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Is karma real when it comes to relationships? 10 signs it is

All relationships create karma – not just your romantic ones.

As the golden rule for life states: do unto others as you would like done unto you.

In a relationship, you spend a lot of time with your partner and find yourselves intrinsically connected.

This might have you wondering: will karma come around if I break up with him? Will karma get him back if he cheats on me? What role exactly does karma play in our relationship.

As you might expect, things are never black and white. But here are some signs to look out for that show karma is very real in your relationships.

How does Karma work in relationships?

Yes, in all your relationships in life.

You are with the person you’re with right now because of karma.

You broke up with exs in the past because of the same karma.

It also rings true of your relationships at work, with friends and so on.

It stands to reason, that with good karma backing you, your relationships will thrive and flourish enabling you to lead a peaceful, happy life.

But, of course, it doesn’t mean you can avoid heartache completely. After all, karma knows when to end things with someone who isn’t right for you. It’s karmas job to point you to something better.

The opposite is true of bad karma. If you allow that to prevail in your life, then you will find yourself stuck in toxic relationships with no way out.

It leads to a long life of turmoil and unhappiness.

Karma and love

As we’ve established, karma exists in all your relationships. So naturally, you will find it in your love life.

If you cheat on your ex, then you can expect Karma will make you pay the price down the track. You create a lot of bad Karma in your own life.

The same is true when you nurture these romantic relationships and do your best to help them thrive. Good things are coming your way.

You may also experience Karmic relationships. These can be likened to soulmates or twin flames – but they aren’t nearly as smooth sailing or healing.

Sparks fly the minute you lay eyes on that person. You’re instantly attracted to them. It’s your very own cliched love story. You can’t eat, can’t breathe, can’t live without this person. But that doesn’t mean you’re going to get your happily ever after.

As Carrie Bradshaw said in Sex and the City, “’Some loves aren’t epic novels, some are short stories,’ but that doesn’t make them any less filled with love and learning.”

A Karmic relationship is one we’re meant to learn from. There are twin flame relationship problems and soul connections that you experience that are meant to act as a guide. To help you grow your soul and help clear that Karma between the two of you.

As a result, these relationships tend to be very tumultuous and whirlwind.

They are essential doomed to fail…

You often aren’t even aware you’re in a Karmic relationship at the time, which is the hardest part. You feel like you’re meant to be with this person, yet the relationship simply doesn’t seem to work despite your best efforts. It’s emotionally exhausting.

Here are 10 signs of Karmic relationships, so you can work out if you’re experiencing one.

10 signs of a Karmic relationship

1) You feel an instant connection

There’s no denying that you’re attracted to this person right from the outset.

It almost seems too good to be true.

Your souls are connected in a way that you can’t explain.

You might experience love at first sight, or the butterflies take over and you feel weak just at the thought of them.

In fact, picture every single Disney princess movie and it’s just like that. It almost doesn’t seem real.

It’s because you and your partner have already met each other in a past life. Your souls already know each other and are drawn together through this karmic energy.

That’s why you have experienced such an instant bond between the two of you.

Of course, this bond is also felt through twin flame relationships, as once again, your souls are connected and already know each other. In this case, it’s like they have been split in two with this person. Twin flame relationships have a much better chance at a happy ending, so don’t rule it out without some of the other signs below.

2) There’s a lot of drama

While it’s true that no relationships are completely free of drama, there are some that attract it a lot more than others.

In a karmic relationship, you can expect constant turmoil. It’s almost like being on a rollercoaster ride. So many ups and downs to get you through. Even when it’s smooth sailing, you feel unsettled and like there is a pit in your something.

That’s because you recognise that at any moment your relationship could take another dip. It’s this drama that also lends itself to the break up/make up style of relationship that many karmic relationships progress through.

You never know quite where you stand with your other half. It’s like living with one eye over your shoulder looking out for whatever is next to come.

3) You’re both dependent on each other

Thanks to that instant connection you felt with this person at the start of the relationship, you often develop a co-dependency with them.

This goes both ways.

That connection is so intense right from the outset, that you find it hard to leave them alone. This feeling will almost certainly feel mutual.

How can you tell if you’re experiencing this?

Think about the other relationships you have in your life: friends, family, work colleagues…

Have any of those been neglected since you started seeing your partner? Has anyone complained about not being able to see you as much? Have you found your friend circle has shrunk?

These are all signs that you have become reliant on your partner. While it might sound nice in theory, it’s not a sign of a healthy relationship. You each need your own space and time to spend with those around you.

It’s time to seek that out.

4) You aren’t great at communicating

Despite this deep connection you share and the co-dependency you have developed for each other, the two of you don’t communicate well together at all.

