If you want more people to like and respect you, say goodbye to these 8 behaviors

Certain cultures dictate that you should respect someone by default… just because they’re older than you. 

And yes, it’s a sentiment I understand. 

But when it comes down to it, I believe that respect should be earned not given. 

Because really, how genuine can that respect be if you don’t truly know the person? 

Ultimately, you should respect and like a person based on their behaviors, how they treat others, their integrity, character, and so on. 

I’m here to help. 

In this article, I’ll take you through the behaviors you need to let go of, if you want more people to like and respect you. 

Let’s get to it! 

1) Interrupting others 

There are few things more disrespectful (and annoying) than being interrupted as you speak.

As humans, we almost instinctively become disenchanted with other people when they do this. 

Why? Because it’s incredibly rude and selfish; it instantly communicates these qualities with great efficiency. 

So if you tend to interrupt people, try to practice greater self-control. 

Next time you feel the urge to chime in while others are talking, mindfully stop yourself. 

Start respecting other people and their voices. 

Once you replace interrupting with things like active listening, you’ll notice your relationships and interactions improve in no time. 

2) Being judgmental 

When being judgmental becomes your status quo, this will invariably turn people off. 

The people who count want to be around others who make them better, who can lift them up… not bring them down. 

When you’re constantly judging and critiquing others, this energy can create a negative atmosphere; and will also ironically reveal your own insecurities, hang-ups, and arrogant tendencies. 

Nobody is perfect—you and I included. 

Instead of judging, try to embrace empathy, humility, and understanding… it will go a long way. 

I guarantee it. 

3) Gossiping

Sure, gossiping in small doses is acceptable, even arguably enjoyable at times–but when it gets excessive, you’re bound to put off a few people. 

According to the late iconic First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt: “Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.” 

I tend to agree with Mrs. Roosevelt. 

Talking about others behind their backs is communicating your lack of trustworthiness. 

I mean, if you’re willing to spread rumors and backstab while others aren’t around, then essentially, nobody is safe–and people pick up on this. 

So if you tend to gossip excessively, let that habit go. 

Focus on positive and constructive conversations instead.

4) Complaining constantly 

I have an aunt who perpetually complains about pretty much everything and everyone she comes across. 

She always has something negative to say, except about herself. 

In her eyes, she can do no wrong, while the rest of the world is a rotten, grim place. 

Complaining about everything (and acting superior) are forms of arrogance–something that can create plenty of resentment in others over time. 

Trust me, being around her means walking on eggshells… say a few wrong words, and she’ll go off on you. 

It’s gotten to the point where my relatives (and myself) consciously have to avoid her. 

Complaining isn’t the most charming attribute. 

Aim to approach situations with a positive, humble, and solutions-oriented mindset.

5) Being unreliable

I have a “friend” who infamously, without fail, is either an hour late to meet-ups or flakes last minute. 

We grew up together; and for as long as I’ve known him, being unreliable has been one of his more prominent traits. 

As we get older, we want to be around people we can depend on, we want to be around people who are assets, not liabilities in life. 

Regularly failing to follow through on commitments is never a great look. 

Build a reputation for dependability by honoring your promises and commitments.

Unreliability is rooted in a lack of consideration for other people. 

And ignoring the feelings, the needs, and the time of others can make you seem selfish, whether true or not. 

So if you want to appear more selfless and thoughtful, and therefore become more liked, start letting your actions do the talking. 

6) Being closed-minded 

If there’s one thing that’s certain in this universe it’s that change is constant. 

Most people want to improve in life, they want to get with the times, they want to learn and not be left behind–and therefore want to keep company that can promote these causes. 

When you’re excessively stuck in your ways, refusing to budge and consider other perspectives, this can be incredibly frustrating for those around you. 

Don’t be that person. 

Don’t be stuck in the past, even when there are newer, fresher, and more efficient ways of doing things.

Let your pride down and stay open to new ideas and differing opinions.

Accept that change is real and move on. 

7) Lack of empathy

Unless you hang out with a band of sociopathic criminals, most people seek and appreciate empathy and compassion in their relationships. 

After all, who wants to be around unkind people all day long?

Like judgemental people, people with no empathy tend to have an energy that will bring you down… and even rub off, in certain cases. 

Empathy means seeing and feeling things from other people’s perspectives, however foreign from your own. 

Having empathy allows others to connect with you on a deeper level. 

So if you haven’t already, cultivate and practice empathy in your daily interactions. 

Start small, say by being kind and courteous to your server when you dine out, or to the hungry homeless man on the street. 

Once you break the cycle of self-absorption and detachment and start living for humanity, you won’t look back. 

8) Dishonesty

Once you break the seal of trust in a friendship, romantic relationship, etc. gaining it back is an uphill battle, to put it lightly. 

The world is stressful enough as it is. 

When you decide to let people into your life, you generally do so because, in theory, they add something positive to it. 

So when you can’t relax around someone for fear of them putting one over you, this is not a sustainable relationship model. 

Being deceitful, even in as few as one or two instances, will erode trust and respect, depending on the gravity of the lie.  

If you want better quality relationships in life, start valuing honesty and integrity in all that you do. 

If you make a few behavior adjustments, everything else will follow.  Real talk. 

Ethan Sterling

Ethan Sterling has a background in entrepreneurship, having started and managed several small businesses. His journey through the ups and downs of entrepreneurship provides him with practical insights into personal resilience, strategic thinking, and the value of persistence. Ethan’s articles offer real-world advice for those looking to grow personally and professionally.

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