15 personality traits in men that spell relationship disaster 

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None of us want to waste time on Mr. Wrong. We’ve all got hopes of one day finding the right one, a guy who will cherish and love us. 

But there’s just one problem…

In our search, it’s easy to become misguided. Even toxic guys can put on a great charm, leading us down a path of love and inevitably, heartbreak. 

So with that in mind, let’s look at potential red flags. Here are 15 personality traits in men that spell relationship disaster: 

1) The constant critic

The constant critic will come across as intellectual and opinionated at the start – you may be initially drawn to his wit and sarcasm.

But be warned, ladies, he’ll quickly turn on you. 

I learned this the hard way. 

One day he’s harshly judging X Factor contestants, the next he’s questioning your choice of clothing, why you’re pursuing your dream job, and your mom’s haircut. 

With him, date night is more like debate night. 

But jokes aside, being in a relationship with this type of guy will do no favors for your self-esteem. My advice is to stay well clear. 

2) Mr. Always Right

Next up we have the guy who thinks his word is like the word of God. 

He will painstakingly argue his point, even if everyone else in the room knows he’s wrong. Even if he knows he’s wrong. 

This type of guy in a relationship will likely drive you crazy – his “my way or the highway” approach will make it incredibly hard to compromise, share opinions and engage in healthy conflict. 

3) The chronic deceiver

Ever met a guy who goes out of his way to make sh*t up? 

Sounds like you’ve met the chronic deceiver. 

This type of guy acts like he’s allergic to honesty. 

You never know where you stand with him because all his stories are heavily exaggerated and embellished. 

Get into a relationship with him and you’ll forever be questioning whether you can trust him or not

Ultimately, ladies, if he can lie about shoe size, there’s reason to believe he’ll lie about other women, finances, and much more. 

4) The forever flirt

Another personality trait that spells relationship disaster in men is if his flirt mode is constantly switched to “on”. 

Sure, some people are more extroverted and chatty than others. This can be perceived as flirting when in reality, they’re just being friendly. 

But as a woman, you can tell the difference. Listen to that intuition of yours. 

One thing is being polite to the cute waitress, another is stopping short of asking her on a date. 

Trust me, if you want a peaceful, committed relationship, stay away from the forever flirt. 

5) The unapologetic egotist

The star of the show, the hero of his own epic saga. This specific trait is all about having a massive ego – so big there’s no room for anyone else to fit in. 

So it’s no surprise that when it comes to love, the unapologetic egotist is a nightmare. 

He only has love for himself – any woman that gives him a chance will quickly realize she’ll always come second place in his eyes. 

Spend enough time with a guy like this, and you’ll quickly feel unappreciated and unvalued

6) Mr. Communication Dodger

Communication is the backbone of any healthy, successful relationship

So getting into one with Mr. Communication Dodger is like swimming against the current. 

No matter how much you try to get him to open up, he refuses. 

He’ll avoid uncomfortable conversations and sweep issues under the rug. Give it enough time and the relationship will implode as those hidden-away problems pile up. 

7) The emotional ghost

This guy vanishes faster than Houdini when emotions come into play. 

He keeps his feelings under tight wrap – in a relationship with him, you’ll be waiting years to catch a glimpse of what’s going on under the surface. 

But here’s the thing – for a relationship to work, both need to be open and trusting with their emotions. 

Otherwise, you’ll always feel like there’s something missing…a lack of depth and connection

8) The perennial procrastinator

Procrastination doesn’t seem like the end of the world, right? 

Wrong. If everyone procrastinated, we wouldn’t have buildings, trains, democracy, and all the other things that make life what it is today. 

And the same goes for relationships. A guy who forever throws things into the “later” pile will never get off his backside and fight for your relationship.

When issues crop up, he’ll happily ignore them for as long as possible. Remember ladies, it’s not your job to kick his butt into action – you want a partner, not a project! 

9) Mr. Unpredictably Volatile

The next personality trait to look out for if you want to avoid a relationship trainwreck is the guy who can’t control his emotions. 

One minute he’s fine and dandy, the next he’s screaming bloody murder and you have no idea why. 

Being in a relationship with a guy like this will be terrible for your mental and emotional health. You’ll end up walking on eggshells, and that’s no way to live. 

10) The forever bachelor

Aka – afraid of commitment. If you meet a guy like this, don’t think you’ll be the one to change him. It’s likely that many women before have tried and failed. 

This trait is pretty toxic because the forever bachelor will act like he’s up for a serious relationship…until things actually get serious. 

By that point, you’re falling in love and wedding dress shopping, while he’s planning his escape. 

My advice?

Leave guys like this to have fun. Focus on men who know what they want and aren’t afraid to commit. 

11) The green-eyed monster

Jealousy, in moderation, is pretty normal in relationships. 

But the green-eyed monster takes it to the next level. He’ll be the type to check your phone while you sleep (creepy) and question every interaction you have with the opposite sex. 

I’m gonna be straight up – it’s not sexy. It’s not a sign that he loves you. 

It actually comes from a place of insecurity, and it’s the perfect recipe for relationship disaster. 

12) Mr. No Compromise

Imagine having someone in your life who is never willing to meet you halfway. 

Imagine feeling nervous every time you want to do something but you’re afraid of their reaction.

This is what a relationship with Mr. No Compromise is like. 

He’ll always put his needs before yours, and in time, you’ll grow to resent him. Ultimately, this behavior shows a lack of consideration and respect for you and the relationship. 

13) The habitual taker

In other words, the user and abuser. 

In a healthy relationship, it should be about give and take. Both people should feel valued and appreciated. Both should compromise for the other. 

But with the habitual taker, it’s all about his gain. From taking your time to using your money or possessions, he’ll slowly take over. 

A relationship with a guy who has this selfish trait will leave you feeling used and exploited. 

14) The relentless scorekeeper

Next up we have the grudge keeper, a trait to be well-avoided. 

This guy will bring up arguments from 6 months ago. He’ll never let a mistake slide. And what’s worse, he’ll use them as weapons against you. 

He doesn’t believe in forgiving and forgetting. With a mindset like this, it’s incredibly hard to build a fulfilling, happy relationship. 

15) Mr. Never Content 

And finally, we finish with the guy who’s never happy. 

His toxic trait is always looking for issues where there are none. He’s unappreciative. 

Put it this way…a guy like this could have the best woman by his side and he’d still find reason to complain

So, it goes without saying, stay away from Mr. Never Content. 


Now, we’ve covered 15 personality traits in men that spell relationship disaster. It’s a long list but don’t worry – there are still plenty of great men out there who have great qualities about them. 

And when it comes to getting into a relationship, it’s much better to wait to find someone who has the emotional maturity and stability to treat you right! 

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Kiran Athar

Kiran is a freelance writer with a degree in multimedia journalism. She enjoys exploring spirituality, psychology, and love in her writing. As she continues blazing ahead on her journey of self-discovery, she hopes to help her readers do the same. She thrives on building a sense of community and bridging the gaps between people. You can reach out to Kiran on Twitter - @KiranAthar1.

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