If you really want a healthy relationship, start doing these 8 things every day

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In my journey through love’s ups and downs, I’ve discovered something crucial: A truly healthy relationship doesn’t just happen; it’s built day by day, moment by moment. 

I used to think that a picture-perfect partnership was all about the “wow” factors — those Instagrammable milestones. 

But you know what? It’s the simple, everyday acts that glue a relationship together. 

If you’re yearning for a love that lasts, that really goes the distance, you’re not alone. I’m right there with you. 

Let’s dive into 8 everyday actions that will elevate your relationship from good to phenomenal.

1) Express gratitude

When it comes to love, sometimes it’s the little things that make all the difference

I used to breeze through my day, not really stopping to appreciate the small, thoughtful acts my partner did for me. 

Then one day, one of my coaches made me realize — how could someone feel valued if their efforts go unnoticed?

Now, I make it a point to express gratitude daily. Whether it’s a heartfelt “thank you” for taking out the trash or a handwritten note acknowledging my partner’s support, these gestures of gratitude have been transformative.

It might seem like a tiny step, but expressing gratitude shines a spotlight on the good in your relationship. And the more you focus on the good, the more of it you’ll see. 

Trust me, this simple daily habit creates a ripple effect of positivity and love that will strengthen your emotional bond like nothing else.

2) Communicate openly

You know that feeling when you hold something back because you’re afraid it might lead to an argument or hurt your partner’s feelings? 

I too have kept my thoughts locked away like some guarded treasure. But guess what? Relationships aren’t built on secrets; they’re built on open communication.

These days, I strive for candid, heartfelt discussions with my partner every day. It’s not always easy to lay your cards on the table, but the rewards are immense. 

Open communication doesn’t just clear the air; it lays a foundation of trust and intimacy that’s rock-solid.

Here’s the thing: you don’t have to dive into deep, soul-baring conversations daily. Even small talks about how your day went or what’s on your mind can significantly improve your relationship quality.

The more you openly communicate, the more you create a safe space for both of you to be your authentic selves. And isn’t that what a healthy relationship is all about?

3) Listen actively

I’ll admit it: I used to think I was a great listener, nodding at the right times and offering the occasional “uh-huh.” 

But I was really just waiting for my turn to talk, my mind racing ahead to my next point. It was a wake-up call to realize that I wasn’t truly listening at all.

Active listening has since become a cornerstone of my relationship. It’s more than just hearing words; it’s about understanding the emotions and intentions behind them. 

It means putting down my phone, locking eyes with my partner, and immersing myself in the conversation.

I’ve found that the mere act of really listening can dissolve tension, solve problems, and deepen our emotional connection immeasurably. 

It’s a daily habit that asks for nothing but your full attention, and in return, it strengthens the very core of your relationship. 

4) Make time for each other

Ah, the elusive “quality time.” It’s something we all crave, yet in the chaos of daily life, it’s easy to neglect. 

It might seem like being in the same room counts — even if you’re both glued to your screens, doing your own thing. 

But personally, I believe that this can be even worse than not being together. Because it waters down the quality of your time together and makes you start losing appreciation for it.

What needs to happen is you need to come together with purpose — truly make time for each other. Nothing can replace the deep, authentic connection that this creates. 

And it doesn’t have to be a three-hour chunk of time. It’s okay even if it’s just a few uninterrupted minutes over coffee or a quick walk around the block. 

These moments give you a chance to reconnect, to share laughs, dreams, and even those silly little thoughts you might think don’t matter — they do.

In my relationship, this dedicated time has become a sanctuary in our busy lives, reminding us why we chose each other in the first place. 

The best part? It doesn’t require grand plans or lavish outings; it just requires you, your partner, and a commitment to cherish each other, every single day.

5) Be present

It’s probably common sense that being present goes hand in hand with making time for each other.

But as we all know, in today’s world of constant notifications and endless to-do lists, truly being present is easier said than done. 

I used to be “there” but not really there, my mind wandering to work stress or what’s for dinner. And let me tell you, nothing saps the joy out of a relationship faster than not giving each other your full attention.

That’s why I’ve made it a daily habit to be genuinely present when I’m with my partner. This means silencing my phone, quieting my racing thoughts, and focusing solely on the here and now. 

If I truly can’t do that, then I politely and kindly tell my partner I’m a bit occupied at the moment and ask him if our chat could wait until later. 

This helps make sure that our interactions stay deep and meaningful, and we don’t fall into the bad habit of treating each other as distractions. 

6) Be honest, but kind

Let’s face it: Honesty can be a double-edged sword. On one side, it’s the cornerstone of any strong relationship. On the other, it has the potential to hurt feelings or stir up conflict. 

I used to tiptoe around sensitive topics, fearing that being too honest could backfire. But at one point, I realized something that now seems obvious: you can be honest and kind at the same time. 

This doesn’t mean sugarcoating the truth or avoiding tough conversations. 

Instead, it means choosing words thoughtfully, being mindful of timing, and most importantly, being sensitive to each other’s feelings.

For example, let’s say your partner has been coming home late from work all week, and it’s starting to bother you. 

Instead of accusing them of neglecting the relationship, you might say, “I’ve noticed you’ve been coming home late and I’ve missed spending time with you. Is everything okay at work?” 

This not only opens the door for honest communication but does so in a compassionate way.

The result? A trust-based relationship where we both feel heard, respected, and loved. Being honest, but kind, transforms the act of sharing truth from a risky endeavor to a daily affirmation of your love and respect for each other.

7) Keep doing the little things

You know those tiny acts of love that filled the early days of your relationship? Maybe it was leaving a sweet note, making a cup of coffee in the morning, or simply holding the door open. 

Small as they may seem, these little things often get lost in the shuffle of life, and I’ve been guilty of letting them slide myself.

But I’ve come to understand that these tiny gestures are far from insignificant; they’re the threads that weave the fabric of a loving relationship. 

Now, each day, I make a conscious effort to do the little things, as does my partner.

It could even be as simple as sending a “thinking of you” text during a busy workday. 

These small acts may not make headlines, but they make a world of difference in sustaining a warm, loving environment between you and your significant other.

8) Work on yourself

You’ve heard the saying, “You can’t pour from an empty cup,” right? Well, it’s a sentiment that rings especially true in relationships. 

Early on, I made the mistake of thinking that a relationship was a cure-all for personal issues or insecurities. 

The reality, however, is different. Being in a healthy relationship starts with being healthy yourself.

So, every day, I take time to focus on personal growth, whether it’s through exercise, reading, or even quiet reflection. 

The benefits are twofold: First, by improving yourself, you bring a better, more enriched version of you into the relationship. This has a positive domino effect, encouraging your partner to also invest in their own growth. 

Second, by continuously working on yourself, you’re less likely to rely on your partner for your happiness or self-worth. This takes off undue pressure and creates a healthier dynamic where both partners can flourish.

So take that online course you’ve been eyeing, dive into that hobby you’ve neglected, or start that exercise routine you’ve been putting off. 

Your relationship will thank you, and more importantly, you’ll thank yourself.

Unlock the power of everyday love

So there you have it, friends — 8 daily habits that can elevate your relationship from ordinary to extraordinary. 

These aren’t grand gestures or high-maintenance commitments. They’re simple acts of love, done consistently. 

As you integrate them into your daily life, you’ll see not just your relationship, but your own emotional world, transform in beautiful ways. 

Give yourselves the love you both deserve — every single day.

Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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