Some people are just genuinely enjoyable to be around. They have a feel-good energy most people don’t have but love to see in others.
But there’s more to them than positive energy. They have certain behavioral patterns that make them stick out like sore thumbs, but in a good way.
So, let’s discover what these unique behavioral patterns are and what we can learn from them.
1) They radiate good energy, and you just feel good being around them
Okay, so let’s start with the thing I already mentioned – feel-good energy. People who attract others exude positivity, making almost every interaction a ray of sunshine.
Their optimistic outlook on life not only brightens your day but also creates a welcoming atmosphere that lifts spirits.
Their positive energy is infectious, brightening up conversations and difficult situations.
That’s why they often have many friends and hang out with a lot of different kinds of people. They’re simply people magnets.
Think of actor Ryan Reynolds, singer Dolly Parton, or old-school entertainers like Dean Martin and Frank Sinatra.
2) They genuinely listen to what you’re saying
But there’s a quality that these people also inherently have, and that’s the way they genuinely listen to others.
Yes, they’re often the center of attention, but they also know how to make others feel comfortable around them.
A conversation with these fantastic folks is like a breath of fresh air. They actively listen, showing genuine interest in what you have to say.
With their ability to pay extreme attention, they easily form meaningful connections, making you feel valued and understood.
In their company, communication becomes a two-way street, improving the quality of interactions.
3) They put themselves in your shoes
And because they listen attentively, they can put themselves in your shoes. In fact, empathy is their superpower.
This deep understanding creates a strong sense of connection as they navigate conversations with compassion and give you heartfelt support during both successes and challenges.
When we think of people on the other side of the spectrum, the ones who are obnoxious and off-putting, they’re the ones who can’t empathize or truly understand you. They can act like it quite well, though.
Think of many politicians, landlords, and even business owners. For many of them, greed is the only way of life, and only similar-minded people want to be around them.
4) They’re not into unnecessary drama. Keeping it chill is their thing
I’ve met many drama queens in my life, both male and female. And I don’t want to meet or see another one in person or even online.
They’re just so cringe and offensive. They’d do everything for attention and have no shame.
As someone who’s the complete opposite, drama is not something I appreciate in others. Surely, I’m not alone in this thinking, right?
Many, if not most, people think this way.
That’s why they’re attracted to down-to-earth people. People we love to be around avoid unnecessary conflicts and complications, preferring a straightforward and easygoing approach to life.
They create a calm and friendly atmosphere, allowing everyone to enjoy each other’s company without drama.
5) Small acts of kindness are their thing
Small acts of kindness are also something that defines their character. They believe in the power of spreading goodwill and making a positive impact through simple, thoughtful gestures.
That’s why it’s no surprise to get genuine compliments, actionable advice, thoughtful messages, or even full-blown gifts you always wanted from them.
They know what can make you happy and often spare no expense to give it to you.
6) They appreciate the little things and express gratitude
I’ve had many doomer friends, and they’re not fun to be around. The worst thing is that they rub their negative attitude on you:
You become the same bleak person who doesn’t see any positive things in life.
But the people we genuinely like being around are the complete opposites. They actually love life and appreciate the little things.
Whether it’s recognizing a beautiful moment or expressing thanks for a favor, their attitude of gratitude creates a positive atmosphere and encourages others to cherish life.
Although you can talk about anything with them, even the extremely bad stuff that’s happening, that’s just wasting their potential. You get the most out of them by keeping the convo on the positive side.
7) When the going gets tough, they’re the ones who’ve got your back
And even still, when the going gets tough, these amazing friends become your pillars of support.
You can count on them when it matters. They’re there in good times and bad, keeping their commitments and showing up when needed. Their dependability creates a sense of trust and security within relationships.
They offer a helping hand, a listening ear, or encouragement, making challenging times more manageable.
Their relentless support creates a sense of security and camaraderie, reinforcing the idea that you’re not alone in facing life’s ups and downs.
And that’s why people flock around them. As is this:
8) They’re real and genuine, no pretense
Perhaps their most quintessential trait is that they’re real. What you see is what you get, and they have no interest in acting or being someone else around others.
They’re genuine, which helps people connect and feel comfortable being themselves without judgment.
In their company, relationships thrive on sincerity and openness. You can be whatever you want, and they’ll accept you as long as it’s not something harmful or degrading to others.
9) They know how to crack a joke and keep things light
Think about the people you love being around. What’s one of their defining traits? 9 times out of 10, it’s their great sense of humor.
These people know how to add humor to any situation, making ordinary moments unforgettable. Laughter is the key ingredient for a good time.
Their ability to crack a joke or share a funny story also adds a lightness to the atmosphere, making exchanges enjoyable and creating a positive, fun-loving vibe.
10) They roll with the punches and adapt to different situations
But apart from supporting you when you need help or advice, they’re also skillful at navigating the troubles in their own lives.
Many of them have overcome one or more big setbacks that would devastate most people. Yet, they made it to the other side almost unscathed.
Their ability to adapt to different situations and go through challenges with ease proves their resilience.
Just think of the beloved Stephen Hawking. He faced immense challenges due to a diagnosis of ALS at a young age, which gradually paralyzed him.
However, he was determined to communicate his ideas despite the loss of his ability to speak.
His book, “A Brief History of Time,” was a big hit. It showed that he could explain complex science to regular folks like us.
And his resilience and his contributions to science continue to inspire people facing their own challenges.
11) They’re team players
But one of their more likable qualities is also teamwork. They understand the strength of it and actively contribute to group efforts.
They’re the ones you turn to when anything is being solved in a group because they often have all the answers.
That’s why you want one of them on your team. You feel more assured and ready to face challenges as a group.
Ultimately, the people who are genuinely lovely to be around are super curious, always open to trying new things, and love the idea of exploring different ideas and experiences.
They’re simply fun to be around and love sharing all their inherent qualities with others, bringing out the best in them, too.
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