16 personality traits that define a strong and independent woman

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Growing up, I was lucky enough to be surrounded by several strong, confident women who pretty much bossed at life!

Now, some would say that certain personality traits contribute to being naturally confident, but if there’s one thing I’ve learned, these women didn’t come out of the womb standing tall and strong.

It took a lot of self-development and persistence, but it shows that true confidence is attainable for any woman!

So, here are the ultimate 16 personality traits of a confident woman:

1. She has boundaries stronger than steel

When it comes to her values, goals, and personal preferences, a confident woman doesn’t have a problem saying NO to things that don’t sit right with her.

She sets healthy boundaries so that people around her know what she’ll tolerate, and what she won’t.

She protects her energy and prioritizes her well-being. But not only that – she’s got self-respect.

Here’s the thing ladies: without self-respect, it’s hard to have real genuine confidence within yourself. Get healthy boundaries in place and watch the magic happen!

2. She knows what she wants and she goes for it

Another personality trait of a confident woman is knowing what she wants, and doing everything in her power to go get it!

By setting small, achievable goals, she slowly works her way up to her version of success.

But don’t get me wrong – being confident isn’t just about going for the highest-paid CEO position or living a wealthy lifestyle.

It’s about knowing what you’re passionate about, whether it be teaching yoga or setting up a small online business. Success is subjective.

The most important thing is recognizing what you want for your future, and working hard to get there!

3. She’s unapologetically herself – she’s authentic!

When it comes to a confident woman, she knows who she is and she’s not afraid of showing the world her true colors!

She’s authentic. Forget the crowd. This woman does her own thing.

The truth is…

Being authentic actually increases confidence. When you suppress your nature, values, and desires, you start to doubt yourself.

But when you make conscious choices and decisions based on what really matters to you?

You guessed it…your confidence soars!

4. She pushes her boundaries and laughs in the face of fear

But here’s the thing – being authentic doesn’t always come easy. It can be hard to say, “This is me, irrespective of what you or society thinks I should be.”

A confident woman has to do this day in and day out until it becomes second nature. The same goes for fighting her fears and pushing her boundaries.

When you do something that scares you and you make it to the other side, your confidence increases.

That’s why you’ll see confident women taking on challenges and aiming high, even if it means confronting their fears head-on!

5. She treats her body and mind with the respect they deserve

Now, even though a confident woman pushes herself, she also knows when to take a break.

To her, her body and mind are her temples. She:

  • Rests when needed
  • Looks after her mental health and energy levels
  • Eats, sleeps, and drinks enough water
  • Practices self-care daily

But most importantly, she prioritizes her well-being. Let’s be honest, you can’t be the boss of your life if you’re not feeling strong and capable on the inside!

6. She’s comfortable in her own company

Another personality trait of a confident woman is being comfortable alone.

She doesn’t crave the company of other people 24/7. A part of being authentic is understanding herself, and she regularly spends time solo so she can strengthen this inner relationship!

7. She’s self-aware and embraces her flaws

Guess what all that time alone does?

It allows her to reflect on her flaws, accept and embrace them, and of course, work on them.

She’s self-aware and knows her limitations. She doesn’t hide her weaknesses – true confidence comes from being vulnerable and showing your true self to the world.

8. Her emotions don’t own her – she owns them

By being in control of her emotions, a confident woman doesn’t make emotionally led decisions.

Instead, she recognizes her feelings as they flow but takes her time to think rationally.

She’s cool, calm and collected.

9. She cares more about respect than attention

Many women make the mistake of craving attention – that’s why they dress or act a certain way, even if they don’t feel comfortable doing so.

But a confident woman doesn’t care about that; she’s all about the R.E.S.P.E.C.T!

She uses her personality and determination to earn people’s respect because respect lasts much longer than attention!

10. She supports and uplifts other women

A true sign of a confident woman is her ability to support and lift other women up.

She’s not interested in competing…the only competition she has is with herself!

What she really wants is to see other women succeed and feel confident in their own skin. She knows that by lighting their candles, her own does not dim.

11. She’s not easily swayed by other people’s opinions

But to be so positive around others, she needs to have thick skin.

Look, we women are told we’re too fat, too thin. Too tall, too short. Too opinionated, too quiet.

We can’t win!

And a confident woman knows this, so she doesn’t give the negative comments a second thought.

She stands tall and strong even when the world seems against her.

12. She’s as adaptable as they get

Have you ever wondered how confident women seem to get further in life?

A lot of it comes down to having an adaptable personality. She can readjust her expectations, change the plan, and go with the flow when necessary.

By being this flexible, she opens herself up to more opportunities. And with each new opportunity comes increased confidence levels!

13. She surrounds herself with good company

Earlier, I mentioned that confident women lift up those around them. But they’re also pretty selective in who they spend their time with.

Put it this way:

If you hang out with people who have no aspirations, and no passion in life, you may well end up like them.

But if you surround yourself with positive people who aim high in life and are passionate, this will rub off on you…

The company you keep will hold a lot of influence over you, so choose wisely!

14. She takes responsibility for herself and her actions

When you quit blaming others and take responsibility for your actions and decisions, you start to take control of your life.

This is another key personality trait of a confident woman. She makes sure she’s fully in control.

And when things go wrong?

She not only takes responsibility – she learns from it and comes back stronger!

15. She always believes in herself – no setback is too big to overcome!

Continuing from the last point, by taking responsibility for herself, a confident woman knows that she can overcome anything that’s thrown her way.

In fact, she sees setbacks as opportunities for growth.

This type of confidence doesn’t need to be shouted out about or posted all over social media. It’s a quiet type of confidence that a woman draws upon when she needs it.

After all, she knows she can depend on herself!

16. She doesn’t conform to the crowds, she creates her reality

And finally, the most important personality trait of a confident woman is her inability to follow the crowd.

As the saying goes:

“The person who follows the crowd will usually go no further than the crowd. The person who walks alone is likely to find himself in places no one has ever seen before.”

A confident woman carves her own reality with sheer determination and perseverance. She doesn’t conform to the norms, she creates a life worth living for HER.

By now, you should have a good idea of what makes a woman who exudes confidence…very little is to do with her appearance. It’s all about her personality and commitment to herself.

Chances are, you’ve got a few of these covered already, so why not keep working on yourself until you too are a badass confident woman, bossing at life?

From one woman to another – you’ve got this!

Kiran Athar

Kiran is a freelance writer with a degree in multimedia journalism. She enjoys exploring spirituality, psychology, and love in her writing. As she continues blazing ahead on her journey of self-discovery, she hopes to help her readers do the same. She thrives on building a sense of community and bridging the gaps between people. You can reach out to Kiran on Twitter: @KiranAthar1

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