It’s no secret that most men only want sex, right?
Well it turns out that’s not only wrong, but that thinking may actually be the root of many failed relationships.
Because if your relationship is not the biggest source of happiness and joy in your life…
If you’re not getting the love, attention and affection that you deserve…
Or if the men in your life seem to lose interest out of nowhere leaving you confused and hurt…
…Then you need to delve deep into the male mindset and understand what men REALLY want.
And I think the biggest reason why relationships fail every day is that most women simply don’t know the number one thing all men crave…
Men want this more than sex
There is one secret male obsession that is the key to being truly irresistible to a man… in a way that goes far beyond physical attraction.
And when you know it, you’ll never struggle to keep a man interested or connected on a deep emotional level the way most women do.
Thousands of women who discovered this one male desire have used it to turn hopeless situations into the life fulfilling romantic relationships.
Once you discover this one missing “secret ingredient” to lasting love and devotion… You’ll be able to emotionally “click” with men in a way that few women can. He won’t pull away, he’ll stop acting distant and he’ll be there for you when you need him.
So, what is it that men really want?
They simply want to be your hero.
Introducing the hero instinct
The hero instinct is a fascinating new concept that’s generating a lot of buzz at the moment.
I first came across it 6 months ago when I read a book by James Bauer.
And I think it holds the key to making a man fall in love with you and committing to a relationship over the long haul.
Now, you probably have a picture in your mind about what a ‘hero’ is.
In Hollywood movies a hero is usually a man who is strong, brave, and full of integrity. He wants to take center stage and save the people who are important to him.
Rest easy, the key to a man’s affection is not to turn him into Thor…
What the hero instinct really is about is the basic biological urge men have to step up to the plate for a woman.
If you’ve spent any time with a man, you’ll instantly realize that this all makes a lot of sense. Men come in all shapes and sizes, but the primal urge to be a hero to provide for and protect women is common to us all.
The simple truth is that your man doesn’t necessarily want to be an action hero.
But he does want to be your hero.
Who coined the term hero instinct?
Relationship psychologist and best-selling author James Bauer developed the concept of the hero instinct.
He introduces it in his best-selling book, His Secret Obsession. In this book, James tackles the problems that are affecting women everywhere, including:
- Why men can lose interest in a woman after the initial attraction wears off
- Why men men are reluctant to commit long term, even when the early signs of relationship seem so promising
- Why men can pull away suddenly and stop communicating with their partners.
I read His Secret Obsession cover to cover and you can read my comprehensive review of the book here.
James Bauer is the real deal. After working with private clients for 12 years, and studying relationship psychology deeply, he realized that the hero instinct is the key to a happy and long-lasting relationship between men and women.
Thousands of women are already using the psychology behind the hero instinct to transform their failing relationships into the romances they’ve always dreamed of.
And countless other women are using them to hook great guys from the very first time they meet.
Writing His Secret Obsession, and his discovery of the hero instinct, has catapulted James Bauer into being one of today’s leading relationship experts.
Triggering the hero instinct in your man
In this video, James Bauer talks more about the hero instinct and how you can trigger it in your man.
I don’t want to give to much away, because James Bauer explains it better than anyone, but my take is that hero instinct boils down to this:
Instead of making your guy feel unessential, you need to make him feel wanted and needed.
Now this doesn’t mean you need to come across as weak. Although you may not need a hero, you do want a man who feels like one.
He wants to have your back. He wants to be your rock.
You just need to let him do this.
The alternative is that a man who is in a relationship where his hero instinct isn’t triggered is much less likely to stay in that relationship.
The video I mentioned above explains everything you need to know about the hero instinct, including exactly how to trigger it in your man.
Isn’t this just manipulation?
It’s really not.
Triggering the hero instinct is not about silly mind games.
It’s about empowering men to be the best version of themselves, which will ultimately lead to a better relationship between the two of you.
If you are looking for sly tricks to get a man’s attention or manipulate his feelings, then this is not for you.
There is plenty of stuff like that out there. But I think most women are looking for something more genuine.
Something special that will last the test of time.
Something that will empower you to create real desire in a man and the kind of emotional bond that life partnerships are built upon.
If that’s you then you should check out the video.
Want to learn more about the hero instinct?
I’ve just scratched the surface here about what the hero instinct really is.
If you think that learning more about the hero instinct can help you, then I highly recommend you read His Secret Obsession for yourself.
His Secret Obsession is a deeply practical guide to modern relationships with simple, easy to action strategies you can use to trigger the hero instinct in your man.
After reading the book, you will be armed with everything you need to know to:
- Get your guy to commit to you
- Gain his love and devotion over the long term
- If you’ve recently been through a break up, rekindle his interest in you and get him to chase you again.
If you’re struggling to get a man to commit or want a better relationship, His Secret Obsession will be the last dating book you ever need to read.
Can a relationship coach help you too?
If you want specific advice on your situation, it can be very helpful to speak to a relationship coach.
I know this from personal experience…
A few months ago, I reached out to Relationship Hero when I was going through a tough patch in my relationship. After being lost in my thoughts for so long, they gave me a unique insight into the dynamics of my relationship and how to get it back on track.
If you haven’t heard of Relationship Hero before, it’s a site where highly trained relationship coaches help people through complicated and difficult love situations.
In just a few minutes you can connect with a certified relationship coach and get tailor-made advice for your situation.
I was blown away by how kind, empathetic, and genuinely helpful my coach was.
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