Confidence is something everyone wants to embody.
It helps you get ahead at work, succeed at your goals, and earn the respect of people around you.
But of course not everyone is born with this skill. Some people try very hard to be a confident person, but can’t manage to embody it.
On the contrary, some people find it very natural to act with confidence. If you often say these 7 phrases, you could be one of them.
1) “I’ll find a way.”
How often do you hear someone say “I wish I could do that” or “If only I could do that”?
If I had a dime for every time I heard that, I’d be hella rich.
And that just goes to show how many people there are who are not naturally confident. Because the ones who are would never say something like that.
They would never put themselves down before they even give something a shot. Rather, they would want to think positively and believe in their skills and abilities.
But obviously, confidence doesn’t automatically mean you will succeed at everything — and sometimes confident people may recognize that something is not worth the effort it will take.
Yet, they still won’t put themselves down by saying “I can’t do that.” Instead, they will have the confidence to say “I choose not to do that” or “That’s not aligned with my priorities right now.”
It’s a much more positive and self-assured way to express yourself, and communicates to yourself that it’s not that you can’t achieve it, but you decide to invest your energy where it will have the best impact.
2) “I’m so happy for you!”
The modern world can feel like a constant competition — who has a better job, a fancier house, a more fulfilling relationship, a dreamier vacation.
It can be hard to be truly happy for other people, when we’re set up to constantly compare ourselves with others, especially because of social media.
But not naturally confident people. These are individuals who can be truly happy for your successes and celebrate other people’s wins.
They have an abundance mindset and understand that there is enough success and enough positive experiences to go around for everyone — so other people’s wins don’t take away from their own.
More than that, they see it as proof that amazing things are possible. If someone else can have it, that means they can too — and that’s one more reason to get genuinely excited.
3) “He/She is so great at XYZ.”
Following up on the point above, naturally confident people don’t just celebrate other people’s wins, but they also appreciate and admire their good qualities.
I must admit, I used to struggle with this a lot, particularly before I learned to develop my self-confidence.
Whenever I heard someone praising another person with a comment like, “She’s definitely the kindest person I’ve ever met” I would instinctively think “Oh no, that means I’m not as kind.”
I would always be internally comparing myself, and afraid that if I recognize great things about other people, somehow it takes away from me.
But as I developed my confidence, I learned to see it the way that naturally confident people do – everyone has positive things about them, and appreciating that doesn’t diminish your own qualities.
On the contrary, you can see it as inspiration and aspire to be more like them. Plus, it means you’re surrounded by people at least as good as you — and that’s much better than the opposite.
4) “How can I do better?”
If there’s one thing naturally confident people are good at doing, it’s accepting feedback.
And I probably don’t need to tell you how tough that can be. Personally, I remember the time when I used to be so nervous before performance reviews, I could barely eat breakfast.
I hated the idea that someone might have some negative feedback or constructive criticism for me.
But as I got more confident, I understood that feedback is the only way I could truly grow. And I can both continue to grow and also be confident in the skills I have already.
Sure, your own opinion of you is what matters most, but other people’s perspectives are super valuable to help you self-reflect and get a more objective understanding of yourself.
Naturally confident people don’t just welcome feedback, they actively seek it out. And they’re not just interested in praise, but they genuinely want to know what they can improve upon.
Because they know that there is always room for improvement, no matter how good you are already.
5) “I’m sorry, that was my bad.”
How readily do you admit to mistakes when you make them?
If you don’t have too much difficulty taking responsibility when you mess something up, then that’s a great sign that you’re a naturally confident person.
Sure, it still doesn’t feel pleasant — even after I grew in confidence, I would still feel a little sting and an instinct to hide whenever I did something wrong.
But what was more important was my understanding that mistakes don’t diminish your value or worth.
In fact, they’re inevitable — and admitting them just shows maturity, integrity, and most of all confidence.
Because you know that they don’t define who you are, and they don’t erase all the positive sides to you.
On the contrary, they allow you to acquire even more positive ones, by showing you what you can work on — and naturally confident people know that they can turn any weakness into a strength.
6) “I’m happy with my decision.”
Imagine you’ve spent the last few days or weeks pondering a decision, and you’ve finally made your choice.
You tell a family member or close friend about it, but instead of telling you what a great choice you’ve made, they tell you that you should have gone for another option.
How do you react? If you’re a naturally confident person, you might be a little surprised by their reaction, but at the end of the day it doesn’t change anything for you.
Because their opinion is based on their own preferences and experiences, and yours are certainly different from theirs — so it’s totally okay that they would choose differently.
But you’re the only one who truly knows your context and circumstances, and so you’re the only person who can make the best choice for you.
You continue to stand by your decision even when others disagree with you, and you don’t waver from your trust in yourself.
7) “Here’s how I can help you.”
Finally, confident people are quick to offer their help, advice, and support to others.
In other words, they’re not selfish with their knowledge and skills, but they give it out freely.
Because they know that they have a ton of value that extends far beyond what they’re offering to you. They don’t try to keep it to themselves out of fear that by sharing it with others they’ll lose what makes them special.
I remember reading an author’s story about how he struggled with this momentarily. He had just published a book that was under consideration for a prize.
And he was asked to write a review for another book to be considered for a prize as well. He hesitated for a while, wondering whether he was diminishing his own chance at winning the prize by helping someone else potentially get it.
But in the end, he decide to go ahead and support the other author, because he knew that whether or not he got the prize, his book and his writing was just as valuable.
And more than that, by uplifting others, he was also uplifting himself, because he was raising the skill and success of the community he was part of.
Can you build up your confidence?
Now you know 7 phrases that you might say if you’re a naturally confident person.
Some lucky individuals might find themselves using these phrases on a regular basis, showing that they are exceptionally confident people naturally.
But if you’re like me, you might find only a couple of them come out of your mouth naturally.
And that’s okay. As I’ve shared throughout this article, I wasn’t always the most confident individual.
In fact, it’s something I put in a lot of effort to work on and improve.
Over the years, I did see a lot of progress in this area, and phrases like these became more and more natural for me.