If we can agree on one thing, it’s this…
When you decide to officially date someone, it’s incredibly important to choose wisely.
You’re going to be spending a hell of a lot of time together, and you’ll be undoubtedly getting close emotionally.
So if you make the wrong decision, not only are you wasting your precious time, but they could seriously stuff you up emotionally as well.
Trust me, I know from personal experience.
So if your potential lover can’t do these 7 things, believe me when I say: You should never ever date them!
Keep in mind that this is just my opinion. It may be different for you!
1) Give You a Compliment
You deserve to be with someone who can tell you how beautiful you are without getting weird about it.
Some people don’t haul out the compliments unless it’s a special occasion, but it’s nice to hear that they are paying attention once in a while.
If your partner can’t tell you something nice or give you a compliment without being prompted, they are probably not the right person for you.
Giving someone a compliment means that they were paying attention, and we all want a little more attention in our lives.
2) Ask Important Questions
Your partner should be able to carry on a conversation without letting the important things slip through the cracks.
Asking questions is a great way to get to the root of problems, discomfort, money, love, children, transportation, travel, bills, jobs – whatever it is that you are talking about, if your partner isn’t asking the important question then they probably aren’t worth being with.
What are the important questions? For starters, “how can I help?”, “how can I take some responsibility in this relationship?”, and “what am I bringing to the table?”
3) Pay Attention
Whether you ask for bread and milk to be picked up on the way home from work or you are feeling tired and cranky, you want to know that your partner is paying attention to you.
People who pay attention tune into what you are experiencing and while they can never walk in your shoes, they often try to understand how you feel by asking and getting involved in the conversation.
When you ask them to do something or ask them to refrain from doing something in the future, they don’t just glaze over the request and get back to watching Netflix.
4) Avoid Being Arrogant
A good partner should never let arrogance get in the way of a relationship.
Along with pride, arrogance can ruin a perfectly good relationship. It can lead to resentment and distrust and lots of trouble for people.
It’s not just in relationships though – arrogance can destroy careers and business relationships as well.
Staying with someone who is arrogant is asking for trouble.
Their arrogance is born of negative influence and perpetuated ideals that they are better than someone else. Avoid that kind of person like the plague.
5) Isn’t Rude to Others
You want to be with someone who isn’t mean or rude to others. They should recognize that when you are together, they represent the both of you in this relationship.
And if they are doing things that you wouldn’t do or saying things you wouldn’t say, they are not respecting that bond and presentation of “couple” to others.
6) Play it Cool
If you are with someone who can’t keep their cool, you might consider moving on.
People who are high strung or who can’t focus during times of struggle or argument tend to blame others for their circumstances and problems.
Someone who knows they create their own circumstances doesn’t lose their cool because they are just a few good decisions away from changing their life for the better.
7) Focus on the Future
Partners how dwell on the past are hard on the head and the heart. If you have had problems in the past and your partner can’t leave well enough alone, you might consider finding someone new.
You should be with someone who focuses on building a future, not dragging up the past to pick a fight.
Being with someone who is open-minded and forward-facing makes getting through life’s troubles easier and your relationship is more likely to succeed in the long run.
Bonus 8) Passionate in bed
I left this one last, but it’s important.
The bedroom is the one place can express your love physically for each other. It’s a place to show that you truly care for each other, and that your love for them springs throughout your whole body.
But if they’re not really passionate when they’re making love, and they’re only going through the motions forgetting whether you’re enjoying it or not, then it might be a sign that they’re not really going to be there for you when you need it, physically and emotionally.
I have one question for you…
Are you frustrated with dating and finding a quality boyfriend?
Finding the right guy and building a relationship with him isn’t as easy as swiping left or right.
I’ve been in contact with countless woman who start dating someone only to encounter really serious red flags.
Or they’re stuck in a relationship that’s just not working for them.
No one wants to waste their time. We just want to find the person that we’re meant to be with. We all (both women and men) want to be in a deep passionate relationship.
But how do you find the right man for you and establish a happy, satisfying relationship with him?
Maybe you need to enlist the help of a professional relationship coach…
Introducing a breakthrough new book
I’ve reviewed a lot of dating books on Hack Spirit and a new one just came to my attention. And it’s good. The Devotion System by Amy North is a welcome addition to the online world of relationship advice.
A professional relationship coach by trade, Ms. North offers up her own comprehensive advice on how to find, keep, and nurture a loving relationship to women everywhere.
Add to that actionable psychology- and science-based tips on texting, flirting, reading him, seducing him, satisfying him and more, and you have a book that will be incredibly useful to its owner.
This book will be very helpful for any woman struggling to find and keep a quality man.
In fact, I liked the book so much that I decided to write an honest, unbiased review of it.
One reason I found The Devotion System so refreshing is that Amy North is relatable for many women. She’s smart, insightful and straightforward, she tells it like it is, and she cares about her clients.
That fact is clear from the very beginning.
If you’re frustrated by continuously meeting disappointing men or by your inability to build a meaningful relationship when a good one comes along, then this book is a must-read.
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Putting yourself first in 2022
Hey, Lachlan from Hack Spirit here.
What’s your number one goal for 2022?
Is it to buy that car you’ve been saving up for?
To finally start that side-hustle that’ll hopefully help you quit your 9-5 one day?
Or to take the leap and finally ask your partner to move in?
Whatever it is, you’re not going to get there, unless you’ve got a plan.
And even then…plans fail.
But I didn’t write this to you to be the voice of doom and gloom…it’s the start of a new year after all!
No, I emailed you because I want to help you achieve the goal (or goals) you’ve set.
I’ve recently been taking part in a workshop called Life Journal created by teacher and career coach Jeanette Brown.
Covering all the basics and more on what’s needed to reach your goals, Jeannette tackles everything from creating habits and new behavior patterns to putting your plans into action.
She doesn’t mess around – this workshop will require effort on your part but that’s the beauty of it – Jeanette has carefully designed it to put YOU in the driving seat of your life.
So…think back to that important goal I asked about at the start of this message.
How much do you want it?
Are you willing to put the effort in to get there?
If so, check out the workshop here.
If you do take part, I’d love to hear how your Life Journey goes!
All the best,
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