Jelena Dincic
Are you thinking about having a baby? Or did you just find out that you’re pregnant?
If you’re worried about what kind of mom you’ll make, you are not alone. It’s only natural to feel a bit anxious, after all, becoming a mom is a pretty huge deal!
In this article, we’re going to look at 25 personality traits of the best moms to see where you’re at.
Let’s get started:
1. Their love is unconditional
A mother’s love for her child is unconditional.
Once you hold that little human in your arms for the first time and stare into their eyes – that’s it, you’ll be done for – it’s love for life.
There’s literally nothing anyone could say or do that would take your love away. A mother’s love is forever.
Of course, if you haven’t had kids yet, it may be hard to imagine – especially if you find other people’s loud and snotty kids annoying.
But trust me, when you have your own child, you’ll feel a love you’ve never felt before.
2. They’re patient
I mean, imagine dealing with a toddler: they need your full attention ALL THE TIME.
They’ve got stories to tell and questions to ask, and a lot of the time you don’t even understand what they’re trying to say.
You may be tempted to shout, “CAN YOU PLEASE JUST GIVE MOMMY A MINUTE TO HERSELF!”
But of course, you won’t, because the best moms are patient.
3. They explain things to their children
Unfortunately, people don’t always take the time to explain things to their children and I often hear the phrase, “because I said so”.
I have this friend who’s a single mom with two young boys, who works 10-12 hours a day, and yet I’ve never heard her raise her voice at her boys.
She always takes the time to explain things to them – like why they should play nice and not hit each other, why they shouldn’t tease other children, or why they should share their toys.
That’s what makes an amazing mom.
4. They try to understand things from their child’s point of view
And here’s another thing: a great mom needs to be able to remember what it’s like to be a kid – afraid of the dark and of monsters under the bed.
So if her child wants to sleep in her bed because they’re afraid of the dark, she doesn’t just get annoyed and tell them to go back to bed.
Instead, she goes with them to their room, reads to them until they fall asleep, and leaves the night light on.
Monsters may seem silly to adults but they can be pretty scary to kids and the best mom knows that.
5. They make their child their priority
Moms have to make sacrifices for their kids. This means that they may have to give up some stuff, especially in the first few years.
It’s no longer about what they want or need, it’s about what their child needs.
They’ll sacrifice their social life, their sleep, and even their lifestyle. They can’t buy themselves new shoes just because they’re pretty – their kid needs everything from diapers and formula to an education.
6. They’re good at setting boundaries
It may be hard but in those first few years a good mom knows that she needs to set boundaries, otherwise, her kid will walk all over her.
She needs to make it clear that she is the parent and they’re the child.
There’ll be plenty of time for them to be friends when the child grows up.
7. They’re fun
The best moms are fun:
- They’ll play dress up with you
- Take you to amusement parks
- Build forts with you in the living room
- Tickle you until you agree to clean your room
- Bake you a cake for no other reason than it’s Sunday-Fun Day
8. They don’t freak out easily
When you have kids, you’re in for one long rollercoaster.
So much stuff will happen, and you need to stay calm.
A great mom can’t freak out every time her kid falls down and scrapes their knee. And she knows that sometimes, things get broken. But she has to keep her cool in order to: A) react appropriately and B) not go crazy.
In other words, the best moms are composed and have their sh** together.
9. They’re prepared for two years of no sleep and lots of vomit and poop
I mean of course it depends on the baby, but some babies are colicky and keep their parents up all night with their crying.
And don’t get me started on the vomit and poop. You’ll keep asking yourself how so much can come out of someone so little!
But a great mom can handle it because having a child is the most rewarding feeling.
10. They make time for their kid
The best mom always makes time for her child.
Even when they’re back at work and their kid is in school and everyone is busy, they make sure they set time aside each day to spend together.
Whether it’s helping with homework assignments, making dinner together, building with Legos, or even just watching cartoons, Mom is always present.
11. They’re strong and resilient
They sure are made of some strong stuff. They’ve got to be.
I mean, there’s no end to what a kid will put their mother through.
