Finding a good man is hard to do.

Sorry guys, but the standards by which women are choosing partners continue to rise.

Women need to feel safe and loved in a relationship, and while that can be achieved outside the bedroom, paying attention to how a man treats in you the bedroom can also be a sure sign that he really loves you.

Here are 16 things that a man does in bed if he really loves you. If you’ve been wondering whether or not he’s marriage material, here’s how you can know for sure.

1) He Enjoys Kissing

While a “quickie” is in order every now and then, a man who really loves will want to hold you and kiss you for long periods of time.

He won’t be in a rush to get to the main attraction just yet. He’ll spend time looking into your eyes and caressing your face. He’ll pay attention to you. And you’ll love it!

2) He Loves All of Your Body

If you’ve ever seen a guy slap a girl’s ass and think that it was a terrible display of public affection, you’d be wrong.

Men who are comfortable enough with their lovers to exhibit those kinds of displays of public affection are really in love.

They pay attention to all of a woman’s body, inside and outside of the bedroom. If your man likes to grab your ass when you walk by, consider it a compliment.

3) He Nuzzles Your Chest

Sure, he probably wants to get close to your breasts, but it’s more likely that he wants to feel close to you.

Getting close and nuzzling your chest lets him hear your heartbeat, and lets him feel safe with you.

Being physically close promotes trust and confidence in the bedroom, and if he wants to get close to you outside of the bedroom, that’s cool too.

He loves your breasts, even if you have small boobs. It doesn’t matter to him. He loves everything about your body.

4) He Doesn’t Just Have Sex With You, He Makes Love to You

There is a difference, of course, between sex and making love. If your guy is all about wham! Bam! Thank you mame, then he might not be the kind of guy you want to marry.

If, however, he is patient and kind and considerate of your needs, and he’s not racing against a ticking clock, he could be worthy of your love forever.

5) He Tells You His Fantasies

Sharing sexual fantasies requires a level of trust that many people never get to with their partners.

If you are going to marry someone, he needs to be able to share his fantasies with you, and you need to share your fantasies with him.



If you can’t be honest about what you want and need in the bedroom, what’s the point?

6) He Wants to Cuddle

After sex, he doesn’t jump out of bed and get dressed to get on with his day. Surely this has happened to you at least once in your life, and you know the sting it can leave behind when you are hoping to get some snuggle time in after sex.

If he hangs around and wants to hold you, he’s the kind of guy you should marry.

7) He Exhibits Manners In and Out of the Bedroom

Kind and gentle men often make the best lovers because they ensure that their partners enjoy themselves as much as he is enjoying himself.

A generous lover understands that men and women have different needs and that there’s no need to rush any of it.

If you find yourself in a relationship with a guy who is kind and considerate in his everyday life, he’s likely going to be a kind and considerate partner in the bedroom.

You might not think that a robust and healthy sex life is important to a long-term relationship.

Are your parents still having sex at their age? Hopefully.

Sex is natural and a wonderful part of life and if you are lucky enough to find someone who rocks your world, hang on to them.

If you can share the most intimate parts of being human together, you can share anything.

8) He Talks Low and Slow

If there’s one sure fire way to get your girl all riled up, it’s whispering in her ear.

Women love the closeness and passion that comes out of a whisper session.

And what’s great about whispering in her ear is that it is the right move regardless of where you are in your love-making session.

It’s he does this trick, try to keep this man for years to come.

9) He Gives Her All The Details

While it is already a pretty effective move to tell a woman she’s beautiful while you’re getting close, if he takes it one step further and tells her why he thinks your beautiful, then you’ve got to him lots of brownie points.



If he wants you to know exactly what he likes about you so that you feel comfortable around him and they’re not just those generic lines that other guys use, then he’s a keeper.

10) He Asks and Listens

He takes the time to ask her what she wants.

You might be shy about it at first, but he encourages you to be honest with him so you can both enjoy the company of one another in bed without holding back.

When you’re telling him what you like, he is attentive and encourages you to be as open as possible.

He doesn’t laugh or judge. He treats it as an intimate moment that could pay off big time for the both of you.

11) He Takes His Time

Do the words, “there’s no rush” mean anything to you? They should.

When it comes to the bedroom, he takes his time with everything he does.

He gives you his undivided attention and ensures he takes his time to enjoy the moment and the beautiful experience you are sharing together. He just wants the emotional and sexual connection you’re engaging lasts for as long as it can.

12) He Goes With It

Some women like to be in charge, while others are perfectly happy to sit back and let the guy do all the heavy lifting.

He wants you to be you when you’re in the bedroom. He wants to know how you operate: if you are the take-charge kind of gal, he might like it if you play the dominant role for a while.

He doesn’t try to guess what you want in bed. He asks!



He owns up to the fact he doesn’t know everything about sex and this opens a whole other opportunity to talk about your sex life.

13) It’s Not a Race To Him

He remembers that one of the best parts about being together is that you get to BE together, so he doesn’t rush to the finish line and then be done.

He wants to keep you interested and wants to be with you, so he pays attention to where’s you’re at in your pleasure center. This isn’t a single’s ride to him.

14) He Tries New Things

He doesn’t want to get wild and crazy, but he finds fun to experiment a little and share new experiences.

You don’t always have to be “in bed” to be “in bed.” Take your cues from one another and if it feel right, go for it.

15) He Lets You Take Your Toys to Bed

There’s no reason to be embarrassed about sex toys; in fact, they can really enhance your sex life.

If you’ve got them, he lets you use them. Sex doesn’t have to be so serious. You can have a lot of fun together if you let go of you inhabilitions.

16) He Pays Attention to the Non-Verbals

Men sometimes miss the non-verbal cues women send them because they are expecting women to tell them what they want.

But if your man understands your body language and what you’re really feeling, hold onto him.

So consider this list the next time you meet a new man, and ask yourself if he is marriage material using this handy list.

Remember to think about what is important to you as well – if you don’t like cuddling, don’t marry a guy who wants to cuddle all the time. Obviously.

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