If you recognize these 14 behaviors, your partner is deeply in love with you

Real love is multifaceted and complex. It can mean different things to different people, but there are universal factors inherent in any deeply loving relationship. 

Recognizing whether your partner is deeply in love with you isn’t always cut and dried.  But since we’re not mind readers, knowing the behaviors associated with true love can help you assess whether your relationship has long-haul potential.

1) Emotionally supportive

If your partner shows up for you during trying times offering support, comfort, and understanding, that’s a sign of deep love. 

You’re deeply loved if your partner consistently provides emotional support and encouragement. 

If you return the favor, then both of you will feel valued and treasured within your relationship.

A healthy partnership means nurturing one another emotionally and acting with kindness and consideration. A supportive partner who’s deeply in love will be quick to give you their undivided attention and sympathy as a matter of course.

You won’t have to prompt them.

2) Attentive

As we’ve discussed, attentiveness is a big part of being emotionally supportive and a sign that someone is deeply in love.

Love can cause its own kind of tunnel vision, especially in the early stages of a relationship. So if your partner can focus solely on you and not get distracted by other stuff, that’s one for the “win” column.

Just remember to go easy on your partner, as we all have day-to-day responsibilities that demand our time and attention as well. 

3) Lots of eye contact

Eye contact can cause emotional connections so intense that eye contact alone can trigger feelings of love and desire.

No wonder so many books breathlessly refer to the main characters’ eyes meeting across a crowded room and … *BAM.* Next thing you know they’re registering at Williams Sonoma.

Eye contact is an intimate act of trust that exposes your partner’s vulnerability. Deep and prolonged eye contact (meaning for at least four seconds) is a good sign that someone’s been bitten by the love bug.

So, if your partner likes to lock eyes with you and is comfortable doing so it’s a pretty safe bet that they’re smitten. 

And if your person smiles a lot when you’re around, that’s also a win. When someone’s in love, they automatically smile in the presence of their love interest.

I call it “grinning like a goon,” but then again no one’s ever accused me of being a hopeless romantic

4) They create an atmosphere of safety and security

If your significant other creates a safe space where you both can be completely open and authentic you may have yourself a keeper. 

Your partner purposely creates a cozy cocoon where you’re comfortable enough to let down your guard while your love does the same.

It’s only when you feel safe and secure that you can forge a deeper bond with your partner based on love and trust.

Someone who deeply loves you will want to provide that solace and security for you.

5) Clear communication

A person who’s deeply in love should be free to share their thoughts and emotions both good and bad without fear of being judged. 

If your partner truly loves you, you’ll share all facets of yourself honestly and without hesitation. 

This trust enables healthy couples communication and gives you the tools to problem-solve as a unit. 

6) Willing to compromise 

Your partner’s willingness to sacrifice and compromise for the good of your relationship is a strong indication they truly love you

Hopefully, you’ll feel compelled to mirror their energy so you’re both making decisions that ensure that your relationship will thrive.

When both you and your love prioritize making each other happy, the chances of your relationship succeeding increase exponentially. 

7) Consistent

Expressing their feelings for you consistently over time is a hallmark of being deeply loved by your person. 

Your partner puts their money where their mouth is. They follow through on their words and walk the walk regardless of the situation at hand. 

Yes, even when they’re mad at you.

They aren’t perfect, of course, but you can always depend on them when you need them, and they can turn to you as well.

8) Lots of quality time

Creating happy and meaningful memories during your relationship is a hint that your partner loves you deeply.

Your partner will crave your presence and want to be with you whenever possible.

Things like creating your own special holiday traditions point to a partnership with staying power. 

Wanting to spend quality time as a couple, and making it happen, is one way your partner’s deep love for you manifests itself.   

9) Shows affection

Genuine affection, both emotional and physical, is a cornerstone of deep love. This isn’t just about sex. It’s about physical affection like hand-holding and just being close to each other.

A partner who loves you deeply also expresses intimacy by sharing their thoughts and feelings with you. By opening up their heart and soul to you they’re confirming their trust and abiding love.

10) Acts of kindness

When someone is truly in love, they enjoy making their person feel loved and appreciated. If they see something that reminds them of you, they’ll grab it to let you know they’re always thinking of you. 

Your partner will act with kindness and thoughtfulness, and enjoy doing little things that give you the warm fuzzies.

Partners who are genuinely in love also go out of their way to be supportive of their partner. They’ll be your rock and someone you can rely on for compassion and understanding.

11) Supports your dreams

Encouraging and supporting each other’s dreams is important to build a strong relationship and bond deeply with your partner. 

You’ll freely share your dreams, and provide support for each other as you strive to make them a reality. 

If your partner is deeply in love with you, they’ll be your biggest fan cheering you on to achieve your goals, and you’ll do the same for them. This entails mutually supporting each other both physically and emotionally as you both strive to reach your goals.

Mature, enduring love means encouraging each other to grow and celebrating your individual achievements together. 

It also requires a willingness to sacrifice a bit to help your partner succeed. This doesn’t mean giving up your own goals, it just means working together and supporting each other as you work towards your potential.

12) R-E-S-P-E-C-T

There’s your earworm for the day. You’re welcome.

If your partner values your opinions and celebrates your individuality, that’s a clear indication that their love for you is the real deal.   

They’ll also respect your boundaries and graciously give you space when necessary without laying a guilt trip on you first. 

Your person is deeply in love when they never lose sight of your talents and abilities even during a setback. They’ll talk you off the ledge and remind you how strong and capable you are even when you feel like a failure. 

And you, of course, reciprocate in kind, because without mutual respect, your relationship is built on shifting sands rather than a firm foundation.

13) Willingness to face obstacles

The willingness to face obstacles and work on solutions is an important sign that your partner truly loves you.

Healthy relationships don’t just happen. They require hard work and commitment, even when things are challenging. 

Heck, especially when things are challenging.

Your love hypes you up when you falter without feeling the need to point out your less-than-stellar traits amid your struggles. 

They’ll never kick you when you’re down. 

When you and your partner can overlook each other’s flaws (without being delusional about it, of course), you’re more likely to enjoy a healthy relationship.

As a couple, you’ll actively choose to barrel through any hardships, strengthening your love as you overcome challenges together. This strengthens your bond and cultivates your deepening connection even when things aren’t smooth sailing.

14) Planning a future

If your partner likes discussing plans for your shared future and setting couples goals, odds are that they’re in it for the long haul. 

When your person is openly envisioning taking vacations together or starting a family, it’s a clear sign that they’re in love. 

They’re not scared of long-term commitments and want to build a life and future with you.

Final thoughts

The Real Deal doesn’t always announce itself with ticker tape parades and a Sam Cooke soundtrack, but the behaviors discussed here are a good indication of someone’s deep love for you. 

Just paying attention to your partner’s behavior helps pinpoint true love in action. It enables you to recognize a deep soul connection that could result in a long-lasting, life-affirming relationship. 

Kathy Copeland Padden

Kathy Copeland Padden lives in a New England forest paradise with her cats, kid, and trusty laptop. She has been writing since age 8 and is such a pack rat she can back that up with physical evidence. Music is her solace and words are her drug, so her house is strewn with records and books. Watch your step.

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