10 honest reasons your ex blocked you, even if you didn’t do anything

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You can honestly say that, despite everything, you’ve done your best to be a good ex.

You didn’t mope around them or beat them over the head with the breakup.

So you simply don’t understand why they blocked you all of a sudden.

In this article, I will give you ten honest reasons your ex blocked you even if you didn’t do anything.

1) They feel guilty over the whole thing

If they’re the one who left you or if they were the reason why your relationship fell apart in the first place, then they might be struggling with strong feelings of guilt.

Perhaps your ex has had enough of feeling guilty every time they see your name in their contacts, of that voice in their head going “you shouldn’t have left!” or “you cheater!”

And while some of us might prefer to just grin and bear the guilt or even ask for forgiveness, there are many who would rather not deal with it and just run away.

Your ex, for one reason or another, decided that “running away” is their best course of action. So they decided that they should cut you out of their life—completely.

2) They want a brand-new start

Another possible reason is that they simply want a brand-new start. And that means leaving the past behind.

There are people who simply can’t have their brand new start if they don’t wipe the slate clean and drop all of their past baggage.

For example, they might have decided that they want to start dating again and they want to do it without being burdened by the urge to keep comparing their potential partners with you.

When this is the case, you will just have to accept it and not take it personally. They probably still like you, but they just can’t move on if you’re always within reach.

3) Their new partner is jealous

Another possibility is that while they’re totally fine keeping you as a friend while starting over, their new partner isn’t.

It’s regrettable, but some people simply aren’t comfortable knowing that their partners are still friends with their exes. Even if you and your ex have no plans to get back together, their new partner will assume that it might happen anyways.

So, as unfortunate as it may be, your ex will have to cut off all contact with you if your ex is to keep their current partner.

It’s immature thinking, but sadly you can’t force someone to be more mature than they already are.

It’s not your place to make your ex choose to hang out with you instead of the person they’re currently dating either.

4) They’re just too madly in love with you

Some people just can’t help but love hard, and those feelings just don’t go away no matter how hard they try.

Trying to be “just friends” with you is, for them, an uphill battle.

They might be able to manage for a time, but what they actually want is to run into your arms and dote on you.

And should they catch wind of the fact that you’re dating someone new, or are getting back into dating again… well, it’d be devastating for them and their poor heart, to say the least.

There’s no “middle ground” for the two of you as far as they’re concerned. Either you’re total strangers, or you’re dating.

And, well, seeing as you two aren’t dating, the choice has been made for them.

5) They want to stop being dependent on you

You might have been in a situation where, despite being exes, you spend a lot of time helping each other—being there for one another.

All was well and good until they realized that the two of you are falling into co-dependence, and they want out before you end up relying on each other too much.

Perhaps your break-up might have even been because the two of you had become too codependent, and that had led to your relationship growing toxic and disintegrating.

Being friends with each other worked for a while… until it did not, and as the two of you fell back to familiar habits you realized that it’s just too hard to follow through if you’re still in contact.

So, for their sake and yours, they decided to take the only option that makes sense—to cut you off completely.

6) They’re jealous of your success

You saw success in your career, found a happy relationship, and went out to travel the world to your heart’s content. You’re happy and thriving like never before.

A few months later, you notice that your ex had blocked you, and this is most likely because they were jealous of your brand-new life.

They see you being happy and wonder “why weren’t you that happy when we were together?”.

They see you being with someone new and wonder “what do they have that I don’t?”

And then they see your life and wonder “Why did things go so well for you? It should have been me.”

They might have been okay with staying friends with you for a while, but as you kept on rising higher and higher in life, they just can’t help but take your success as a personal insult.

So, to spare themselves the emotional turmoil, they cut you off.

7) They realized they’re really too hurt

They might have brushed it off at first, but now they just can’t deny it—they’re hurt badly, and they have put the blame on you.

Perhaps you might have cheated on them or tried to manipulate their emotions, and memories of those times pissed them off. Or perhaps the break-up itself was a painful thing for them.

So despite everything—and that includes any love that still beats within their heart—they decided that they really should just cut you off from their life.

