If you relate to these 7 signs, you’re the type of person a manipulator avoids

You’ve probably been in a situation where someone’s trying to manipulate you. It’s an icky feeling, isn’t it?

But you might have also noticed that other people seem to fall into the clutches of manipulators much more often than you do. It’s almost like manipulators take a wide berth around you.

And you know what? That could actually be the case. As a relationship expert who’s seen it all, I can tell you there are certain types of people that manipulators avoid like the plague.

In this article, we’re going to explore the signs you’re one of these people. If you find yourself nodding along, congrats! And if not, you can always adopt these behaviors to make yourself manipulator-proof. 

Let’s get started!

1) You are assertive

Many times, you’ll find manipulators hovering around those who are timid and easily swayed.

Why is that so?

Well, manipulators thrive where there is a lack of assertiveness. They prefer individuals who struggle with standing up for themselves because it makes their job easier.

Enter the assertive individual.

When you’re assertive, you’re not afraid to express your thoughts, feelings, and needs directly and respectfully. You draw boundaries and stick to them. You say “no” when necessary without feeling guilty.

Manipulators avoid such individuals because their tactics simply don’t work on them. They can’t push their agenda or sway their decisions easily.

2) You’re not always agreeable

Contrary to what you might think, being agreeable all the time doesn’t make you a likable person. In fact, it may make you an easy target for manipulation.

Manipulators love people who are always eager to please others. They take advantage of this trait and use it to their advantage.

But when you are not afraid to disagree and voice out your different perspective, manipulators get taken aback. They find it difficult to control or influence someone who doesn’t just go with the flow.

So, if you often find yourself standing by your differing opinion even when others don’t agree, that’s a sign! You are the type of person manipulators tend to avoid. It shows you’re not easily swayed and can stand your ground. 

3) You know your self-worth

Trust me, there’s nothing a manipulator fears more than a person who knows their worth.

When you understand your value, you don’t allow anyone to treat you less than you deserve. You understand that the respect you have for yourself sets the standard for how others should treat you.

In fact, in my book Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I delve into this concept a bit more. I talk about how knowing your self-worth can liberate you from the chains of codependency and manipulation.

But the gist of it is this: a person who knows their self-worth won’t stick around for anything less. Nobody can convince you that something is okay when you feel uncomfortable. 

4) You trust your intuition

Sometimes, it’s just a gut feeling. You might not be able to put your finger on it, but something just feels off. And let me tell you from years of experience, trusting that instinct can save you a lot of trouble.

Manipulators often use tactics that can confuse and cloud your judgement. But when you trust your intuition, you’re able to see through these tactics. You sense when something isn’t right and act accordingly, or simply walk away.

There’s a quote by Albert Einstein that I love, he said, “The only real valuable thing is intuition.” That’s especially true when it comes to dodging manipulators.

5) You question everything

Now, this might seem like a pesky trait to some, but I can tell you it’s a major manipulator deterrent.

Being questioning means you don’t accept things at face value. You probe, you doubt, you seek clarity. Manipulators usually bank on the fact that people will believe what they say without questioning it.

But not you.

If you’re the kind of person who questions everything, who wants to understand the ‘why’ and ‘how’ of things, then you’re already one step ahead. Manipulators find it hard to weave their web of deceit around someone who questions their every move.

Remember, it’s okay to question. It’s okay to want clarity. It’s not just about being skeptical, it’s about protecting yourself from potential manipulation.

6) You’re comfortable being alone

It’s something I’ve personally observed over the years – people who are comfortable with their own company are less prone to manipulation.

Manipulators often prey on the fear of loneliness. They use it to bind and control people, making them believe they need the manipulator in their life.

But when you’re content being alone, you don’t rely on others for your happiness. You create your own joy, and that’s a surefire way to keep manipulators at bay.

There’s a beautiful quote by Paul Tillich, a renowned philosopher, that resonates with this point. He said, “Language… has created the word ‘loneliness’ to express the pain of being alone. And it has created the word ‘solitude’ to express the glory of being alone.”

If you embrace solitude and find joy in your own company, kudos to you! You are the kind of person a manipulator avoids.

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7) You’ve been manipulated before

Now, this might sting a little. But it’s important to acknowledge.

If you’ve been manipulated before, it can be one of the most powerful deterrents for future manipulators.

Why? Because you’ve seen it all – the deceit, the mind games, the control. You know the signs, you understand the tactics. You’ve felt the pain and you’ve learned from it. It’s a bitter experience that no one should have to go through, but it makes you stronger.

You’ve developed a keen eye for spotting manipulative behavior and you’re not afraid to call it out. This makes you less susceptible to their tactics.

It’s probably not something you like to remember. But know that your experience has given you a unique resilience and strength – qualities that manipulators fear.

The power within you

Isn’t it interesting how the choices we make, the boundaries we set, and the self-awareness we cultivate can play such a significant role in our interactions with others?

In our journey through life, we cross paths with diverse individuals, some of whom may not have our best interests at heart. But as we’ve explored in this article, there are certain traits and behaviors that can make you less susceptible to manipulation.

By understanding these signs, you’re empowering yourself and asserting control over your own life. It’s about being able to stand your ground, trust your instincts, and most importantly, value yourself.

As the brilliant Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” And in the same way, nobody can manipulate you unless you let them.

To dive deeper into this topic and further empower yourself, I highly recommend this insightful video by Justin Brown where he discusses the complexities of finding a life partner, reflecting on his personal experience after a failed date and the lessons he learned.

From understanding the importance of shared values to the significance of growth and mutual support in a relationship, he shares his top insights to help you navigate the journey of finding a compatible partner.

Keep learning, keep growing, and remember – you have the power within you to steer clear of manipulation. Your worth is immeasurable, and no one should ever make you feel otherwise.

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Tina Fey

I'm Tina Fey, the founder of the blog Love Connection. I've extremely passionate about sharing relationship advice. I've studied psychology and have my Masters in marital, family, and relationship counseling. I hope with all my heart to help you improve your relationships, and I hope that even if one thing I write helps you, it means more to me than just about anything else in the world. Check out my blog Love Connection, and if you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter

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