Entitled people live in a bubble of their own making:
It’s a distorted reality in which they are the sole decided of how the world should work, and anything that doesn’t accord with their fantasy gets ignored or attacked.
They expect the world to come to them and give them everything they want, just because they want it to.
This childish belief system wouldn’t matter much if it was just a delusion some people enjoyed in the quiet of their fantasies, but unfortunately it gets pushed out into the real world in the form of their behavior.
So the rest of us have to often contend with entitled people who live in a fantasy world and want to force us into it.
Here are some of their key toxic behaviors.
1) Holier-than-thou attitude
Entitled individuals often adopt a self-righteous attitude in which they are on a higher level than most others.
They believe themselves to be morally superior or more spiritually evolved than other people.
If it was just an annoying character flaw or attitude it would be easier to ignore, but entitled people tend to use this belief to justify their entitlement to special treatment or privileges.
When they don’t get treated specially or get what they want they then throw a fit and descend into a holy rage.
Speaking of a holier-than-thou attitude…
2) Spiritual narcissism
Entitled individuals often take on attitudes of spiritual elitism, believing that their chosen path or beliefs are superior to others.
They may claim to have found the one true path or be living their truth in a loving and pure way.
But then they laugh derisively at somebody else who is on a different path or questions their enlightenment.
They’re a spiritual narcissist, getting high on their own vibes and blind to the extent that spiritual ego has infected their whole persona.
This ties into the next point:
3) Gatekeeping and elitism
Entitled individuals often assert authority or control over others by claiming to be part of an elite or exclusive tier of society.
Whether they do this through religion, spirituality, their job or even their friendships and hobbies, they find a way to feel like an elite.
They demand the right to decide who’s in or out, and often engage in shameless gossip to sabotage those they don’t approve of.
They feel entitled to exclude and marginalize those who do not conform to their standards of belief or behavior.
4) Expectation of luxury
Entitled individuals expect life to give them what they want, and that includes in the material realm.
They demand comfort, security and happiness without embracing the inherent challenges, uncertainties, and disappointments that life brings.
When things do go wrong or living situations aren’t up to their standards, what do they do?
The usual answer is that they complain bitterly or find others to blame.
5) Inability to take criticism
Entitled individuals tend to react defensively and aggressively to constructive criticism or feedback.
Even when it’s entirely well-intentioned, they bristle at the idea that they aren’t perfect.
They dislike any form of disagreement and take dissent and feedback as a personal attack on their ego or self-worth.
They feel entitled to receive only praise and support no matter what they do.
6) Manipulative charm
Entitled individuals use their charm and charisma to manipulate others into fulfilling their desires or meeting their needs.
They do this without genuine consideration for the well-being or autonomy of others.
They feel entitled to get what they want at almost any cost.
If somebody gets hurt in the process, so be it. They deserve to get what they want either way (at least that’s how they see it).
7) Blame shifting
When faced with criticism or consequences for their actions, entitled individuals usually shift blame.
They find somebody else who they try to pin the blame on or take for a guilt trip.
They will sometimes stoop as low as actively framing somebody in order to wriggle out from the consequences of their behavior.
They feel entitled to do what they want, and they aren’t going to accept their culpability or mistakes even if it’s clear.
8) Feeling entitled to attention
Entitled individuals expect constant attention and validation from others.
They feel like they are extraordinarily talented and remarkable, particularly good-looking or funny.
At least in their own mind.
If they don’t see that reflected in the behavior and attitudes of those around them, they throw a fit, becoming resentful or demanding when they feel overlooked or underappreciated.
9) Demanding special treatment
Entitled individuals believe they deserve special treatment as I’ve noted.
This can be in very small or very big ways (or both).
One example is that they believe they deserve exemptions from rules and expectations that apply to others:
A parking ticket? Give me a break. Does the cop even know who they are? They had to park in the handicapped space despite not being handicapped:
They were in a hurry for an important meditation group to raise global vibrations!
10) Routinely violating boundaries
Entitled individuals often disregard or violate the boundaries of others, whether physical, emotional, or interpersonal.
They excuse their pushy or aggressive behavior, seeing it as necessary to try to do what they regard as right or justified.
At heart, they view their own needs or desires as more important than respecting the autonomy and limits of others.
It’s really as simple as that.
11) Lack of gratitude
Entitled individuals tend to take the kindness or generosity of others for granted.
They already feel special and entitled to get everything they want, so why wouldn’t friends, family, colleagues and partners cater to their every whim?
They feel no need to express genuine gratitude or appreciation for the efforts or sacrifices made on their behalf.
They feel sure that these things are just their birthright anyway.
12) Expecting perfection
Entitled individuals often hold others to impossibly high standards of perfection.
They live in that reality bubble I mentioned wherein they deserve to get what they want and have it live up to their every desire.
They become immensely frustrated and disappointed when reality fails to meet their unrealistic expectations.
13) Refusing to acknowledge defeat
Entitled individuals feel entitled to success or achievement without putting in the necessary effort.
They may have a particularly remarkable talent or gift, but this only makes them more entitled.
Say they’re a great runner. This gives them the idea that they should be easily able to win the marathon without practicing as much as their opponent.
When they lose? That’s because the other player was clearly doping, or the course was messed up, or the weather didn’t cooperate.
They didn’t actually lose. It was all rigged (in their mind).
14) Exploiting others
Entitled individuals often exploit or take advantage of others for their own gain, whether through manipulation, deception, or coercion.
They may feel occasional guilt about it, but at heart they see others as means to fulfill their own desires or needs.
If they crack a few eggs in the process of making an omelet it’s just the way it goes.
15) Selective empathy
Despite claiming to uphold high ideals such as compassion and empathy, entitled individuals tend to be very selective in who they care about and why.
If you have something they need or want, they’re the image of charm and class.
Maybe they just want to virtue signal or be seen as a good person, too.
But if they grow bored of somebody or some group’s suffering their compassion is nowhere to be found (because it was never real to start with).
16) Spiritual bypassing
Entitled individuals often use spiritual beliefs or practices as a shield to avoid confronting their own shortcomings.
They claim to have reached some high level of “awakening” or “purity” or “vibrations” and then use this to feel better than everyone else.
They may claim to have killed their ego, or overcome attachment to material things:
Then they bask in a feeling of being morally superior to everyone else and expecting people to adore and admire them.
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