This remains a valid reason even if it’s been months or even years from your breakup.

Some people take their time to realize things that they might have not even bothered to think over deeply enough.

8) It’s their way to get your attention

Some people are just naturally sneaky and manipulative. And if you know that your ex is one, then this might be their latest ploy to have you looking their way.

This is an especially likely reason if they’re especially loud about blocking you. Some people are fine just tapping that “block this person?” pop-up, but not them—they just have to rant about it out in public for all to see.

It’s not always the most effective way to catch people’s attention—plenty of people react to these displays with annoyance.

But hey, there IS a chance it would work and that you’d chase after them because of it.

In fact, if they’re especially bold, they might simply approach you and tell you outright that they have to block you because they’re falling in love with you all over again… only to quietly unblock you after a while.

This is not to say that they’re actually in love with you still, because there’s a chance that they’re simply crazy about having you in their life.

This whole blocking thing is one of the few ways they have power over you in this “stage” of your non-relationship, and they might as well exercise it.

9) They’ve become a different person

Hey, this is supposed to be a No-BS list, right? So let me just put this on the list for you.

It’s possible that they blocked you because they have grown as a person—for better or for worse—and suddenly found the idea of having even dated you cringe-worthy.

For example, perhaps you had said things during the relationship that they now take issue with, or perhaps their values have changed and are now in opposition with yours.

This is usually the case if you’ve been together when you’re 21 or younger. As teens, we were hormonal and fell in love way too easily… even with the wrong person.

Change and growth is a natural part of human life and, sadly, sometimes it can make us get embarrassed at or resent something in the past so much that we’d rather forget it even happened.

10) It’s just how they move on

It’s possible that when you two broke up and decided to stay friends, they really didn’t move on.

Instead, they sat down and waited for things to get better, hoping that the two of you would get back together in the end.

They might have hoped that this breakup of yours is just a phase.

But then that didn’t happen. So after so much time waiting in vain, they finally decided to move on.

Again, you might think they already did, but they actually didn’t. The first day of them moving on was when they decided to block you.

It’s a way of telling you “I can’t wait around pretending to be a friend anymore.” and it’s a way for them to tell themselves that enough is enough—that it’s really, really, really time to move on. And for real this time around.

What to do if your ex blocked you

1) Shrug it off

It’s not you, it’s them.

You did your best to be a good ex despite your former relationship together.

They had their own reasons for blocking you, and sometimes it might not be what you think it is.

When in doubt, remember that you’re exes. They don’t owe you anything—not friendship, not any explanation, not even kindness. So you might as well go on with your life.

2) If you’re still in love, confront them one last time

If you feel like there is still a sliver of hope—that they are just playing mind games on you to win you back, then you might as well act now or forever hold your peace.

But how do you get your ex back when they just blocked you?

Well, for starters you can try to respark their interest with you.

Not easy, but you can know exactly how if you check out this free video by the renowned relationship expert Brad Browning.

Getting your ex back becomes that much easier when the feeling is mutual—when you get to that point it’s just all about being honest with one another.

Until then, you can try to keep building that bridge between the two of you. And Brad Browning’s advice will be invaluable if you want to build that bridge.

 Here’s a link to his free video again.

3) Make peace with not knowing the answer

This list above can give you some ideas of why an ex would block you, but unless your ex says it straight to your face, you’ll never know for sure.

So that’s why you shouldn’t waste your sleep by thinking about it all night.

Hell, sometimes, even they don’t even know the answer.

And the best way to deal with it is by being graceful—by being okay with not knowing why, and just living your life the way you should.

Always remember, if they really love you enough, they will make the move, and blocking you is definitely not it.

Last words

It’s hard to find yourself suddenly blocked by an ex that you thought you were on good terms with.

But sometimes, things simply happen and whatever reason they might have for blocking you, it’s best to just let it be.

There’s a lot of fish in the sea, and sometimes it’s just better for the two of you to go your own ways.

Perhaps, someday, you might even find yourself being the one on the blocking end…and by then you’ll know exactly why your ex did it.

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Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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