People who are deeply in love with someone but afraid to show it often display these subtle behaviors

People who are deeply in love with someone but afraid to show it often display these 8 subtle behaviors

Have you ever found yourself wondering if someone might secretly be harboring affection for you?

Think back to all those little moments of unspoken yearning and silent admiration. You’ll know the ones. And if you don’t? Well, you might need to read on!

One movie I particularly love is the 1999 rom-com 10 Things I Hate About You. I think it sums up this experience fairly well (and entertainingly, too).

There are two characters named Patrick and Verona. Patrick is a bad boy who is secretly pining for deeper connections and Kat is a sharp-tongued and independent character whose layers unravel to expose vulnerability and hidden desire.

Long story short: these two are very much in love with each other. Very much. Only it’s not overtly shown!

The film explores this in a fun way, exploring all the twists and turns of their will-they-won’t-they journey. Spoiler: it culminates in a very memorable musical number!

10 Things I Hate About You stands not just as a cinematic portrayal of young love but as an exploration of the unspoken language of love.

If you’re wondering whether someone might secretly be in love with you, they might show some subtle behaviors. Starting with an obvious one: avoiding your gaze.

1) Avoiding eye contact

Ever noticed someone who can’t seem to look you in the eye? 

Well, here’s the lowdown: avoiding eye contact is often a sign that they might be wrestling with feelings they’re hesitant to admit—love, to be exact.

Maybe you’re hanging out, chatting away, and suddenly, it’s like their eyes are on a mission to explore every nook and cranny of the room… everything except your face!

So, what gives? This eye-avoidance business isn’t accidental, it’s totally intentional. 

It happens to be a defense mechanism and a coping strategy.

After all, admitting you’re in love means opening yourself up to potential rejection or the complexities of a romantic relationship. And let’s face it, that’s pretty scary territory!

Shying away from eye contact is  a silent admission of emotional vulnerability. It’s their way of saying, “I’m scared, but I’m also really into you.” 

2) Active listening

If someone seems super interested in everything you say, almost like they’re the world’s best listener, it might be another tell-tale sign of hidden love.

Maybe this person is great at hearing about your life and dreams but clams up when the conversation turns to romance. 

Weird, right? 

If you pick up on someone hanging on your every word but dodging love topics, they might just be harboring a huge, huge crush on you.

Don’t be afraid to dig a little deeper, and turn the tables on them (nicely) by asking them a question or two. You might be surprised by what this reveals!

3) Gift-giving

Imagine someone is giving you a bunch of thoughtful gifts, like, all the time. 

It’s like they’re speaking the language of love, but without actually saying the words. So, what’s up with that?

Giving gifts is one of the five love languages. Some of us feel loved through the exchange of thoughtful gifts.

These gifts don’t necessarily need to be extravagant—the emphasis is on the sentiment behind the gift and the effort put into selecting or creating it.

Here’s the deal. When people are terrified to admit they’re head over heels for you, they resort to gift-giving as a way to show their feelings without going all-in with the “I love you” declaration. 

It’s like a sneak peek into all of their emotions.

Now, if these gifts keep rolling in regularly, it’s not just a coincidence. It’s a pattern, a subtle way of saying, “I’m into you,” without having to spill the beans.

Why do they do this? Fear, my pal. Fear of being rejected or looking vulnerable. 

Instead of confessing their love, they shower you with presents, perhaps secretly hoping you’ll catch on.

Let’s just hope they don’t run up a debt!

4) Extra attention

Do you have that one friend who seems to know your schedule, show up everywhere you go, and seem to have earned a Ph.D. in your life? (In a non-stalkery way, of course.)

Well, you might need to ask yourself: is this friendship… or something more?

You’re left agonizing over whether it’s just friendly enthusiasm or a subtle confession.

Balance is key. How severe is their extra attention, and what’s the context? 

Genuine interest is one thing, but if it feels like it’s on a whole other level, love might be clocking in.

Sometimes fear of admission hides behind an urge to be part of someone’s life. 

5) Helpful gestures

Let’s touch on when someone showers you with helpful gestures. It’s like they’re always there, right when you need them. 

But hold on, there might be more to this than meets the eye…

Sure, being helpful is normal, but when it becomes a daily occurrence, it’s time to look closer.

They might not outwardly and loudly say, “I love you,” but their actions are shouting, “I care about you a lot, but I’m not ready to spill the beans.”

When someone’s fully scared to admit they’re head over heels for you, they might channel that energy into being excessively helpful.

Ask yourself: why would someone be so helpful but keep their feelings under wraps? Is it the fear of being vulnerable, the dread of rejection, or just not knowing how I’ll react?

6) Social media attention

Have you noticed that special someone flooding your social media with likes, comments, and shares? 

Well, that could be a sign of love.

Liking your posts? That’s their virtual thumbs-up, a subtle way of saying, “I see you.” 

Comments? It’s essentially the modern day version of passing notes. 

And when they share your content, it’s like shouting from the rooftop, “Look at this amazing person!”

Why the indirect approach? Well, think of it as a shy, timid confession, a way to express affection without risking face-to-face awkwardness.

So, next time your notifications light up, take a moment to decode what’s underneath it all.

You might just find a love story unfolding right there on your social media feed. After all, most people do find love online these days!

7) Loads of compliments and encouragement

Let’s talk about that person who’s always boosting you up—-compliments, encouragement, the works!

Your hair, your style, your work, it’s like everything gets a thumbs-up. 

Sounds great, but what if there’s more to it? What if it’s not just about your awesomeness? 

When someone’s afraid to admit they’re in love, compliments become a smokescreen, hiding their true feelings.

The constant encouragement? That could be their way of saying, “I’m here for you,” without dropping the L-word. It’s a safer route to show affection.

8) Jealousy

Imagine you’re chatting, and you casually mention plans with others. Suddenly, your friend’s demeanor shifts completely.

There’s a subtle tightness in their expression, a flicker in their eyes. What’s going on here? 

Well, my friend, that might just be the green-eyed monster of love paying a visit.

Let’s break it down. Imagine you’re head over heels for someone.

Now, the thought of that special someone spending time with others hits you in the gut. Jealousy isn’t random… it’s a sign there might be more to the story.

If your friend shows a hint of jealousy when you talk about hanging out with others, it’s like a sign saying, “I have romantic feelings for you!”

Final thoughts

To sum things up, recognizing silent signs of love involves observing subtle behaviors like avoiding eye contact, active listening, gift-giving, extra attention, helpful gestures, social media engagement, compliments, and occasional jealousy. 

These actions can all reveal deep emotions held back by fear of vulnerability. 

Much like the timeless tale of Patrick and Kat in “10 Things I Hate About You”, real-life connections unfold in unexpected ways. 

So, if you’re wondering if someone secretly harbors feelings for you, unpack their gestures, embrace the mystery, and ask them to open up—and chances are you might find yourself in the middle of a new love story.

Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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