see, care for one another is central to a relationship.
Along with the chemistry and sparks between you two, care is essential to the success of a relationship…
…Especially if you want it to be a long-term relationship.
You see, eventually the sparks from the honeymoon period will start to dwindle a bit.
That’s not to say they will disappear altogether, but you should expect the sparks to fade as time goes on… And for care to be one of the most important things you have.
So what does this mean for you?
Well, when it comes to getting to know someone, look out for the little things that let you know that show they’re caring.
It’s the small things that you should be paying attention to, as much as the big things.
For example, do they remember your favorite coffee order and snacks when they turn up to meet you?
Maybe they bought you surprise tickets to something they knew you’d love.
These are the things I took note of when I met my boyfriend.
For example, he would turn up with my favorite tea when we agreed to hang out.
The little actions of his showed that he was attentive and thoughtful, and ultimately that he cared!
3) He’s ambitious
Ambition is such a great quality in a person…
…It’s a great personality trait that shows someone is going somewhere in life.
It shows that someone wants to do something, and to have a sense of achievement and accomplishment.
Now, having ambition doesn’t have to mean wanting to run for president or build the tallest building in the world.
Instead, it can be wanting to be the best version of yourself and to put out your best work.
In fact, people who want to build the tallest buildings are likely more arrogant than ambitious…
…And it’s likely that they’re more on a mission to prove something to others, more than anything else!
On the other hand, being ambitious means to have a strong desire to achieve something that you’ve set your mind to.
It’s an infectious energy!
I love to surround myself with ambitious friends, and it’s something I love about my boyfriend.
He’s ambitious when it comes to the life he wants to live – and I love that he has a vision for what he wants!
This is definitely a quality you want to look for when it comes to finding a boyfriend.
4) He’s kind
No one wants to date a guy who isn’t kind.
I’m not only talking about how kind he is to you, but how he treats others matters too.
In my experience, you want to ensure that the guy you’ve got your eye on has a good heart.
The best way you can really tell if he does is by spending time with him, and listening to how he talks about others and seeing what it’s like in reality.
If he’s kind to animals, polite to people in shops and there for his friends and family, it signals that he’s got a good heart.
On the other hand, if he’s brash and mean to animals and people, it shows that he’s got some work to do on himself!
What’s more, it’s a sign that he’s definitely not boyfriend material.
5) He is honest
Nothing is better than honesty.
In a world where there are so many liars – who kid themselves into believing the narratives they tell themselves – honesty is so welcomed!
If the man you like is honest, meaning they’re not afraid to tell you who they are and what they’re about, it’s a great trait!
You see, although there are a lot of liars in the world, there are also a lot of people who tell the truth.
For a long time, I gave up hope about finding an honest man who would tell me who they are without pretending to be someone else…
…Until I met my boyfriend, who wasn’t afraid to put his cards on the table.
I personally love that he doesn’t hold back from speaking his truth and telling me about his experiences that have defined him.
If you meet someone like this, take it as a sign that they’re a keeper!
6) He’s consistent
Look out for whether the guy you’re dating is consistent or not, and it will suggest whether they’ll make a good boyfriend or not.
Consistency means that they don’t act one way one minute, then another the next…
…Instead, a consistent person is continuously a certain way.
They’re not hot one minute and cold the next!
What I mean by this is that they don’t go through periods of texting you regularly, before leaving your messages for days.
I once had this experience with a guy and I gave up with him pretty quickly.
You see, I never knew where I stood and how interested he really was.
Some days he would text me loads and other days, he wouldn’t even respond… And it was always without context!
It made me feel pretty anxious and I wasted far too much mental energy on it.
Turns out, he wasn’t that interested after all!
What does this mean for you?
Look for consistency in the early days so you can really start to see what level of commitment someone has…
…And don’t waste your time with someone who doesn’t bother to text you back without an explanation!
7) They have integrity
Integrity is a quality that should be at the forefront of your mind when it comes to looking for a boyfriend.
It means that a person does the things they say they’re going to do.
In other words, they are true to their word and you know what you’re going to get with them.
The reason you want to meet a man with integrity is because it means you’ll be with someone who follows through with the things they talk about.
For instance, if a man with integrity says that they’re going to clean the house that day, they’ll do it!
They won’t just say they’ll do it because it sounds good, yet not do it.
Instead, people with integrity are much easier to build lives with because you know that they’ll follow through with the vision they talk about.
What’s more, I’ve found that people who have integrity are also honest and consistent.
The good news is that all of these qualities tend to go hand-in-hand!
8) He’s supportive
Even if it’s just super early days, be aware of whether the guy you like is supportive.
Does he encourage you to go for things you have your mind set on?
For instance, has he said you should go for the promotion you’ve been thinking about or said “you can do it!” about a fitness challenge.
You see, you definitely want to ensure that the guy you like is truly supportive of you…
…As it means he’ll want to see you grow and flourish, and he won’t hold you back from achieving your dreams.
Simply, two people in a relationship should be able to grow and evolve together.
In my experience, there’s nothing worse than feeling like you need to shrink yourself for another person!
I’ve been there… And this is not what a healthy dynamic looks like.
On the other hand, a supportive partner will create a healthy environment for your relationship through cheering you on.
Now, this isn’t limited to a specific area of your life either!
For example, it could be anything from your work or your fitness goals.
I feel incredibly grateful to be with a partner that champions my work. Having the support of my partner, who asks me what I’m working on and what my goals are, motivates me even more!
9) He’s respectful about your opinions
You’re not going to agree with everything that everyone says all the time!
That’s just a fact…
…And, truth is, wouldn’t it be boring if you did agree with everyone’s opinions?
Now, nothing changes when you’re in a romantic relationship.
You will have different opinions to your partner when it comes to certain topics.
Maybe you’ll agree on some things, yet fundamentally disagree on others.
It’s obviously important that you both share the same values, however there still might be topics that you two just don’t see eye-to-eye on.
In these cases, it’s necessary that the man you’re with respects your opinions… Even if they don’t disagree!
For instance, instead of saying that your opinion is stupid or doesn’t make sense, you want your boyfriend to be able to accept your opinion.
In the early days of getting to know someone, tune into how they respond to your opinion.
If you feel as though they’re not holding space for you and they’re shutting you down because they believe they know better, they’re not for you!
Instead, you want to be with someone who allows you to have your own opinion and they truly respect it.
10) He’s sociable
We’re sociable creatures who thrive off social connection.
Sure, some of us are more social than others but ultimately connection with other people is important for our wellbeing…
…And we should seek it out.
So, it’s a great sign if a guy you like is sociable.
It means that a portion of your relationship will be spent interacting with other people and enjoying the beauty of connecting with people!
Before I met my current boyfriend, being sociable was one of the traits at the top of my list as I’d been in a relationship with someone who didn’t have many friends and I knew how isolating it can be.
My ex used to turn down party invitations and we’d never end up doing things with a group of people.
Now, I’m so pleased that I’m with someone who’s sociable… It means we can have a social life together!
11) He’s patient
If a guy has patience, you’re on to a good thing!
Patience means giving you the time you need…
…And being understanding of what it is you need and why.
This could play out in so many situations, such as the time it takes you to work on something or the time you need to make a decision.
I couldn’t think of anything worse than being with someone who was impatient and trying to rush me all the time.
You see, relationships take understanding and patience is a part of that!
