If you’ve experienced these 9 things in life, you’re emotionally wiser than the average person

The journey of life is a constant teacher, offering lessons that shape our emotional wisdom. This wisdom, unlike academic knowledge or technical skills, can’t be gained from textbooks. It’s sculpted through the raw experiences of joy, pain, triumphs and setbacks.

Emotional wisdom is the ability to navigate through life’s complexities with resilience, empathy, and a deep understanding of oneself and others. It’s not about age or intelligence, it’s about experiences and the insights derived from them.

If you’ve navigated certain experiences in life, chances are you’ve developed an emotional wisdom that sets you apart from the average person. Let’s explore these experiences and see how they contribute to shaping emotional wisdom.

1) You’ve faced adversity

Life’s greatest lessons often come wrapped in trials and tribulations. When you face adversity, you’re given a unique opportunity to test your resilience and develop emotional wisdom.

Adversity can take many forms – loss, failure, illness, or heartbreak. It’s not an experience anyone seeks out, yet it’s an inevitable part of the human journey.

Through these tough times, we’re forced to confront our fears, challenge our limiting beliefs, and dig deep into our reservoirs of strength.

When we navigate these storms successfully, we come out on the other side stronger and wiser. We gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and others, and develop a more profound appreciation for life’s joys and victories.

Experiencing adversity doesn’t automatically make us emotionally wiser. But if we’re willing to embrace these experiences as opportunities for growth and learning, they can become powerful catalysts for our emotional evolution.

2) You’ve learned to embrace failure

In our success-driven society, failure is often painted as something to be feared and avoided at all costs. But personally, I’ve found that the path to emotional wisdom often leads straight through the heart of failure.

When we fail, it provides us with a chance to recalibrate, learn, and grow. It’s in these moments of defeat that we gain invaluable insights into our character, our resilience, and our ability to adapt.

If you’ve experienced failure and have used it as a stepping stone towards personal growth, your emotional wisdom is likely well beyond average.

Failure isn’t the opposite of success. It’s a stepping stone along the journey. As Thomas Edison, a man who knew something about embracing failure, once said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

This mindset is a potent testament to the power of resilience and the wisdom that comes from embracing every experience as an opportunity for growth.

3) You’ve learned to let go of the ‘good person’ ideal

One of the profound experiences that can shape our emotional wisdom is finding the courage to let go of the constant need to be a ‘good person’. This may sound counterintuitive, but bear with me.

The desire to be good all the time can lead to internal criticism, judgment of others, and can make us easily manipulated.

In my journey, I’ve found that holding on too tightly to this ideal can stifle authenticity and personal growth. On the other hand, releasing the need to always be ‘good’ in the eyes of others allows for a more authentic, fulfilling life.

For a deeper dive into this concept, I invite you to watch my video where I explore why it’s important to give up on the idea of constantly being a “good person.”

If you found this insightful and want to join over 20,000 others who are exploring living a life with more purpose and freedom, I’d love for you to subscribe to my YouTube channel. Together, we can continue this journey towards emotional wisdom.

4) You’ve taken responsibility for your life

One of the most raw, honest truths that separates the emotionally wise from the average is the willingness to take full responsibility for their lives. This is a far cry from blaming external circumstances or other people for the hardships we face.

Emotional wisdom grows when we understand that our power lies not in controlling everything around us, but in our ability to control our reactions and responses. This is where true empowerment and resilience are born.

Taking responsibility doesn’t mean ignoring the influence of external factors on our lives. It’s about recognizing them, and then focusing on what we can change – our attitudes, actions, and responses.

If you’ve made this shift from blaming to owning your life, then you’ve taken a significant step towards emotional wisdom. This isn’t an easy path, but it’s one that leads to personal freedom and resilience.

It’s about living authentically, in alignment with your values, and becoming a force for positive change in your own life and the world around you.

5) You’ve embraced the transformative power of self-awareness

Emotional wisdom and self-awareness go hand in hand. It’s impossible to cultivate one without the other. Self-awareness is the foundation that allows us to understand our emotions, motivations, and responses to various situations in life.

The path towards self-awareness often requires confronting our fears, challenging limiting beliefs, and cultivating self-compassion. It’s about doing the inner work that can sometimes be uncomfortable but ultimately leads to personal growth.

If you’ve made a commitment to self-awareness and have engaged in the transformative process of inner work, your emotional wisdom is likely more developed than the average person.

