Lachlan Brown
We all know the type: the person who seems genuinely content, radiating an inner peace that makes you wonder what their secret is.
While it’s easy to assume that happiness is a matter of luck or circumstance, the reality is much deeper.
True happiness isn’t just a fleeting emotion; it’s a state of being shaped by the way people think, act, and respond to life’s challenges. As philosopher Aristotle once said, “Happiness depends upon ourselves.”
Today, we’re exploring seven unique traits that those who are truly happy tend to share.
Curious if you’re cultivating the right habits for lasting happiness?
Let’s take a closer look.
1) A positive mindset
In my years of studying happiness, I’ve noticed the first unique trait that truly happy people share is their positive mindset.
Sure, they have their down days like everyone else. But overall, they tend to see the glass as half full rather than half empty.
Being optimistic doesn’t mean ignoring reality or dismissing challenges. It’s more about embracing each situation, including the obstacles, and finding the silver lining. Happy people believe in the possibility of a positive outcome, and this belief often leads to their success.
They focus on solutions rather than problems and see opportunities where others see roadblocks. And this positive mindset isn’t just about them; they also tend to inspire optimism in others around them.
2) Gratitude
The second trait I’ve noticed in truly happy people is their deep sense of gratitude.
No matter what life throws at them, they always find something to be thankful for. Even in the darkest times, they appreciate the little things that bring joy and comfort.
I remember a time in my life when things were not going so well. Work was stressful, and I was dealing with some personal issues.
But one day, while walking back home, I saw an elderly woman watering her plants with such a joyful smile on her face. It made me realize that happiness is often found in these simple, everyday moments.
That night, I started journaling about the things I was grateful for each day. It was a small act, but it shifted my perspective significantly. I found that by recognizing and appreciating the good in my life, my overall happiness improved.
This is well-backed up by experts like those at UCLA Health, who have noted that practicing gratitude has been shown to reduce stress and anxiety and even improve sleep.
As renowned psychologist and Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl said: “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”
And for me, embracing gratitude was a powerful step towards that change.
3) Mindful living
This might sound a little cliché, but mindfulness is actually a powerful tool for happiness.
It allows you to fully engage with your life, experiencing each moment as it comes and appreciating it for what it is.
In my book, “Hidden Secrets of Buddhism: How To Live With Maximum Impact and Minimum Ego”, I delve deeper into the concept of mindfulness and how it can transform your life.
Mindful living allows you to gain a better understanding of yourself and your emotions. It encourages you to accept things as they are, rather than how you wish they would be. And this acceptance can lead to profound peace and contentment.
4) Emotional resilience
Life is full of ups and downs. That’s not going to change any day soon.
It’s not about avoiding the challenges, but rather, how we respond to them that matters. And happy people have a knack for bouncing back from adversity.
They understand that it’s okay to feel sad, angry, or disappointed at times. These emotions are part of being human. But they don’t let these feelings consume them or dictate their lives.
Instead, they allow themselves to feel these emotions, understand them, and then let go. They use difficult times as opportunities to learn and grow, rather than seeing them as insurmountable obstacles.
Psychologists often refer to this as emotional agility – the ability to navigate life’s twists and turns with self-acceptance, clear-sightedness, and an open mind. It’s about being flexible with your thoughts and feelings so that you can respond optimally to everyday situations.
5) Comfort with solitude
Now, this one may seem a bit counter-intuitive, but truly happy people are comfortable with solitude.
In today’s hyper-connected world, being alone is often equated with loneliness. But there’s a big difference between being alone and feeling lonely. Happy people understand and appreciate this difference.
They relish their alone time. It’s a chance for self-reflection, introspection, and self-discovery. It allows them to recharge, to connect with their inner self, and to simply be.
Being comfortable with solitude also means they’re not reliant on others for their happiness. They enjoy social interactions and cherish their relationships, but they also value their independence. They know that their happiness comes from within.
As psychologist Carl Jung once said: “The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.”
And sometimes, it’s in the quiet moments of solitude that we get the chance to discover who we really are.
6) Authenticity
In a world where we’re often pressured to conform, staying true to oneself can be a challenge. But happy people understand the importance of living life on their own terms.
They don’t pretend to be someone they’re not just to fit in or please others.
They are honest with themselves and with others. They recognize their strengths and acknowledge their weaknesses without self-judgment. They express their feelings openly and stand up for what they believe in.
As noted by Jessica Koehler, Ph.D. in a Psychology Today post, this sort of integrity is “linked to increased self-esteem, life satisfaction, mental health, emotional stability, and workplace success” – all critical ingredients for happiness!
7) Balance
The final trait that truly happy people share is balance. They understand the importance of maintaining a healthy equilibrium in all aspects of their life.
From work-life balance to the balance between socializing and solitude, they strive for harmony rather than extremes.
They take care of their physical health through regular exercise and a balanced diet, their emotional health through self-care practices, and their mental health by continually learning and challenging themselves.
They also know when to say no and set boundaries. They prioritize their wellbeing and understand that they can’t pour from an empty cup.
Wrapping up: Happiness is a journey
Throughout this exploration of the traits that truly happy people share, we’ve touched on everything from positivity to authenticity, from resilience to balance. Each of these traits contributes to a fulfilling and joyful life.
But it’s important to remember that happiness isn’t a destination, it’s a journey. It’s not about ticking off boxes or striving for perfection.
It’s about embracing who you are, nurturing your wellbeing, and making conscious choices that align with your values and aspirations.
So as you reflect on these traits, consider how they resonate with your own life. Which of these traits do you already possess? Which ones could you cultivate further?
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