People who don’t need many friends in life often have these 7 unique character traits

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There’s a misconception that the more friends one has, the happier one will be.

It doesn’t help that society usually promotes the idea that people who are surrounded by friends, receive countless social invitations and take more than enough pictures to flood social media, have more exciting lives.

But the truth is that there are people who don’t need that many friends – they’re perfectly happy with a small, close-knit group whom they share a deeper connection with.

Today we’ll explore some unique characteristics that these individuals share.

1) They’re highly independent

One defining characteristic of people who don’t need that many friends in life is their independence.

As they spend most of their time alone, they’re often making decisions and solving problems by themselves.

Rather than depend on others for guidance or advice, they’ll take the initiative to research and find out more.

Over time, they become more confident at doing things alone and trusting themselves with making the right decisions.

Don’t get me wrong, this doesn’t mean that they blindly follow what they think is right. If need be, they will seek feedback from others to guide their decision-making.

The main difference is that they won’t wait around for someone to push them to do something.

They’ll do it on their own.

2) They value deep connections

Another common characteristic this group of people share is that they value deep connections.

They’d rather spend more time and effort strengthening current relationships than making additional ones, which may remain superficial.

They value meaningful conversations as it gives them the opportunity to strengthen friendships that they have. Not many people enjoy opening up or being vulnerable, but people who are content with a few friends understand the importance of this in growing deeper connections.

3) Prefers solitude

Have you ever met someone who prefers spending time on their own?

I have a friend who enjoys her own company and often takes herself out on solo dates – whether it’s to a café, the cinema or the mall, she’s contented spending the entire day by herself.

At first, I never understood why anyone enjoyed the idea of eating or watching movies alone. In fact, I hated the thought of doing things alone.

My friend explained that doing things alone has its charms as well. One doesn’t need to cater to the different preferences and views of others or think of ways to continue a conversation.

It was only after I tried this for myself with this new perspective that I realized how liberating it actually is. Being alone gave me time to process emotions, thoughts, and do whatever I liked – without interruption from other people.

It’s also a great way to recharge your social battery if you’re an introvert, after spending time with a bigger group of friends.

4) They’re self-reliant

Being used to doing things alone also enables them to grow in their self-reliance, without having to wait or depend on others.

While others may hesitate to book a trip overseas because they aren’t able to find people to go with, people who don’t need many friends aren’t deterred by this.

They’re willing (and may even prefer) to attend events, parties and go on holidays on their own.

When they face challenges, they take time to work through these alone first. While they may be open to advice, they’d rather figuring things out on their own – partly also because it’s reflex, since they’re so used to doing things on their own.

Over time, they grow to trust their intuition and problem-solving skills.

5) They protect their boundaries

One of the things people with a few friends treasure is their peace and wellbeing. Limiting their social network to a group of close friends already indicate their desire to only carve out a certain amount of time and effort on socializing.

If they’re mentally spent or emotionally drained, they’re not afraid to decline social invitations or back out of gatherings.

They’re not pressured to respond to messages quickly, and likewise, their friends are also mindful of their habits. People with a few friends may take a day or two to reply, but are also mindful that some people may not like it.

Thus, they’re also upfront about this habit to their friends.  

This not only establishes boundaries at the outset, but also sets expectations that can contribute to the longevity of friendships – especially with friends who are emotionally mature and understanding.

6) They socialize selectively

As such, this group of people socializes selectively.

They’re likely to decline invitations to gatherings with large groups of people. They’d much rather hang out with people they’re close to.

This may hinder their ability to expand their social circle, but that’s not their aim at all. What they want to do is focus on the friendships they have currently, and more importantly, ensure that they genuinely enjoy the presence of the people they are with.

Not make friends for the sake of it, and possibly having to pretend to enjoy the interactions they have with people they may not gel completely with.

7) Low tolerance for drama

Drama has no place in their lives. To them, it’s a waste of time and energy.

They’d rather keep their peace of mind instead of tiptoeing around others for fear of offending someone.

And having a smaller group of friends help to limit this – not that it completely removes the possibility of drama, but it helps that everyone understands and are upfront with each other.

If there’s a person in their life that seems to enjoy playing mind games for the fun of it to stir drama within the group, they will have no qualms about cutting that person out of their lives.

People who are content with a few friends acknowledge that there’s no point trying to navigate friendships with people who insist on being difficult. Hence, they’d rather remove them completely.

Concluding thoughts

If you’re someone who has a small group of friends, remember that this isn’t something to be ashamed of.

Perhaps you may now understand why you behave the way you do after reading this article.

Continue growing in your independence, self-reliance as you prioritize your mental wellbeing! What’s important, however, is not to close doors on opportunities to meeting people that may find their way into your close knit group.

Eliza Hartley

Eliza Hartley, a London-based writer, is passionate about helping others discover the power of self-improvement. Her approach combines everyday wisdom with practical strategies, shaped by her own journey overcoming personal challenges. Eliza's articles resonate with those seeking to navigate life's complexities with grace and strength.

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