This commitment to self-awareness is a journey, not a destination, but it’s a journey that leads to a more authentic, fulfilling life.

For those who are interested in exploring this concept further, I invite you to watch my video on “the illusion of happiness” where I discuss how true contentment comes from within by embracing life’s challenges, fostering meaningful relationships, and staying true to oneself.

6) You’ve learned to appreciate loneliness

Loneliness is a feeling most people want to avoid. It’s uncomfortable, often painful, and can make us feel isolated and disconnected. However, if you’ve experienced periods of loneliness and learned to appreciate them, you’ve gained a level of emotional wisdom that’s quite rare.

Appreciating loneliness doesn’t mean wallowing in self-pity or despair.

Instead, it’s about recognizing that these moments of solitude can provide a unique opportunity for self-reflection and insight. It’s during these times that we can gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and our needs.

Loneliness can also foster resilience, as it teaches us how to be comfortable with ourselves and our thoughts. It encourages us to develop a more profound sense of self-compassion and understanding.

If you’ve learned to appreciate the periods of loneliness in your life, you’ve likely gained a depth of emotional wisdom not common in the average person.

7) You’ve learned to value authentic relationships over superficial ones

In a world that often values quantity of connections over quality, choosing to cultivate fewer but more meaningful relationships is a sign of emotional wisdom.

This isn’t about becoming a hermit or shunning social interactions. It’s about recognizing the profound impact of authentic connections on our emotional wellbeing.

Authentic relationships, whether they’re friendships, family ties, or romantic partnerships, are built on mutual respect, empathy, and cooperation.

They provide the emotional support we need to grow and thrive. They also teach us invaluable lessons about compromise, understanding, and love.

If you’ve chosen to prioritize authentic relationships in your life, you’ve likely developed a depth of emotional wisdom beyond the average person.

8) You’ve learned to see obstacles as opportunities

Our society often views obstacles as something negative, something that hinders us from achieving our goals. However, if you’ve learned to see obstacles as opportunities for growth and learning, you’re emotionally wiser than the average person.

Embracing challenges rather than dreading them requires a shift in perspective. It’s about understanding that every challenge we face is an opportunity to learn more about ourselves and our capabilities. It’s about tapping into our creative potential to find innovative solutions.

This mindset doesn’t eliminate the difficulties of life. Instead, it equips us with the emotional wisdom to navigate them with resilience and grace.

9) You’ve confronted your fears

Fear can be paralyzing. It can keep us stuck in our comfort zones and prevent us from pursuing our dreams. But if you’ve made the courageous decision to confront your fears, you’ve gained an essential component of emotional wisdom.

Confronting our fears is one of the most challenging things we can do. It requires vulnerability, courage, and a willingness to step into the unknown. But in doing so, we can overcome limitations, build resilience, and unlock our full potential.

Emotional wisdom isn’t about being fearless; it’s about acknowledging your fears and choosing to move forward anyway. If you’ve confronted your fears and used them as catalysts for growth, you’re likely much more emotionally wise than the average person.

Embracing the journey towards emotional wisdom

Emotional wisdom is not an innate trait we’re born with. It’s a skill we develop through the trials and triumphs of life, the moments of solitude, the rich tapestry of relationships, and the courage to confront our fears.

These experiences shape us, molding our emotional wisdom, and ultimately influencing how we navigate the world.

They teach us about resilience, empathy, self-awareness, and authenticity. They remind us that our greatest growth often comes from our most challenging moments.

As you reflect on your own journey, consider the experiences that have shaped your emotional wisdom.

Have you learned to embrace failure and see obstacles as opportunities? Have you prioritized authentic connections over superficial ones? Have you confronted your fears and stepped out of your comfort zones?

These experiences and insights are what set you apart from the average person. They are what make you emotionally wiser.

If you want to join over 20,000 others who are exploring living a life with more purpose and freedom, I’d love for you to subscribe to my YouTube channel. Together, we can continue this journey towards emotional wisdom.

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Justin Brown

Justin Brown is an entrepreneur and thought leader in personal development and digital media, with a foundation in education from The London School of Economics and The Australian National University. As the co-founder of Ideapod, The Vessel, and a director at Brown Brothers Media, Justin has spearheaded platforms that significantly contribute to personal and collective growth. His deep insights are shared on his YouTube channel, JustinBrownVids, offering a rich blend of guidance on living a meaningful and purposeful life.

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