If you want your woman to feel deeply loved, say goodbye to these 8 habits

In love, it’s often the little things that make the biggest difference. It’s not always about grand gestures or expensive gifts; it’s about the habits we form and the way we treat our partners day to day.

As a relationship expert, I’ve seen plenty of well-meaning guys accidentally push their partners away with bad habits they weren’t even aware of.

To truly make your woman feel loved, you’ve got to let go of these patterns.

1) Taking her for granted

This is a pitfall many of us stumble into without even realizing it. You get comfortable, you get used to each other, and before you know it, you’re taking her presence in your life as a given.

Consider this. The woman you love is a unique individual, with her own thoughts, dreams, and desires. And she’s chosen to share her life with you. That’s something special.

It’s easy to forget this in the day-to-day grind of life. But forgetting leads to taking for granted, and that can make her feel unappreciated.

Remember, it doesn’t take grand gestures to make someone feel loved. It’s about showing appreciation for the little things she does, and reminding her (and yourself) why you fell in love with her in the first place.

2) Poor communication

You’ve probably heard it a thousand times: communication is key. And it’s true. But as someone who has been in a long-term relationship myself, I know it’s easier said than done.

We all have our off days, times when we’d rather stay silent than discuss what’s on our minds. But constant poor communication can create a wall between you and your loved one.

You see, love isn’t just about the sparks and butterflies; it’s also about the ability to understand each other deeply and resolve conflicts effectively.

It reminds me of a quote by George Bernard Shaw: “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.”

So don’t just assume she knows what you’re thinking or feeling. Take the time to express yourself clearly, listen to her when she speaks, and make sure your message has truly been understood. This habit makes her feel deeply loved because it shows your respect for her thoughts and feelings.

3) Ignoring her needs and wants

Love, at its core, is about the willingness to put someone else’s needs and wants before your own. But in my experience, many men can forget this as they get caught up in their own world.

From my personal journey and from countless stories shared with me, I can say that ignoring your woman’s needs and wants is a surefire way to make her feel unloved.

You might not do it intentionally, but the impact of such a habit can be profound on your relationship. She might start feeling lonely, unheard, or even unimportant.

In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I delve into how one can become more aware of their partner’s needs and work towards meeting them.

For now, remember this: pay attention to her desires and needs. Listen when she talks about her day or her dreams. Be there for her when she’s dealing with something difficult. It shows her that you genuinely care about her happiness, which makes her feel deeply loved.

4) Always being the ‘fixer’

Sounds counterintuitive, right? As men, we’re often wired to fix things – be it a leaky faucet or a tough situation. You’d think this would make your woman feel loved and protected. But sometimes, it can have the opposite effect.

Here’s why. When she shares her problems with you, she’s not always looking for solutions. More often than not, she just wants to be heard and validated.

When you jump into fixer mode, it sends the message that you’re not truly listening to her feelings or understanding her perspective. It can make her feel dismissed or invalidated.

Next time she opens up about a problem, resist the urge to immediately offer solutions. Instead, listen empathetically, validate her feelings, and ask if she wants your advice before giving it.

5) Neglecting your own self-care

Now this might come as a surprise, but hear me out. How you treat yourself can significantly affect how loved your woman feels.

I’ve learned this the hard way. When I was neglecting my own self-care, it not only affected my mood and energy levels, but it also made my partner feel anxious and unloved.

You see, when you don’t take care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being, it can lead to stress, irritability, and withdrawal. And trust me, these are not the ingredients of a healthy relationship or a partner who feels deeply loved.

So take time for yourself. Exercise regularly, eat healthily, maintain hobbies that you enjoy, and don’t shy away from seeking professional help if you’re feeling overwhelmed.

When you’re at your best, you’re able to give the best to your relationship. She’ll feel more loved when she sees that you value your well-being enough to take care of yourself.

6) Avoiding tough conversations

This is a tough one, and it’s something I see a lot of men do. They avoid difficult conversations because they fear conflict or don’t want to hurt their partner’s feelings.

But here’s the raw truth. Avoiding tough conversations doesn’t protect your relationship; it harms it. It creates a facade of harmony while sweeping real issues under the carpet.

And let me tell you something else. Your woman is stronger than you think. She can handle hard conversations, and she deserves honesty.

Do you have concerns or fears about your relationship? Talk to her. Are there things you’re not happy with? Communicate your feelings respectfully but honestly.

It might be hard at first, but it will lead to a deeper understanding and connection between the two of you. And that, my friend, is how you make your woman feel truly loved.

7) Failing to express love regularly

As a relationship expert and as a woman, I can vouch for this one. Regular expressions of love are crucial in making a woman feel deeply loved.

You may think, “But she knows I love her!” That may be true, but it’s still important to remind her often.

Why? Because love is not just a feeling; it’s an action. It’s something you demonstrate through your words and actions every day.

I’m reminded of this quote by Stephen R. Covey: “Love is a verb. Love – the feeling – is the fruit of love the verb or our loving actions. So love her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her.”

Take it from him and tell her you love her. Show her through your actions. Be consistent with your expressions of love, and she’ll never doubt how much she means to you.

8) Trying to change her

Here’s something raw and honest for you: If you’re constantly trying to change your woman, it’s going to make her feel unloved.

Why? Because it sends a message that she’s not good enough as she is, that she needs to be different for you to love her.

Now, don’t get me wrong. We all have areas we can improve in, and it’s okay to encourage each other to be our best selves. But there’s a fine line between encouraging growth and trying to mold someone into what you want them to be.

She’s not a project for you to fix or alter according to your preferences. She’s a person with her own unique traits, quirks, and characteristics.

So accept her for who she is. Celebrate her uniqueness instead of trying to change it. That’s how she’ll know she’s truly loved.

Final thoughts

And there you have it – 8 habits you need to say goodbye to if you want your woman to feel deeply loved. It’s not about perfection, but about making conscious efforts to build a more loving and fulfilling relationship.

For more insights and strategies on creating a healthy relationship, check out my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship.

Remember, love is a journey, not a destination. Be patient with yourself and your partner as you embark on this path of deeper love and connection.

Did you like my article? Like me on Facebook to see more articles like this in your feed.

Tina Fey

I'm Tina Fey, the founder of the blog Love Connection. I've extremely passionate about sharing relationship advice. I've studied psychology and have my Masters in marital, family, and relationship counseling. I hope with all my heart to help you improve your relationships, and I hope that even if one thing I write helps you, it means more to me than just about anything else in the world. Check out my blog Love Connection, and if you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter

If someone is plotting to manipulate you, they’ll display these 9 subtle behaviors

Classy women who have nothing to prove often display these 8 behaviors