People who avoid difficult conversations usually have these 10 traits

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We all know someone who just can’t handle a tough talk, right? They dodge it like it’s a hot potato!

Ever wonder why they do that? Well, it’s often down to their personality traits.

Let’s dig into this and uncover the top 10 traits usually found in people who would rather run a mile than have a difficult chat.

1. They Hate Conflict

We all know that person who would rather walk over hot coals than get into an argument, right?

For them, disagreements are like horror movies – they’re way too scary and best avoided.

They see arguments as a personal attack, not as a chance to understand someone else’s point of view or learn something new.

So, the moment they sense a tough talk coming, they’re out of there as quickly as possible.

But here’s the thing: avoiding conflict doesn’t make it disappear. It just stores it up for later.

And let me tell you, that can lead to an even bigger explosion down the line.

So while it might be a bit uncomfortable to face disagreements head-on, it’s often the best way to clear the air and move forward.

2. They Avoid Bad Feelings

Ever notice how some people seem like they’re living in a bubble of positivity?

They’re always smiling, always sunny, even when things are clearly not going great.

That’s because they’re doing everything they can to avoid feeling upset.

They’ll sidestep, dodge, and dance around any conversation that might lead to hard feelings.

They believe that if they avoid the storm, they won’t get wet.

But here’s the catch: sometimes, we all need a little rain to grow. Difficult emotions aren’t just obstacles to dodge – they’re signposts that guide us to what we really care about.

While tough talks might stir up some uncomfortable feelings, they also give us a chance to understand ourselves and others better.

Remember, there’s no rainbow without a little rain. 

3. Fear of Being Disliked

I used to be terrified of people not liking me. If there was a difficult conversation to be had, I’d avoid it like the plague.


Because I was scared that if I said something they didn’t like, they’d stop liking me.

It took me a long time, and a lot of self-reflection, to realize that this fear was holding me back. I was silencing my own voice just to keep the peace.

And you know what I’ve learned? It’s okay if everyone doesn’t like you. What’s important is that you like yourself.

So now, even when a conversation seems scary, I remind myself that my thoughts and feelings have value.

And if someone doesn’t like me because I’ve spoken my truth? Well, that says more about them than it does about me.

4. They Want Everything Perfect

People who want everything to be perfect are often the ones who dodge tough talks.

They’re scared that they might say something wrong, mess up, or not express themselves perfectly.

It’s like they’re on a tightrope, and one wrong word could send them plunging.

But nobody’s perfect, and no conversation ever is. Communication is messy and full of mistakes – that’s what makes it real.

Remember, it’s not about getting every word right; it’s about expressing what’s in your heart. 

5. They Find It Hard To Speak Up

There’s something deeply human about this trait. It’s the fear of raising our voices, of letting ourselves be heard.

It’s the fear that our thoughts, our feelings, our needs might be too much for others to handle.

People who find it hard to speak up often avoid difficult conversations because it feels like standing on a stage under a spotlight – it’s just too exposing.

But here’s what I want you to know: Your voice matters. Your feelings matter. You have every right to express yourself, to state your needs, to share your reality.

So next time you find yourself shying away from a tough talk, take a deep breath and remember: This is your stage. These are your lines. And you deserve to be heard.

6. They Like Things Easy

I’m all for making life as easy as possible. I mean, who doesn’t love a good life hack or shortcut?

But here’s the thing, I’ve realized that not all shortcuts lead to the right destination.

I used to be the kind of person who’d prefer to stay in my comfort zone rather than face difficult conversations.

Why rock the boat when everything’s sailing smoothly, right?

But over time, I noticed that the problems I was ignoring were just getting bigger and harder to deal with.

It was like sweeping dust under the rug – sure, it’s out of sight for a while, but sooner or later, you’re going to have to deal with a big mess.

That’s when I realized that taking the easy way out isn’t always the best way.

Sometimes you have to face those hard talks head-on, even if it feels uncomfortable.

Trust me – your future self will thank you!

7. They Can’t Decide Easily

Life can be tough, confusing and downright overwhelming at times.

And when it comes to making decisions or talking about tricky stuff, some folks freeze up like a deer in headlights.

They feel paralyzed by the ‘what ifs’ and the fear of making the wrong choice.

So, they avoid these discussions or decisions completely, hoping that if they ignore it long enough, it will disappear or resolve itself.

Avoidance doesn’t solve problems; it only delays them.

And while diving head-first into a difficult decision or conversation can be scary, it’s also incredibly brave.

You don’t always have to get it right; you just have to give it a go. Because in the end, even mistakes are stepping stones on the path of life.

8. They Hide Their Feelings

It’s a classic move – instead of saying what’s really on their mind, they might drop subtle hints or use sarcasm, hoping others will catch on.

Or they might just retreat into silence, letting their quietness speak volumes.

This is known as passive-aggressiveness, and it’s a common trait among those who avoid difficult conversations.

Passive-aggressive behavior often stems from an early environment where the direct expression of emotions was discouraged or not allowed.

People who are passive-aggressive were often raised in families that frowned upon open emotional expression.

So next time you encounter someone who’s being passive-aggressive, remember – they’re probably just doing their best to communicate in the only way they were taught.

And if you’re the one hiding behind sarcasm or silence, know that it’s never too late to learn new ways of expressing yourself!

9. They Overthink

If there was an Olympic event for overthinking, I’d have a gold medal or two.

I can’t tell you how many nights I’ve spent lying awake, my mind racing with ‘what ifs’ and worst-case scenarios about difficult conversations I need to have.

It’s like my brain is a hamster on a wheel that just won’t stop spinning. And let me tell you, it’s exhausting.

Overthinking makes every problem seem like a mountain and every tough talk feel like a battle.

But here’s what I’ve learned: overthinking doesn’t solve problems; it amplifies them.

It steals joy from the present moment and creates stress about things that may never happen.

So now, when I catch myself overthinking, I take a deep breath, remind myself to stay in the present and trust that I can handle whatever comes my way.

Because the truth is, most of our worries are dragons that dissolve when faced with the sword of reality.

10. They Get Upset Easily

Some of us feel things more deeply than others.

We’re the ones who tear up at a sad movie or feel our hearts swell with joy at the sight of a beautiful sunset.

We’re the ones who absorb emotions like a sponge, whether they’re ours or someone else’s.

And because we feel things so intensely, we often avoid tough talks. We worry that we’ll be overwhelmed by the wave of emotions they might stir up.

But here’s what I’ve learned: being highly sensitive isn’t a weakness; it’s a strength. It means we’re empathetic, intuitive, and deeply connected to our emotions.

So yes, tough talks might feel more intense for us, but that’s okay. It’s okay to feel deeply. It’s okay to be sensitive.

And it’s definitely okay to have difficult conversations, even if they make your heart race and your palms sweat.

Because every time we face a tough talk, we’re proving to ourselves that we’re stronger than our fears.

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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 15 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. Check out my latest book on the Hidden Secrets of Buddhism and How it Saved My Life. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Twitter.

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