Lucas Graham
I think it’s fair to say that we all want to be better people.
Whether it’s being kinder, more responsible, or simply lifting others up instead of tearing them down, it’s something we often strive for.
But what does it really mean to be “good”? Is it about following a set of moral guidelines, or is it more about the behaviors we choose to engage in every day?
Today, we dive into some common habits that could be holding you back from becoming the person you want to be.
How many do you recognize? Let’s find out.
1) Criticizing others
Criticizing others is a behavior that does more harm than good.
It not only hurts the person on the receiving end, but it also reflects poorly on you. It can create a negative environment and can lead to low self-esteem in others.
Consider, for instance, someone who constantly points out flaws in their friends or colleagues. This behavior might make them feel superior for a moment, but in the long run, it often leads to resentment and a lack of trust.
Worst of all, as noted by the folks at Psych Central, it makes you unhappier!
Instead of criticizing, try to understand where the other person is coming from. Offer constructive feedback if necessary, but always from a place of kindness and respect.
Being a good person means lifting others up, not tearing them down. It’s about fostering positivity and understanding, not spreading negativity.
2) Holding onto grudges
Something I’ve learned over the years is that holding onto grudges is one of the most self-destructive behaviors we can indulge in.
I recall a time when a close friend of mine did something that deeply hurt me. Instead of talking it out, I held onto that pain and resentment. The grudge I held didn’t affect them, but it consumed me.
It was a constant presence in my thoughts and emotions, coloring my perception of everything else.
It was only when I decided to let go of that grudge that I felt a sense of freedom and relief. I realized that by holding onto resentment, I was only hurting myself.
Being a good person means having the ability to forgive. It’s about understanding that people make mistakes and being gracious enough to forgive them for it. Holding onto grudges only leads to bitterness and prevents us from moving forward.
Let go of those grudges. Trust me, you’ll feel lighter and happier for it.
3) Not taking responsibility
This is a big one.
When we make a mistake, it’s easy to play the blame game and point fingers at others. But it takes real courage to say, “I messed up. I’m sorry.”
As Jim Rohn said, “You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.”
Instead of shying away from our mistakes, let’s face them head-on, apologize if needed, and learn from them. It’s a behavior that not only makes us better people but also leads to personal growth.
4) Being judgemental
We live in a diverse world filled with people from various backgrounds, cultures, and experiences. It’s easy to form judgments based on our own perspectives or beliefs. But being judgemental can create a divide and foster negativity.
When we judge others, we often fail to understand their experiences or perspectives. This could lead to misunderstandings and conflicts. Plus, it prevents us from learning and growing.
Instead, strive to be open-minded and understanding. Embrace the diversity around you and learn from it. Remember, everyone has their own journey, and it’s not our place to judge them for it.
Being a good person means accepting others as they are, without judgment or prejudice.
5) Neglecting self-care
This one might seem strange on this list, but it is so important to being a better person. Let me explain.
In our quest to be good people, we often forget to take care of ourselves. We’re so focused on helping others that we neglect our own needs and well-being.
But we can’t pour from an empty cup.
When we’re physically, emotionally, and mentally healthy, we’re better equipped to help others. We’re more patient, understanding, and compassionate.
Being a good person also means being good to yourself. It could be as simple as taking a few minutes each day to relax and reflect, or ensuring you’re eating well and getting enough sleep.
6) Being dishonest
Honesty is a fundamental aspect of being a good person. It builds trust, shows respect, and demonstrates integrity.
However, there are times when we might be tempted to bend the truth or hide facts to avoid uncomfortable situations or consequences.
Despite the short-term convenience, dishonesty can damage relationships and erode trust over time. And once trust is lost, it can be incredibly difficult to regain.
Let’s strive for honesty in all our interactions and communications. Even when it’s difficult, choosing to be truthful reflects our commitment to being good people.
7) Neglecting kindness
“Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always.” – Brad Meltzer
Last but not least, kindness is the cornerstone of being a good person. It’s not just about grand gestures, but also about small acts of compassion and understanding that can make a big difference in someone’s day.
Kindness has the power to bridge divides, heal wounds, and bring people together. It fosters empathy, understanding, and mutual respect.
And the beautiful thing about kindness is that it’s contagious. One act of kindness can inspire others to do the same.
Final thoughts: The essence of being good
Becoming a better person isn’t about grand gestures or perfection—it’s about the small, consistent choices we make every day.
By letting go of these seven harmful habits, you’re not only freeing yourself but also creating a more positive impact on the world around you.
It’s not always easy, and it definitely doesn’t happen overnight, but awareness is the first step toward growth.
Whether you’ve recognized a few of these habits in yourself or you’re already working to overcome them, take pride in your progress.
The journey to becoming a better person is just that—a journey. And every step forward, no matter how small, is a victory.
Thanks for reading, and here’s to your continued growth!
Until next time.
