Happiness is a choice, but it’s a choice that can often be clouded by habits and behaviors that drain our joy.
You see, truly happy people are not those who constantly pursue happiness. Instead, they’re those who avoid certain actions and mindsets that can tarnish their contentment.
Truth is, there are some things that genuinely happy people just don’t do. And by recognizing and steering clear of these nine actions, you too can lead a more joyful life.
Are you curious? Let’s dive in and discover what these 9 things are that truly happy people rarely do!
1) They don’t compare themselves to others
We’re all guilty of it – comparing ourselves to others. It’s a natural human tendency.
But truly happy people? They tend to avoid this trap.
You see, comparison is the thief of joy. The moment we start comparing our lives, achievements, or looks with others, we open the door to dissatisfaction and unhappiness.
Happy hearts brim with appreciation. They know that everyone has their own unique journey and pace in life. They appreciate their progress and celebrate their achievements, no matter how small they may seem compared to others.
Instead of getting sucked into the comparison game, they focus on their own growth and improvement. And that makes all the difference.
2) They don’t hold onto grudges
Let me share a personal story with you.
A few years ago, I had a falling out with a close friend. It was over something trivial, but pride got in the way and neither of us wanted to apologize. We ended up not speaking for months.
I found myself constantly thinking about it, feeling angry and upset. It was like a cloud hanging over my head. Until one day, I decided to let go of the grudge. I reached out, apologized, and we mended our friendship.
In that moment, I felt a wave of relief wash over me. The cloud lifted. I realized how much energy and happiness holding onto that grudge had stolen from me.
Truly happy people understand this. They know that holding onto grudges only serves to poison their own peace of mind. It’s like drinking poison and expecting the other person to get sick.
So they forgive, not necessarily because the other person deserves forgiveness, but because they deserve peace. And trust me, making that choice can be incredibly liberating.
3) They don’t dwell on the past
Time travel might be a fascinating concept in science fiction, but in reality, living in the past can seriously dampen our happiness.
Did you know that our brains are wired to remember negative experiences more than positive ones?
It’s a survival mechanism known as the negativity bias. This means that dwelling on past mistakes or painful memories can cause us to feel more unhappy than is necessary.
Truly happy people know that they can’t change what has happened in the past. The only thing they can control is how they respond to it.
Rather than dwelling on past mistakes or regrets, they focus on learning from them. They use their past as a stepping stone to grow and improve, not as an anchor holding them back.
4) They don’t worry about things they can’t control
We all have things in our lives that are beyond our control – the weather, traffic, other people’s opinions. Worrying about these things is like trying to steer a ship with no rudder.
Happy folks get it: stressing about the uncontrollable zaps your energy and joy.
Instead of fretting over the uncontrollable aspects of life, they focus on what they can control – their attitude, their responses, their actions. They accept the things they cannot change and invest their energy in influencing the things they can.
This way, they preserve their peace of mind and maintain their happiness, no matter what life throws at them.
5) They don’t neglect self-care
In our fast-paced world, it’s easy to put ourselves last.
We often prioritize work, family, friends and responsibilities over our own well-being. But happy people? They don’t do this.
Happy hearts know the magic of self-care. They know that they can’t pour from an empty cup. They recognize that looking after their own mental, physical and emotional health is not selfish – it’s necessary.
So they take time to relax, to exercise, to eat well and to do things they enjoy. They understand that self-care isn’t a luxury – it’s a necessity for maintaining their happiness and well-being.
6) They don’t ignore their feelings
Feelings are a fundamental part of the human experience. They are our internal compass, guiding us and alerting us when something isn’t right. Ignoring them is like sailing a ship without a map.
Truly happy people understand this. They know that it’s okay to feel sad, angry, frustrated or scared. They don’t bottle up their feelings or pretend they’re fine when they’re not.
Instead, they acknowledge their emotions, even the uncomfortable ones.
They give themselves permission to feel and process these emotions in a healthy way. They understand that it’s okay not to be okay all the time.
Because in the end, acknowledging and dealing with our feelings leads to greater self-awareness, growth and ultimately, happiness.
7) They don’t fear change
I remember when I had to move to a new city for a job. I was leaving behind everything familiar – my friends, my family, my comfort zone. It was scary, and part of me wanted to just stay put where everything was comfortable and predictable.
But I realized that fear of change was holding me back. Change is inevitable. It’s the only constant in life. And it’s often through change that we grow and discover new opportunities.
People who are happy from the inside out learn to embrace change, even when it’s uncomfortable or scary. They see it as an opportunity for growth and new experiences rather than something to be feared.
8) They don’t forget to express gratitude
It’s easy to take things for granted, especially when we’re caught up in the hustle and bustle of daily life.
But truly happy people? They make a conscious effort to count their blessings.
Gratitude plays a significant role in happiness. It shifts our focus from what we lack to what we have. It helps us appreciate the good in our lives, and that can significantly boost our happiness.
Gratitude is a gift that keeps on giving. Happy people know that expressing appreciation not only brightens their own days, but also warms the hearts of those around them.
9) They don’t chase perfection
Perfection is a myth. It’s an unattainable standard that only sets us up for disappointment and dissatisfaction.
Truly happy people don’t strive for perfection, they strive for progress. They know that mistakes and failures are not setbacks, but opportunities for growth and learning.
They accept themselves as they are, flaws and all, and they work on improving and growing every day. They understand that happiness doesn’t come from being perfect, but from accepting oneself and striving to be the best one can be.
Final thoughts: It’s all about choice
At the heart of happiness lies a fundamental element – choice. Each of these 9 actions we’ve discussed is essentially a choice, a decision that we make in our daily lives.
Choosing not to compare ourselves to others, to let go of grudges, to live in the present, to focus on what we can control, to prioritize self-care, to acknowledge our feelings, to embrace change, to express gratitude, and to abandon the pursuit of perfection – these are all choices that can significantly influence our happiness.
So, as you navigate through life, remember that your happiness is fundamentally a matter of choice. It’s about how you perceive your circumstances and how you choose to respond to them.
Ultimately, choosing happiness is one of the most empowering decisions you can ever make. And don’t forget, it’s your journey. So choose wisely, live fully and find joy in your own unique path!
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