If you want to start attracting high-quality men, say goodbye to these 7 subtle behaviors

Let’s talk about attraction. We all want to attract high-quality, respectful, and loving men, right? But sometimes, our own behaviors can get in the way without us even realizing it.

There are certain subtle habits that can send the wrong message, painting us in a less flattering light. And the worst part? We might not even be aware we’re doing them.

Here’s the good news. Once we identify these actions, we can consciously choose to let them go and start attracting those top-tier men we deserve.

In this article, I’m going to share with you the seven subtle behaviors you need to say goodbye to if you’re serious about attracting high-quality men. 

So, are you ready to take that first step towards attracting better men into your life? Let’s dive in!

1) Being overly agreeable

Here’s the thing about high-quality men; they value authenticity. They crave real conversations, genuine emotions, and authentic beings.

Often, we tend to agree with everything a man says or feels, just to avoid conflicts or to keep the peace. This behavior, though subtle, can be a turn-off for high-quality men. Why? Because it’s not genuine.

Being overly agreeable sends the message that you’re not confident in your own opinions or that you’re not willing to engage in meaningful discussions.

Remember, it’s okay to disagree. It’s okay to have your own opinions and express them respectfully. High-quality men appreciate women who can stand their ground and engage in healthy debates.

2) Playing hard to get

Here’s an interesting one: playing hard to get. While it might seem counterintuitive, I assure you, it’s a behavior you need to let go of if you’re seeking high-quality men.

Many of us have been led to believe that making ourselves appear unattainable can increase our attractiveness. The idea is that it creates a sense of mystery and makes us seem more desirable. But here’s the twist — high-quality men see right through this.

These men value honesty and straightforwardness. They are drawn to women who are genuine about their feelings and intentions, not those who play mind games.

Bottom line? Playing hard to get can actually come off as disinterest or aloofness, which can deter a high-quality man who is genuinely interested in getting to know you.

3) Seeking constant validation

Here’s an important reality check. Seeking constant validation from men is a behavior that can easily deter high-quality men.

While it’s completely normal to desire reassurance and appreciation, constantly seeking validation can signal a lack of self-confidence, which isn’t attractive to anyone, let alone high-quality men. It’s subtle, but it sends the message that you’re not secure in your own worth.

In my own journey, I’ve learned the importance of self-validation. It’s a journey I share in my book Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship. Trust me when I say, breaking free from constant external validation is liberating!

It allows you to build inner confidence and authenticity – two qualities high-quality men find incredibly attractive. So, if attracting these men is your goal, start cultivating self-validation and say goodbye to constantly seeking it from others.

4) Overthinking everything

We’ve all been there. Over-analyzing every text message, every conversation, every look. It’s a behavior that can easily spiral, causing unnecessary stress and anxiety.

Overthinking can send the wrong signal to high-quality men. It can make you seem insecure or unnecessarily complicated. Plus, it can take the joy out of building a relationship.

I learned this the hard way in my own life. Overthinking never leads to happiness; it only leads to more questions and doubts.

A wise man once said, “Overthinking is the art of creating problems that weren’t even there.” I believe this quote perfectly encapsulates why overthinking can be detrimental when attracting high-quality men.

5) Neglecting your own needs

It’s a common pitfall I’ve seen far too many women tumble into, and I’ve been there myself. In the quest to be the ultimate partner, we often put our own needs on the back burner.

Whether it’s giving up a hobby you love or constantly compromising on your choices and preferences, neglecting your own needs can lead to resentment and a lack of fulfillment in the long run.

But here’s the thing: top-tier men are drawn to women who’ve got their own thing going on. They can’t resist someone who has a life outside the relationship, who knows what they want, and isn’t afraid to go after it.

And to that I say—no more sweeping your needs under the rug. It’s time to own your individuality. Trust me, not only will it attract quality partners, but it’ll also pave the way to relationships that are happier and more fulfilling for everyone involved.

6) Trying to change him

This one is a biggie. Trying to change a man to fit our ideal image can be a serious deterrent for high-quality men.

I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “You can’t change a person unless they want to change themselves.” It’s a lesson I learned early in my life and it’s stuck with me throughout my years as a relationship expert.

High-quality men value their individuality and appreciate women who accept them as they are, flaws and all. Trying to change them can come off as disrespectful and can lead to conflict.

So let’s bid farewell to the idea of changing men, and instead, embrace acceptance. Acceptance doesn’t mean settling for less; it means appreciating a person for who they truly are.

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7) Hiding your true self

This is perhaps the most important point of all, and it’s one that needs to be said. Hiding your true self will never attract high-quality men.

We’ve all done it, haven’t we? Subdued our laughter, held back our opinions, or masked our quirks in an attempt to appear more appealing. But here’s the raw truth: pretending to be someone you’re not is exhausting and unfulfilling.

High-quality men value authenticity. They’re drawn to women who are comfortable in their skin and unafraid to show their true colors. They appreciate honesty, even if it’s raw and unpolished.

So it’s time to let go of the facade. Be brave, be bold, be you. Because your true self is the most attractive thing about you. High-quality men will appreciate you for who you truly are, quirks and all.

Attracting Mr. Right 

The path to attracting high-quality men isn’t exactly a walk in the park. It’s a journey that demands some serious soul-searching, personal growth, and the courage to bid adieu to old habits.

But trust me, it’s worth every step because it brings you closer to the kind of relationships you truly deserve—ones built on respect, authenticity, and continuous growth.

Now, as you dive into this journey, remember to cut yourself some slack. Change doesn’t happen overnight. Celebrate the little victories along the way and keep pushing forward, even when the going gets tough.

For some extra insights and inspiration, I highly recommend checking out Justin Brown’s enlightening video. He delves into the intricacies of finding a life partner, drawing from his own experiences and lessons learned.

From the importance of shared values to the power of growth and support in a relationship, he offers valuable insights to help you navigate your own journey.

In the end, remember that attracting high-quality men starts with being a high-quality person yourself. It’s about being authentic, respecting yourself, and standing up for what you believe in. And trust me when I say this – there’s nothing more attractive than a person who knows their worth.

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Tina Fey

I'm Tina Fey, the founder of the blog Love Connection. I've extremely passionate about sharing relationship advice. I've studied psychology and have my Masters in marital, family, and relationship counseling. I hope with all my heart to help you improve your relationships, and I hope that even if one thing I write helps you, it means more to me than just about anything else in the world. Check out my blog Love Connection, and if you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter

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