If you want to start attracting women on an emotional level, say goodbye to these 8 behaviors

So, you’re wondering why you’re not connecting with women on a deeper, emotional level?

It’s tough, isn’t it? You put yourself out there, you follow all the tips, but something just isn’t clicking.

Well here’s the thing: sometimes, it’s not about what you do—it’s about what you need to stop doing. Certain behaviors might be pushing women away without you even realizing it. 

Today, we’re diving into eight such behaviors. 

Let’s get into it.

1) Bragging about your achievements

Many men often believe that showcasing their accomplishments will attract women. But trust me, as a relationship expert, I’ve seen how this approach can backfire.

Women are not interested in a man’s accomplishments as much as they are in his character. Bragging can come off as arrogant and self-centered, and it can push women away rather than draw them in.

Instead, focus on humility and authenticity. Good women are attracted to men who are genuine and down-to-earth. It’s okay to share your achievements, but do it in a humble way that shows you value other people’s contributions as well.

Let go of the need to impress, and you’ll find that women will be drawn to your authenticity and humility. It’s not about hiding your successes, but rather about sharing them in a way that fosters connection rather than creating distance.

2) Trying to fix everything

As a relationship expert (and a woman), I can tell you this: women don’t want you to ‘solve’ every problem. 

Men often have a natural tendency to try and ‘fix’ things. But sometimes, women just want to be heard and validated in their feelings.

Author Steve Maraboli put it well when he wrote, “Sometimes we need someone to just listen. Not to try and fix anything or offer alternatives, but to just be there… to listen. An ear that listens can be medicine for a heart that hurts.”

Rather than jumping in with a solution, try just listening. Show empathy, understanding, and patience. Let her know that what she’s feeling is valid and that you’re there to support her.

3) Being overly possessive

I often like to think of possessiveness as salt. A little can enhance the flavor, but too much can spoil the dish.

As a relationship expert, I’ve seen countless men drive women away with their overly possessive behavior. 

In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I delve deeper into this topic, offering insights and practical solutions to help you overcome possessive behaviors.

But for now, just know that when you’re overly possessive, it sends out a signal that you don’t trust your partner. This can breed resentment and emotional distance. 

Instead, learn to trust and give space. You’ll find that this not only attracts women but also strengthens your relationship in the long run.

4) Always being the ‘nice guy’

Now, this might sound counterintuitive. After all, aren’t women attracted to nice guys?

Well, yes and no. While kindness is an attractive quality, being the ‘nice guy’ all the time can actually work against you.

Let me explain. If you’re always bending over backward to please her, never expressing your own needs or opinions, you risk being perceived as a pushover. And that’s not attractive.

Women appreciate a man who is kind and considerate but also assertive and confident. It’s about finding a balance – respecting her needs while also standing up for your own.

Trust me, stand your ground when it matters, and show that you respect yourself as well as her.

5) Being emotionally unavailable

This might sound pretty obvious to some of you but women crave emotional connection. 

If you’re constantly closing yourself off, it sends a clear message that you’re not ready or willing to connect on a deeper level.

Being emotionally available doesn’t mean you have to wear your heart on your sleeve all the time. It simply means being open to sharing and receiving emotions.

It’s okay to be vulnerable, guys. In fact, as so well put by the author and researcher Brené Brown “Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity.”

Open up, share your feelings, and let her in. Trust me, it makes a big difference.

6) Avoiding tough conversations

Let’s be raw and honest here. Life isn’t always roses and rainbows, and neither are relationships.

Avoiding tough conversations is like putting a band-aid on a gaping wound, it just doesn’t work.

Difficult conversations can be the bridge to deeper understanding and connection in your relationship. It shows that you’re mature enough to handle conflict and that you value the relationship enough to work through the tough stuff.

Embrace them as an opportunity for growth and deeper connection.

7) Neglecting self-care

Self-care is sexy. Yes, you read that right. 

Neglecting your own needs and well-being isn’t just harmful to you, it’s also unattractive to women. It sends the message that you don’t value yourself enough to take care of your health, hygiene, and happiness.

You can’t pour from an empty cup. If you’re not taking care of yourself, how can you take care of someone else? 

Prioritize your well-being and show her that you value yourself. Trust me, it’s an attractive quality.

8) Comparing her to other women

Let’s get real here. No one likes to be compared, especially women.

When you compare her to other women, whether it’s her looks, her achievements, or her personality, it can be incredibly hurtful and damaging. It sends the message that she’s not enough just as she is.

Every woman is unique, with her own strengths and quirks. Appreciate her for who she is, not for how she stacks up against someone else.

Celebrate her uniqueness and make her feel cherished for being herself. It’s fundamental to building an emotional connection.

Conclusion

Attracting women on an emotional level goes beyond good looks or witty pick-up lines. It’s about showing respect, authenticity, and emotional availability.

By saying goodbye to these 8 behaviors, you’re making room for deeper connections and more meaningful relationships.

Change requires effort and commitment. But with every step you take, you’re moving closer to becoming a man who not only attracts women but also cultivates deep emotional connections.

Here’s to your journey of personal growth and deeper connections!