7 little actions that show he loves you more than words can say

It’s been 20 years since The Notebook was released, but still, I feel the need to go on about it.

I mean, it’s Rachel McAdams and Ryan Gosling (aka Ken)—can you blame a girl?

What I love about The Notebook is that it is so, so far from being your typical love story. And I say this because Gosling’s character Noah Calhoun, isn’t all talk (though let’s face it, he is pretty damn good at that).

Instead, he’s a guy with a heart of gold who loves to show it in practical ways and tangible actions. And of course, we love that.

Along with writing a letter to his lover Allie Hamilton every single day for a whole year, he builds her the dream house they always talked about.

He is a man who truly wants to show his love in every way possible.

If you’re looking for little actions—okay, not quite building an entire house—that will help you to decode whether your guy is truly in love with you, we can certainly help with that.

Here are seven signs he loves you more than words can say:

1) He gives you thoughtful, meaningful presents

Has he been giving you sweet, meaningful presents lately? Ones that are super personal an specific to you? Then you can take it as a sign of his devotion to you.

These presents aren’t just material items, they’re ways to convey feelings that words sometimes can’t capture. 

When your love takes the time to choose a gift that resonates with you, it’s like they’ve tuned into the very depths of your heart. They get you.

If you need help feeling it, I want you to try this: picture your significant other wandering through the aisles or scrolling sites online, carefully picking out something that they believe will make you smile. 

So, when you unwrap a present and find something that aligns with your passions, interests, or even inside jokes, it means they possess a deep understanding of who you are as person—as well as a desire to make you happy. 

2) He takes care of you when you aren’t feeling well

From brewing the perfect cup of ginger tea to tending to the smallest needs, these heartfelt actions echo a deep understanding of your vulnerability and a commitment to stand by you in sickness and in health.

But when your partner does take care of you when you’re feeling under the weather, it’s not just about offering chicken soup or fetching medications—it’s about love in action. 

By performing these seemingly small acts, it shows their genuine concern and willingness to prioritize your well-being when you need them most. 

It’s an act loaded with empathy; they truly care about your comfort and recovery. 

Them stepping into the role of a caregiver is a kind of wordless affirmation that your happiness and health are intertwined with their own. Consider it a love letter written in action.

3) He looks at you with an undeniable look of love

Alright, let’s talk about that heart-melting look he gives you. 

You know the one! Time seems to stand still and it feels like the whole universe is in on your little love story.

It’s that unmistakable gaze filled with yearning, passion, and love. It’s not just any look—it’s like he’s revealing his soul through his eyes, and then every romantic movie moment floods your mind, like many of Noah and Allie’s moments in The Notebook.

Do you remember that one scene where they lock eyes after spending years and years apart, and you can practically feel the intensity through the screen? Ah!

That’s the kind of magic you’ve got going on with him. Your guy’s look is like a silent conversation that says, “You and me—we’ve got something special.” 

So, when you notice him giving you that look, it’s perfectly acceptable to treat it as your own personal rom-com moment. 

Embrace it, soak it in, and let it be a chapter in the sweet love story you two are writing together. 

4) He knows all your favorite things, like color, restaurant and clothing brand

When your man remembers all the seemingly little things—your favorite color, your go-to sushi restaurant, and the sustainable clothing brand you swear by—it’s not just random.

It’s a clear sign that he’s paying attention. Not in a creepy way, but in a “I’m invested in this relationship” way!

When he surprises you by incorporating these preferences into your life, it’s basically his way of saying that he totally sees you.

It’s a low-key declaration of love, sure, but still, it’s one that says a whole lot.

It shows he’s actively tuning in to your likes and dislikes, making an effort to make your world a little brighter. 

5) He tries to get involved with your hobbies

Ever found that he tries to make sushi with you, even though he has zero culinary skills? Noticed how he’s recently purchased roller skates after he saw you had a pair? Has he recently signed up to the same climbing gym you go to every Thursday night?

This very proactive engagement with your interests and hobbies is a subtle but powerful sign of affection. 

When a man goes the extra mile to dive into your world of hobbies, it’s more than just a way for them to fill their time or cure their boredom, it’s a sign they might be in love with you.

The details matter—the missteps on roller skates, the triumphs on the climbing wall, and the laughter over severely lopsided sushi rolls—and are a sign of all the lengths they’re willing to go to in order to connect with you on a deeper level.

He’s telling you that your joy is his joy, and your passions are worth exploring as a team.

6) He likes showing you off to his family and friends

When your partner introduces you to their family and friends, and speaks of your achievements, it reflects their deep emotions and strong commitment to your relationship

This is a public affirmation of your importance in their life. By showcasing your connection in a social setting, he is declaring that your relationship is something he cherishes and wants others to see, too.

Taking you to social gatherings with their family and friends signifies pride in having you by their side. 

It’s a non-verbal way of signaling, “This is the person I care about, and I want the whole world to know.”

Also, this behavior often indicates a desire for a long-term commitment

By integrating you into their social sphere, your partner is showing that they see a future with you, involving shared experiences with the people closest to them. 

Introducing you to family and friends may also be a way of seeking approval and building a support system for your relationship.

Your partner values the opinions of those around them and wants to ensure a positive environment for your connection. 

Moreover, it’s a way of creating a shared identity. 

By including you in their social circles, your partner is emphasizing that your life is intertwined with theirs. 

7) He made you a deeply personal playlist of songs

Crafting a playlist speaks volumes about the depth of emotions he has for you. 

The significance of his song selection lies not only in the songs themselves but also in the shared moments they represent. 

Whether tied to cherished memories, little inside jokes, or special occasions, each song becomes a reminder of your unique journey together.

The creation of such a playlist requires meticulous attention to detail. It is, in essence, a personalized creation tailored specifically to you.

Sharing one’s musical preferences can also be a hugely vulnerable act, akin to opening up a part of one’s soul. 

Final thoughts

In the world of love stories, The Notebook’s Noah Calhoun teaches us that true love goes beyond just saying it.

It’s seen in your man’s thoughtful gifts, caring for you during sickness, and that special look of love that speaks volumes. 

These little actions show that love is more than words—it’s a unique combination of gestures that make for enduring relationships.

Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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