From having her worry about them when they’re sick to testing her patience and plain out rebelling against her authority, being a mom is tough. That’s why the best moms are strong and resilient.
12. They’re forgiving
And they’re also forgiving.
And it may not always be easy to forgive, I mean, just remember yourself as a teenager. See what I mean? But your mom forgave you.
And you know what else? They also have to forgive themselves.
Because even the best moms aren’t perfect and they’re bound to make a mistake from time to time.
That’s why they need to know how to forgive themselves and move on.
13. They’re a source of comfort
No matter how old you are, if you have a great mom, she’s still a source of comfort to you.
In fact, I often call my mom when I’m feeling down and she knows just the right thing to say to make me feel better.
14. They’re almost superhuman
I honestly don’t know how they do it all.
They wake up when everyone is asleep to get some exercise.
Then they do the laundry and make breakfast for everyone.
They get their kids ready for school, drop them off, go to work, go grocery shopping, pick up their kids, help them with their homework, clean the house, make dinner… I’m tired of just writing all this down.
They’re basically supermoms.
15. They’re not clingy
The best moms know that even though they worry and feel like they should keep constant watch over their kids, they need to fight the urge to be clingy.
They know that it’s in the best interest of the child to learn to socialize with other kids and to learn how to be away from mommy.
16. They’re encouraging and supportive
It may not always be easy for a mom to understand their child’s life choices and decisions, but they encourage and support them anyway because that’s their job!
17. They’re excellent problem solvers
And do you know what else?
The best moms have a knack for finding practical solutions to even the most challenging problems.
Whether it’s dealing with a child’s temper tantrum or coming up with a Halloween costume at the last minute, supermoms have creative solutions for almost everything.
18. They’re flexible
It’s not easy to make plans when you have kids – especially when they’re little.
A great mom knows that even though she’s made plans with a friend to take the kids to the zoo on Saturday, they may end up staying at home because her kid is running a fever, because they suddenly hate the zoo, or because it’s raining cats and dogs and now she has to think of an alternate plan (good thing she’s a good problem solver!)
19. They’re willing to put their needs last
Maybe she feels like reading a book or taking a bath, or maybe she wants to go to the cinema with her friends.
But if her kid needs her around, a great mom will put her needs and wishes aside and tend to her child.
20. They’re not afraid to get their hands dirty
Remember all the diapers and poop and vomit?
Well, there’s also food flying across the kitchen, mud, and dirt… and bugs and who knows what else. But that’s ok, the best mom isn’t afraid to get her hands dirty.
In fact, she’ll go looking for worms in the garden with her kid.
21. They’re self-aware
Sometimes moms get tired and they just need a time-out.
And while they’re good at recognizing their children’s needs, they also know when to ask for help.
They know that they need to take care of themselves in order to be able to take care of their child.
22. They’re intuitive
How is it that moms always know when something is up?
Whether their kid is up to no good, feeling sick, or being bullied at school – moms have like this amazing radar that picks up on these things.
They’re so intuitive that it’s scary sometimes. I can never keep anything from my mom, and I’m no kid!
23. They’re good listeners
A big part of the job is listening to your child.
A great mom knows not to judge or criticize. She’s there to provide comfort and help find a solution. She’s there to offer words of encouragement and share her wisdom.
That’s why I still call my mom up when I need someone to talk to.
24. They’re resourceful
They can make something out of nothing!
Whatever their child needs, they’ll find a way to get it.
If their kid wants a superhero costume that they can’t afford, they’ll spend nights learning how to sew so that they don’t disappoint their child.
25. They’re consistent
Finally, and this is very important for a child’s development, the best moms are consistent.
- They’re consistent in providing comfort and support.
- They’re consistent when it comes to setting boundaries and providing discipline.
- They’re consistent in their dedication.
- And last, but not least, they’re consistent in their love.
Do you have the traits I listed above? If you don’t, don’t worry!
Some of the things I listed will come naturally and others you’ll have to learn as you go along.
There’s no reason why you can’t become an amazing mom!