In a karmic relationship, you often struggle to understand each other. As a direct result, a lot of miscommunication seeps its way into the fold.

You end up arguing over very small and insignificant things, just because you’re unable to read each other or notice the signals they’re giving off.

On one hand, you feel so connected and in sync with each other, while on the other it’s like you don’t even know who the person is.

5) They’re addicting

That’s right, karmic relationships are very addictive.

Your souls are so connected, you can’t get enough of this person. When you aren’t around them, they’re the only person on your mind.

You want to spend all your time with them, at the expense of everything else in your life.

For many, they see it as love.

But love doesn’t take you away from everything else in your life. A relationship founded on love will build you up in all areas. It will allow you the space you need to grow as an individual, while also growing together as a couple.

Karmic relationships don’t allow for any of this breathing room. They’re intense and they’re hard to break.

Just like any other addiction, they’re hard to break free from. You find yourself in a cycle, despite recognising that things aren’t the way they’re supposed to be.

6) It’s repetitive

This is one of the main characteristics of a karmic relationship.

The repetitive behaviour you both go through causes fights to occur again and again about the same issues over and over.

Just because you share a strong soul connection, doesn’t mean the two of you are actually compatible with each other.

You’ll find you experience lots of arguments over behaviours and expectations you have of each other.

Normal relationships between two compatible people are hard at the best of times. The incompatibility from karmic relationships leads to a lot more arguing and fighting between the two of you.

You fight, you make up, you’re good for a while and then the pattern starts all over again. It’s draining to say the least.

7) They’re exhausting

Do you feel constantly tired?

Like some days you don’t even have the energy to argue back.

Karmic relationships are very draining and have this effect on you. With all the ups and downs, the miscommunication, the arguments, the co-dependency, the addiction…Then on top of that, there’s the fear of whether or not things are going to end.

It’s no wonder you feel completely wiped and drained at the end of each and every day.

A karmic relationship is physically, mentally and emotionally exhausting and so hard to break free of.

Just being around this other person is enough to make you feel exhausted at the end of each day.

If you’re feeling completely worn out as result of your relationship, then it’s a strong sign that you’re experiencing a karmic relationship.

8) There are red flags

You might have noticed the red flags already in your own relationship.

It can be tempting to overlook and make excuses for them, but it’s important to recognise them for what they are.

From angry outbursts to controlling behaviours, karmic relationships are extremely passionate. It is this passion that brings out the worst in people.

You’ll likely even notice it in yourself. You will change when you’re around this person and show a side of yourself that you don’t enjoy.

You can’t be the best version of yourself, because your partner essentially brings out the worst in you.

This isn’t a healthy relationship for either of you.

9) You feel like you can’t let go

You know this relationship isn’t right for you.

You know it isn’t going to last.

But at the end of the day, you just can’t let go of this other person. You can’t break that soul connection the two of you have.

If you feel like you can’t leave your relationship, even though it’s toxic, it’s a good sign you’re in a karmic relationship.

Karmic relationships are extremely hard to resist. They draw you back in time and time again, despite your best efforts.

10) It doesn’t last

One of the undeniable signs you’ve been experiencing a karmic relationship is that it doesn’t last.

Of course, this is something you can only read into in hindsight – not something you can recognise while in the actual relationship.

The fact is, karmic relationships are not the real deal. They are not designed to stand the test of time. It’s about healing your souls and past hurts and using your newfound good karma to move on with your life.

A fresh start. A new beginning.

It’s a chance to start over again.

It’s a teaching moment in your life, and now’s your chance to take what you’ve learned and move onto something better.

Ending your karmic relationship

Now you understand that karma has a very real place in your relationships, it’s tempting to end it then and there.

Karmic relationships come into our lives for a reason. They have something very important to teach us, as long as we’re ready to listen.

They serve the purpose of helping to heal our soul and correct past hurts.

The idea is that the souls know each other from a past life and have met in this life to try and work things out.

These relationships do have a chance to grow, but more often than not, you can expect to break up. While moving on from any relationship is hard, it’s helpful to understand that you do need to let this person go.

It’s never going to work out and you don’t want to find yourself stuck in the perpetual highs and lows of this exhausting relationship.

But, you do have to be ready to walk away. If you’re not there yet, then it’s likely that your past hurts are yet to be healed and there’s still more to gain from the relationship.

Ride it out, and know that better things are coming for you. Karma will be on your side once again.

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Written by Felicity Frankish

My name is Felicity (Flick) Frankish and I am mum to Cassandra, Vivienne and Elliot. After studying journalism and digital media, I naturally fell into the online world - and hasn't left since!

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