As 2017 draws to a close, you might be thinking about ways you can improve your life.

After all, with a new year comes a new chance to create the life you’ve always wanted, right?

Perhaps you want to gain more control over how people see you, or at least, how you hope they see you.

If you are what some might call a “pushover,” then it’s likely that you want to ramp up your life so that you don’t get walked all over in 2018 as you did in 2017.

If you are too nice and want to make sure people respect you and not just use you, try these 12 tricks to get the attention of others and make them realize that you aren’t going to be a floor mat anymore.

1) Show Respect For Others

One of the easiest ways to gain someone’s respect is to show them respect. Remember that you can’t change other people, but you can change how you treat them.

And you get to rest easy knowing that even if they don’t return the respect, you can be a better person for showing them the respect they deserve.

2) Keep Your Promises

Want to throw your credibility out the window this year? Fail to deliver on a promise and watch how fast respect goes out the window with your credibility.

If you want someone to respect you, be the person you said you would be. Do the things you said you would do.

3) Let Your Actions Do the Talking

Everyone talks a good game, but if you want to have real respect from people, do more doing, and less talking.

People can’t trust what you say, but they can’t argue with what you’ve done. It’s done. It happened. They need to respect that.

4) Help People

Helping others is a sign of respect, and while this is about helping you gain respect, helping someone else helps you have good self-respect. And that is a pretty good form of respect to have. Be a good person, and people will respect you for it.

5) Ask For Help When You Need It

Don’t be the jackass in the corner office who thinks they can do everything alone. When you include others in your work or life, they come to respect you because you respect them enough to ask for their input.

Many people go through life feeling undervalued, and if you pay them some attention, they’ll return the favor, especially at work.

6) Use Candour

If you want someone to respect you, then you need to speak your mind. Using candor is a great way to let people know where you stand and what you stand for.

It’s important to use candor without malice though – you don’t want to hurt people, but you want them to know what you are all about.

7) Work to Be Better

Those among us who work on ourselves have a great deal of self-respect and in return command respect from others. People often respect those who try to be better, who set goals and achieve them, and who try to learn from life.

8) Accept Responsibility For Your Life

If you are wrong, say you are wrong. Don’t let pride get in the way of anything in your life. When you take responsibility for your actions, people can trust you to do better next time, and they’ll respect you for that.

9) Laugh At Life

When you are uptight about everything and can’t relax, you miss out on the opportunity to enjoy a laugh or two.

People will respect you more if you can shake things off and try again rather than curl up in a ball and worry about everything.

10) Be Open to the Opinions of Others

One of the easiest ways to gain someone’s respect is to listen to them. You don’t have to agree with them all the time – if ever – but you should work to hear people out.

This is hard for some people, but since you are making changes in life anyway, why not hear others out as a way to determine what could work for your new life too.

11) Be Kind

Above all else, be a kind person. Treat people the way you want to be treated. Don’t judge others and don’t make assumptions based on the opinions of others.

Find out for yourself what someone is all about, and they’ll respect you for it.

12) Look for the Good in Life

Life is shit sometimes. That doesn’t mean that there isn’t good wrapped up in getting fired. Maybe you can finally start that business you’ve been dreaming about.

People will respect you for always taking the time to see the silver lining in a bad situation. After all, your positive attitude can help them deal with the crap too.

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