If you recognize these 9 behaviors, your partner is hiding something from you

It’s a fine line between trusting your partner and realizing that something’s off.

Sometimes, there’s a nagging feeling that your loved one is keeping something from you. It’s not about being paranoid, but about understanding the subtle signs.

Recognizing these signs is not about snooping or invading their privacy, but about knowing when something just isn’t adding up.

In this article, I’ll share with you 9 behaviors that might indicate your partner is hiding something. These signs are not definitive proof, but they can certainly help you ask the right questions or start a conversation.

Get ready to learn how to read the signs and navigate the tricky waters of trust and secrecy in a relationship.

1) Overprotective of their devices

We live in a digital age, where our phones and laptops often hold the keys to our personal lives.

It’s normal to value your privacy, but if your partner suddenly becomes hyper-protective of their devices, it may be a sign that they’re hiding something.

Take note if they’ve started to take their phone with them everywhere, or have suddenly added a password to a device that was previously open.

Remember though, this alone isn’t a definitive proof. It could be a simple need for privacy or a new work policy. However, coupled with other behaviors on this list, it might be cause for concern.

The key here is not to jump to conclusions but to communicate openly about your concerns. Trust and honest conversation should always be the foundation of your relationship.

2) Sudden change in schedule

Let me share a personal experience. My partner and I had a routine we stuck to for years. Suddenly, she started coming home late from work regularly, with reasons that seemed plausible but just didn’t add up.

A sudden change in your partner’s schedule can be a sign that they’re hiding something. This could be new commitments after work or at odd hours.

It’s important to remember that people’s routines can change for legitimate reasons, like a new project at work, or picking up a new hobby.

However, if you notice a consistent and unexplained shift in their usual routine, it might be worth having an open conversation about it.

Again, it’s about communication, not accusations. Understanding each other’s schedules is part of sharing a life together, and changes should be discussed openly.

3) They become overly defensive

When people feel cornered, they often go into defensive mode. It’s a basic human instinct, part of our fight or flight response.

If your partner becomes overly defensive over small issues, it could be a sign that they are hiding something. They might overreact to innocent questions or become argumentative without a clear reason.

The truth is, it’s not always about what you’re saying but rather how they’re reacting. A simple question like “Who were you talking to?” should not trigger a defensive response, unless there’s more to the story.

However, keep in mind that everyone has bad days and can react poorly at times. It’s when this behavior becomes a pattern that it can indicate something more is going on.

4) They avoid eye contact

Eye contact can be a powerful indicator of honesty, according to a study published in PLOS One. Most of us instinctively feel uncomfortable looking someone in the eye when we’re not telling the truth.

If your partner starts avoiding eye contact during conversations, especially when discussing important matters, it could be a sign that they’re not being completely honest with you.

However, don’t jump to conclusions too quickly. Some people naturally avoid eye contact due to shyness or anxiety. It’s about noticing a change in their usual behavior.

5) They’re not as open as they used to be

In a healthy relationship, partners share their thoughts, feelings, and experiences with each other.

On the flip side, if your partner has suddenly become less open and more secretive, it may be a sign that they are hiding something.

Maybe you’ve noticed that they’re less willing to share details about their day, or they avoid questions about specific people or events. This shift could indicate that they’re withholding information.

Having said that, everyone fights battles they’d rather not talk about. It could just be that your partner is going through a tough time and doesn’t know how to express it.

Always approach these situations with empathy and open communication.

6) They seem distant

Feeling a sense of distance between you and your partner can be heartbreaking. It’s like you’re in the same room, but miles apart.

If your partner seems emotionally distant and disconnected, it could be a sign they’re wrestling with something they’re not ready to share. They might seem lost in thought, less interested in shared activities or less responsive to your emotions.

We all go through phases where we need some space. But prolonged periods of emotional distance can indicate a deeper issue.

It’s crucial to keep the lines of communication open. Let them know you’re there for them and ready to listen when they’re ready to talk.

7) They’re not as affectionate

I recall a time when small signs of affection, like holding hands or a gentle kiss on the forehead, were a constant in my relationship. Then, they gradually started to disappear.

If your partner has suddenly become less affectionate, it could be an indication that something is amiss. These small signs of love and connection are fundamental in a relationship, and their absence can often signal an underlying issue.

Again, it’s essential to understand that everyone goes through phases. Stress, work pressure, or personal issues could temporarily affect their level of affection.

But if this behavior persists, it’s worth having a heart-to-heart conversation about it. Sometimes, all it takes is opening up about your feelings to bridge the gap.

8) They have unexplained expenses

Money can be a sensitive topic in relationships, but it’s a crucial aspect to discuss. If you notice your partner has unexplained expenses, or if they become overly secretive about their finances, it could be a sign they’re hiding something.

Perhaps you’ve noticed more withdrawals from their account, or maybe they’ve been making purchases that they can’t or won’t explain. It’s essential to approach this topic with care, as it can quickly lead to arguments if not handled delicately.

Keep in mind that everyone has the right to some financial privacy, and occasional splurges are normal. But a significant change in spending habits could be a red flag. Open and honest dialogue about finances is key in maintaining trust in a relationship.

9) They’ve been lying about small things

Truth and trust are the backbone of any relationship. If you catch your partner lying about small, inconsequential things, it could indicate they’re capable of hiding bigger secrets.

Small lies, like saying they’ve been working late when they were out with friends, or saying they’ve paid a bill when they haven’t, can slowly erode trust.

The most crucial thing you should know is that trust, once broken, takes time and effort to rebuild.

It’s essential to address these issues openly and honestly when you spot them. The sooner you discuss it, the better chance you have of mending the relationship.

Final thoughts: The power of communication

As we conclude this guide to potential red flags, know that understanding these behaviors is not an invitation to jump to conclusions but an opportunity for open communication and genuine connection.

While these signs may raise your awareness, it’s equally important to approach your partner with empathy and a willingness to understand their perspective. Honesty, transparency, and trust form the cornerstones of a healthy relationship, and addressing concerns together can be the key to unlocking the door to deeper understanding and resolution.

Keep the lines of communication open, and may your journey through the maze of love be one of shared truths and authentic connection.

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Tina Fey

I'm Tina Fey, the founder of the blog Love Connection. I've extremely passionate about sharing relationship advice. I've studied psychology and have my Masters in marital, family, and relationship counseling. I hope with all my heart to help you improve your relationships, and I hope that even if one thing I write helps you, it means more to me than just about anything else in the world. Check out my blog Love Connection, and if you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter

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