People who have transcended fear-based conditioning usually display these 12 behaviors

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Fear-based conditioning is simple:

Do X or else you’ll be punished with Y!

It comes in many forms and unfortunately this type of conditioning underlies many societal models, institutions and family structures.  

A common example is in the public education system where you’re told “study hard and get to a good college so you can get a good job and be a success!” 

If not? “You’ll fail and end up lost in life, likely homeless and addicted to drugs!”


Well…what if you’re a person who’s outgrown fear-based conditioning and no longer finds it convincing (if ever)?

What are you like?

1) Fear-based formulae don’t work on you

The first key is that fear-based formulae just don’t work on you. 

“Find a partner soon or your life will be wasted…”

“Earn more money or you’ll be a failure…”

These fear-based formulae just don’t work to control your life. 

You’ve freed your mind from any prison it used to be in and you’re determined to act based on your own judgments and decisions, not the copy-paste code of somebody else.

2) The meaning of success is complex for you

What does it mean to succeed?

Many socially-conditioned and fear-based ideologies give us their answer:

To be rich…

To be “happy”…

To be “free of negative emotions…”

But your own path to success looks a little different. 

If you’re on the edge of a breakthrough and you know that the old way of doing things and seeing the world just isn’t working for you, I highly recommend this free masterclass with the world renowned shaman Rudá Iandê.

Rudá talks about his own journey to defining success and happiness for himself and overcoming fear-based conditioning in all its forms (which sometimes try to control us from the places we least expect!)

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3) Being vulnerable and open is normal for you

In a world where being open and vulnerable is often seen as weak or “oversensitive,” you don’t care. 

You’re willing to admit your faults and admit your fears. 

You’re not trying to live up to any ideal image or win a popularity contest in life. In fact, being disliked by the right people kind of proves you’re doing something right…

You don’t need everyone to understand you or think you’re ideal. You’re just trying to live life without being a rat in a maze. 

4) Selectivity in dating is just the way you roll

You are selective in who you date and that’s just the way it is. 

Being told you’re “picky” or should settle for somebody just has no effect on you. 

If you’re in a relationship it’s because you want to be with your partner and are genuinely growing and learning in the relationship. 

If you’re single it’s because you haven’t met somebody you want to be with yet or it hasn’t worked out yet in your favor. You’re not going to be anybody else’s consolation prize nor ask anyone to be yours. 

That’s just basic respect if you ask me. And you see it the same way: fear of being alone won’t control your life. 

5) Having low expectations and high hopes

You have low expectations but high hopes, meaning you wish for incredible things and work towards them but you don’t sit with your hand out. 

In fact, you don’t have any sense of entitlement at all. 

You know that the lie behind fear-based conditioning is a corrosive and insane claim:

That if you do what you’re told life will work out. That life will be better and less tragic if you just try to avoid huge risks or stepping out of line. 

The truth, quite ironically, is often the opposite. In fact, doing what you’re told too much can literally get you killed

6) There is no exclusivity or fairness in suffering and pain 

Whether or not you’re religious or spiritual, you don’t believe in a tit-for-tat spirituality. 

If you do believe in karma, you understand that the true Buddhist conception of karma is actually not about “good people have good things happen to them.”

Kindergarten moral delusions have no place in your head. You know that good people suffer unfairly in many situations and vice versa. 

The best reward for being a decent person is to be a decent person. 

You get that and try your best to live it, rather than to act out of fear of being a bad person, or at least what some person, group or ideology claims is a bad person. 

7) Accepting fear as a valid emotion rather than ‘bad’

The thing about those who’ve overcome fear-based conditioning is that it doesn’t mean they’ve overcome fear. 

In fact, if you’re one of those who’s no longer in the fear-based system, it’s because you have a healthy relationship with your fear. 

You know that being afraid isn’t a shameful thing, and that fear is actually a natural part of life and of being an authentic person. 

As spiritual coach Tara Brach writes:

“Our resistance to fear sustains this trance and perpetuates our suffering. 

As we learn to attend to fear with mindfulness and care, its grip loosens, and we reconnect with our full aliveness, wisdom and love.”

8) Focusing on what you want instead of what you don’t want 

Confirmation bias is powerful, and going through life focused on what you don’t want is counterproductive. 

You reject the carrot and stick approach because you’re not acting out of a reward-punishment motivation. 

You want to succeed in your own way and live your best life.

But you’re outside the reward and punishment paradigm, especially rewards and punishments given by others.

You may deny yourself a chocolate cake tonight because you failed at your diet, but you’re not going to do so because your friend makes a dumb joke about your weight and how you’re “going to get tubby” if you keep it up. 

You act out of a proactive goal, not out of a fear of what will happen or how you’ll be judged if you don’t reach that goal.

9) Staying positive despite seeing many others fall for fear-based conditioning

The way people behave doesn’t define them forever. They can change. You truly believe that and live by that. 

You stay positive and keep your can-do attitude even if you sometimes have to stand alone. 

You’re not going to base your well-being on the popularity of your position in any one situation, and you know that sometimes one brave person standing up is what starts a tidal wave.

So you might as well be that one brave person. 

On the other hand… 

10) Networking with other empowered individuals who also live outside the box

The power of one is astounding, and you tap into it every day by choosing not to give in to simplistic, fear-based systems.

But you are also open to linking up with others. 

You are open to the power of solidarity and standing together with other folks who also choose to exist outside the fear-based paradigm.

If this sounds like something you relate to, and you want to connect with others who’ve overcome fear-based conditioning, I once again highly encourage readers to check out this free masterclass with legendary Brazilian shaman Rudá Iandê.

Rudá brings ancient wisdom to modern times and gives you really down-to-earth and powerful lessons for how to live an authentic, powerful life that isn’t built around a reward vs. punishment structure.

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11) Having healthy boundaries that scare off manipulators and sociopaths

Fear-based conditioning would be less prevalent if more people had strong street smarts. 

But the truth is that many folks are highly susceptible for manipulative and sociopathic people and systems. 

If a figure of authority on a screen says something that sounds true, many people will literally do almost anything he or she says. This is the world we live in. 

But you don’t live in it.

You think for yourself and have strong boundaries that aren’t easily penetrated. You’re not going to get scammed, even if it’s by somebody with an official title or who sounds good on TV.

12) Cultivating a strong sense of purpose and drive in your life 

You’re driven by a strong sense of purpose in your life.

This is a big reason why outside fearmongering doesn’t work on you. 

If a politician tells you to vote for her if you want to avoid the Apocalypse and not starve in the coming year, you turn off the TV. 

You’re already building self-sufficiency and preparing for hardship, and you’re not looking for an onscreen savior to mimic compassion for you. 

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