People who instantly gain respect wherever they go usually display these 6 behaviors

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Do you crave more respect from others?

Whether it’s in social situations, the office, or even with your partner, you have to remember one thing.

Respect is earned, not given.

This means you’re going to have to pull your socks up and work for it.

How? (I hear you ask!)

Check out these six behaviors displayed by people who instantly gain respect wherever they go.

1) Strong communication (speaking and listening)

Let’s be clear.

Mumbling into your chest or constantly hesitating while in the middle of a story isn’t going to cut it.

It’ll be a real struggle for others to follow along and they’ll probably become bored of your ramblings.

This may come across as disrespectful, but you’re not helping yourself here.

Remember, you must earn respect.

So, speak with intent. Articulate and stick to your point. While you speak, monitor your audience for feedback. Regularly check in with sentences like: “Do you know what I mean?” or “Are you following me?” To ensure you’re not losing them.

And listening is just as important (if not more so).

You need to focus and pay attention to what people are saying through active listening.

This means eye contact, positive feedback, and asking relevant questions to show you’re engaged. In other words, listening on purpose.

Let me share a little secret with you.

Others will remember you more if you hear them out (rather than firehosing them with nonstop chat).

It’s an easy way to earn respect.

Because at the end of the day, everyone wants to be heard.

2) Confidence

This is a great way to earn respect from others, as long as you remember a couple of caveats.

It has to be genuine confidence.

Otherwise, you can come across as arrogant or obnoxious.

For example, if you’re in a professional environment, you need to actually have the skills and experience to back up what you’re saying.

You also need to be respectful to others.

Remember, being confident doesn’t mean bulldozing your way through life.

You need to hear alternative opinions and be strong enough to take on constructive criticism.

Confidence is scientifically proven to be highly effective at influencing, persuading, and (you guessed it) earning respect from others.

It’s a superpower.

A recent study showed that we tend to respect the opinions of confident people ahead of our own personal experience or even what the majority believes.

3) Positivity (and humor)

Nobody wants to be around a negative nelly.

So if you constantly look at the glass half empty, you probably won’t earn much respect from your peers.

Just think about it.

Would you want to be around someone that constantly moans, complains, or argues? It can be a real strain.

Instead, we want positive energy and humor.

There’s even science behind it.

The physical act of laughing has been proven to actually relieve stress and soothe tension.

It can even improve your immune system, relieve pain, and boost your mood.

No wonder we want to be around (and respect) charming, witty, and hilarious personalities!

But remember this.

Refrain from making others the butt of a joke! You want to be laughing with them, not at them. Friendly banter is fine, but don’t push it too far otherwise your risk becoming a toxic bully.

Simply put – learn to read the room.

4) Honesty and loyalty

A big mistake people often make is trying to force things too hard.

In other words, they embellish stories or straight up lie about stuff to impress their mates.

This stinks of desperation and is the kind of behavior found in people with low self-esteem.

Ironically, this behavior often results in the exact opposite happening. When the word gets out, they’ll find themselves in a situation where nobody respects them.

So always maintain a level of honesty, integrity, and loyalty.

Over time, people will identify you as trustworthy (and totally respect you for it).

I’m talking about being trusted with sensitive information, sticking to your word, being supportive to your friends, and having a good moral compass.

Being able to 100% trust someone is a rare thing in life.

If you can be that stand-up guy or gal, you’ll be showered with respect from all directions.

5) Humility

Ever heard of the phrase: “Pride comes before a fall?”

It’s so true.

And besides, nobody likes a smart alec.

You probably know someone like this (I know I do).

Sure, they might always be right (and have extremely high intelligence), but are they fun to be around? Do you respect them?

Sometimes people are so smug, that you almost want them to fail! (Anything to put them in their place).

Don’t be this person.

Even if you are right, it’s better to be humble and modest than rub it in someones face.

When it comes to earning respect, it’s not always about being right or wrong. Deep down they’ll realize you called it correctly, there’s no need to be a bad winner.

People that instantly gain respect wherever they go take their victories modestly and acknowledge their mistakes.

This leads nicely to our final point.

6) Empathy

When you boil it down, empathy pretty much sums it up.

And whether you’re religious or not, the bible has a perfect quote that hits hard (Luke 6:31): “Do unto others as you would like them to do to you.”

Because at the end of the day, if you treat others with respect, chances are, they’ll reciprocate the sentiment right back at you.

Give it a try.

Get that first round of drinks in, go out of your way to help a friend, or share your precious time with a family member.

Those that ‘get it’ will return the favor. They’ll proactively come looking for you in that bar to get you that drink!

That’s respect right there.

And if they don’t? Well, now you know. And maybe they aren’t the type of friend you need.

Leila El-Dean

Leila is a passionate writer with a background in photography and art. She has over ten years of experience in branding, marketing, and building websites. She loves travelling and has lived in several countries, including Thailand, Malaysia, Spain, and Malta. When she’s not writing (or ogling cats), Leila loves trying new food and drinking copious amounts of Earl Grey tea.

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