If you really want to attract a classy and high-value woman, say goodbye to these 9 habits

So, you want to be with a woman you can be proud of—someone inspiring and truly classy…

But sadly, those types are not interested in you.

And now you’re asking yourself, “what gives?”

If you really want to attract a classy, high-value woman, there’s only one thing you need to do: you gotta be classy yourself!

And to do that, you’d have to say goodbye to these habits:

1) Partying like it’s 1999

I get you. I love a good party, too.

But do you still drink like there’s no tomorrow?

Do you smoke a lot, get wasted often, and do crazy things like you’re 21?

If so, then yeah, it will be challenging for you to attract the women you’re trying to go for.

You see, classy women prefer men who are over that phase. 

Now, I’m not saying you should give everything up completely. You gotta live! 

But you have to do things in moderation.

It will show that you have the self-discipline and lifestyle of a mature man, which is exactly what they’re looking for.

2) Being too clingy 

Yes, it’s normal to be a bit clingy from time to time—it can also be cute, and even classy women dig that.

But if you’re TOO clingy ALL the damn time?

Oh boy, that’s gonna wear them out.

High-value women want men who are self-reliant and emotionally strong

They live a full life and have goals to achieve, and the last thing they want is a partner who’d call them every hour and hound them for their attention. 

3) Paying too much attention to one’s looks

Newsflash: genuinely classy women aren’t superficial. 

If physical appearance is your number one criteria for choosing a partner, then you might miss out on being with a high-value woman.

Because while classy women care about looking good, they don’t obsess about it. 

In fact, they keep things simple.

Classy people have styles of a different kind. 

They subscribe to Bukowski’s definition of style—for him, it is the way of doing things. He even said “Opening a can of sardines can be an art.” 

So yes, they’re probably not walking around in Prada, but they move with effortless grace. And they’re thoughtful, unique, and worldly.

In other words, they prefer substance over looks. 

And if you really want to impress them, the expensive watch and the perfectly coiffed hair that takes an hour to achieve might not be the way to go.

4) Talking about yourself too much

Are you a “Me, myself, and I” kind of guy?

Then you gotta change that if you want a classy, high-value woman.

It’s not that they want a guy who just blends in, so they can have the limelight on them instead. Not at all!

They actually don’t care for that kind of attention! 

It’s that they don’t like being around people who have nothing else to talk about but themselves.

I mean, can you blame them? That sh*t gets boring real fast!

Classy women want to talk about art, politics, science, business ideas, philosophy… anything that makes them learn more about the world!

So, if you want their eyes on you, it’s time to forget about yourself for a while. 

Sure, answer their questions if they ask about your job or your fitness program… But if you really want to win their heart, talk about something other than yourself.

5) Being lazy and passive

Spending too much time online?

Playing video games until the wee hours of the night?

Not initiating dates? Not planning anything to do?

Shrugging when being asked about life goals?

A classy and high-value woman would walk away at the first sign of a lazy lifestyle

They’re usually very ambitious—and no, I’m not saying they just want to be rich. 

But they know the life that they want—whether it’s being a CEO or a cat parent with a garden—and they’d do their best to achieve them.

And if you’re a real slacker, they know at once that you’re not the one. 

You could be the sweetest and nicest man around, but they just can’t be with someone whose laziness will drag them down. 

6) Smart shaming

When she nerds out about something and she gets extra passionate about it…

Do you get a bit intimidated and go, “Yeah right, you’re sooooo smart!” or “I get it, you’re a genius”?

And do you make her feel crazy for “overthinking”? 

Well, you’d never attract classy, high-value women, that’s a guarantee! In fact, you’d most likely repel them.

Classy women are very curious, and they love learning!

This is why we think of a classy woman as someone who reads books, goes to museums, enjoys the cinema, and loves intellectual conversations.

So, if you think she’s being pretentious, or that she’s a know-it-all, then you’re just not a good match for a classy, high-value woman. 

7) Being a low-key chauvinistic male

Have you ever said any of the following phrases:

“I’m the man, respect me!”

“Just do what I say.”

“You’re being stubborn. Are you trying to insult me?!”

If yes, then… yikes. 

Classy, high-value women recognize this as a sign of an inflated male ego and a sense of entitlement. And they’re not wrong.

So, it makes sense that this is something they don’t want in a partner. 

A big part of what makes high-value women what they are is their self-respect. And they won’t belittle themselves because of some antiquated idea of gender rules. 

Don’t expect them to bow down to men just because. And if you give any sign that you’re a bit sexist, you likely won’t hear from them again. 

8) Being a bad communicator

Classy, high-value women pay close attention to how you communicate.

After all, it’s probably the most important skill to have a successful, long-term relationship.

Classy women are attracted to classy men who know how to express themselves appropriately.

And they’re put off by:

  • Yelling, cursing, and overusing vulgar language
  • Gaslighting and deflecting
  • Shutting down instead of talking

So, if you notice that you kinda suck at communicating, work on acquiring the traits that you need to improve this. 

It just might be what you need to attract classy women.

9) Not giving a damn about others

A classy woman is a woman who respects and cares for the people around them.

They have good manners not because they want everyone to see them as “classy,” but because they genuinely care about how they impact others. 

They care about their neighbors, so they try to avoid making noise, especially at ungodly hours.

They care about the environment, so they dispose of their garbage properly.

And they care about people who are in need, so they try to help whenever they can.

So, if they notice that your only concern is yourself—and worse, if you deliberately do things that could bother (or hurt) others—they’d run.

Classy, high-value women don’t want to be around people who only care about themselves.

Final thoughts

Look, the goal of this isn’t to point out that there’s something wrong with you.

It’s important to embrace who you are!

But if you’re looking for a high-value woman, then you have no choice but to be a high-value man yourself.

Otherwise, you’ll never be a good match. 

Making changes in your habits and lifestyle that will help you become a better version of you will also allow you to attract the kind of women that you’d want to be with for life. 

And if after doing all of the necessary changes you still attract classy women, then at least you’ve become a truly classy man. That’s still a big win.

Isabella Chase

Isabella Chase, a New York City native, writes about the complexities of modern life and relationships. Her articles draw from her experiences navigating the vibrant and diverse social landscape of the city. Isabella’s insights are about finding harmony in the chaos and building strong, authentic connections in a fast-paced world.

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