Isabella Chase
To attract a loyal and kind soulmate, it’s important to reflect on your own behaviors and attitudes.
Sometimes, certain habits or mindsets can unknowingly push away the right person.
If you’re ready to welcome a deeper, more meaningful relationship into your life, this article will focus on seven behaviors to say goodbye to.
We’ll delve into these behaviors that are holding you back—so, get ready, it’s time for some changes:
1) Negative self-talk
One of the biggest hurdles that can prevent you from attracting a loyal and kind soulmate is negative self-talk.
It’s a common behavior, yet a destructive one as we often become our own worst critics, filling our minds with self-doubt and fear.
This behavior not only affects you but also the way others perceive you—it’s like a repellent that keeps your potential soulmate at bay.
The law of attraction suggests that we attract what we think and feel. If your thoughts are cluttered with negativity, you’re more likely to attract negative experiences or people into your life.
Start embracing positivity and self-love and know that you’re deserving of a kind and loyal soulmate, and the first step towards that is treating yourself with kindness and respect.
2) Holding onto past relationships
Holding onto past relationships can be a significant barrier to attracting a loyal and kind soulmate.
A few years back, I found myself clinging to memories of an old relationship: I kept comparing every new person I met with my ex, and it was unfair to both me and them.
This behavior was like a wall, keeping me from fully opening up to new experiences and potential partners and it was only when I decided to let go of the past that I started noticing a change.
Letting go doesn’t mean forgetting or discarding those memories as it simply means not allowing them to control your present and future.
Every person is unique, and your future soulmate will not be an exact replica of your ex—and that’s okay—so embrace the new experiences and people life brings your way.
3) Being overly critical of others
It’s easy to fall into a pattern of being overly critical of others, especially when it comes to potential partners.
You might think that by setting high standards, you’re more likely to attract a loyal and kind soulmate.
However, research has shown that people with a habit of criticizing others tend to be less happy in their relationships—this is because being overly critical can create an atmosphere of negativity and tension.
When we constantly criticize, we create a barrier that prevents us from truly connecting with others and it can also portray us as unapproachable or hard to please.
Try to focus more on the positive traits of others instead of dwelling on their flaws.
By learning to appreciate others for who they are, you’ll not only become more approachable but also increase your chances of attracting a loyal and kind soulmate.
4) Fear of being vulnerable
Being vulnerable can be terrifying—it means opening up and showing your authentic self, flaws and all, risking rejection and disappointment.
But here’s the thing: Vulnerability is also a key ingredient to deep, meaningful connections and it’s what allows people to truly understand and accept each other.
Letting go of the fear of vulnerability doesn’t mean you have to bare your soul to every person you meet—it’s about learning to open up gradually as trust is built in a relationship.
Embrace vulnerability—yes, it can be scary, but it’s also the path to genuine connection and love!
5) The illusion of perfection
There was a time when I believed in the idea of the perfect partner: I had a checklist of qualities I wanted in my soulmate, and I wasn’t willing to compromise.
What I didn’t realize was that this idea of perfection was holding me back from finding true love—it kept me from appreciating the beauty of imperfection in others.
The truth is, there’s no such thing as the perfect partner because everyone has their quirks and flaws, and that’s what makes them unique.
Once I let go of this illusion, I began to see people in a new light and I started appreciating them for who they were, and not who I wanted them to be.
Allow yourself to be surprised by the beauty of imperfection.
A loyal and kind soulmate is someone who accepts you for who you are and loves you, quirks and all.
6) Fear of change
Change can be scary because it often means stepping out of your comfort zone and diving into the unknown—but change is also an essential part of growth and progress.
If you’re afraid of change, it’s likely that you’re holding yourself back from attracting a loyal and kind soulmate.
This fear might cause you to stick with what’s comfortable, even if it’s not fulfilling.
Remember, inviting a soulmate into your life is a significant change in itself as it means sharing your life with someone else, adjusting to their habits and lifestyle, and sometimes, even changing your ways.
Open yourself up to the possibilities that change can bring.
Say goodbye to the fear of change, and say hello to new opportunities for love and happiness.
7) Ignoring your own needs
Often, we get so caught up in looking for the right person, we forget to look after ourselves—but self-care isn’t selfish.
You can’t pour from an empty cup, so if you’re not taking care of your own needs, it’s unlikely that you’ll be able to maintain a healthy, fulfilling relationship.
Listen to your body and mind, and prioritize your well-being—nurture yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally.
When you take care of yourself and are in tune with your needs, you radiate positivity and self-love.
That’s what attracts a loyal and kind soulmate—someone who respects and values you for who you are.
Start by taking care of yourself because, at the end of the day, you are the most important person in your life.
Final thoughts: It’s an inward journey
Attracting a loyal and kind soulmate is largely about our internal journey, not external factors.
It begins with letting go of behaviors holding you back and embracing those that foster positivity and growth—like releasing negative self-talk, letting go of past relationships, or learning to be vulnerable.
There’s no quick fix, but each step towards personal growth brings you closer to attracting the soulmate you deserve.
Remember, you are worthy of love just as you are.
Reflect on these behaviors and make the changes you need.
Every step forward is a step towards a more fulfilling love life—keep moving forward on your unique path!
