If you have these 8 traits, you’re probably really popular

Ever wondered why some people have a magnetic effect on others? Everyone wants to get to know them and they make friends effortlessly wherever they go.

They’re also often the most admired or appreciated person within a group of friends.

So, what makes these people so popular? Today, we’ll explore 8 traits that make these individuals so well-liked.

Are you one of them? Read on to find out.

1) You’re confident

The first trait, is confidence. Having confidence draws people in and makes them want to listen to what you have to say. People may even seek advice and guidance from you, because you know – or at least, appear to know – what you’re doing. When you find yourself in an uncomfortable situation, you know how to navigate it expertly.

And this sets you apart from others.

In my experience, confidence comes as a whole package. It’s about what you say, how you say it, and more importantly, the way you carry yourself. Do you stand tall, maintain eye contact and speak with certainty – even in awkward situations?

If so, you definitely have some measure of confidence, because you know what you’re talking about and stand by it.

2) You’re open-minded and respectful

This doesn’t mean you shut down the opinions of those that disagree with you. Instead of having a narrow worldview, you’re open to the diverse viewpoints and perspectives of others.

You take these in with an open mind.

Of course, this doesn’t mean you’re a pushover who agrees with everything, but you know when to respond and how to do it respectfully.

It’s very easy to get defensive when someone disagrees with you. However, maintaining an open, non-judgemental attitude when conversing with others will not only help build connections, but also help you gain the respect of others.

This brings me to my next point.

3) You’re approachable

Having an open mind will make you a much more approachable person. People are willing to speak to you without the fear of getting judged. As such, they may share their thoughts and views with you, including topics they may be hesitant to share with others.

By putting people at ease, others will find it easy to initiate conversations with you. But be sure to draw appropriate boundaries to avoid burdening yourself with the problems of others!

I’ve met plenty of approachable people and it’s always such a joy to spend time with them. Even though you’ve just met them, they have this ability to make you feel as though you’ve known them all their lives.

And the next trait is another reason why.

4) You’re a great listener

There are two types of listeners: the active listener and the passive one.

Active listeners are invested in the conversation. You have their undivided attention and can see it in the way they respond to you. They affirm what you’ve said and add value to the conversation by addressing the points raised and sharing their perspectives. 

On the other hand, passive listeners are physically present, but it’s a “in one ear, out the other” situation – mentally, they’re somewhere else. Passive listeners are just not interested in what you’re saying.

If you’re someone who everyone loves talking to, you’re definitely an active listener. You’re fully present in the conversation, effectively telling the other person: I hear you.

5) You have a good sense of humor

Another winning trait in popular people is their good sense of humor. Everyone loves a good laugh!

If you’re someone with a quick wit or are able to weave in jokes effortlessly into everyday conversations – appropriately of course – trust me, you’re the life of the party. At the end of the day, everyone who speaks to you is bound to remember you.

Unfortunately, not everyone possesses this skill, and it’s a tough one to master. If you’re lucky enough to have this, you’re definitely on the right path to becoming a really popular person

6) You have a positive attitude

Have you ever met someone that just invigorates you? After speaking to them, you feel refreshed and recharged.

It’s because positivity is contagious! If you go through life with a sunny disposition, you’ll definitely draw people in. With all the negativity in the world, people are on the lookout for something or someone that can make them smile, laugh, or even feel empowered to take on the challenges ahead of them.

While it does take a lot of effort to maintain this outlook in life, remember, it’s always a choice to look on the bright side.

You’ll also be an inspiration to everyone you meet.

7) You’re authentically you

People are drawn to authenticity – those who aren’t afraid of being themselves and embrace the unique qualities that make them who they are.

In fact, these people are often admired, because it’s certainly not easy to stand out. Conforming to what people regard as “the norm” is so much easier.  

But, by maintaining your genuine self, you invite people to get to know you at a deeper level. This honesty builds trust and a stronger level of connection with others.

8) You’re welcoming and inclusive

The final trait that sets popular people apart is their ability to bring people together, regardless of who they are and where they come from.

They’re able to see past differences and will try their best to bridge gaps by finding common topics of interest in order to create a sense of community.

You can say they’re like the glue that holds people together, and this is not an easy thing to do. People find safety in familiarity and as a result, this leads to many missed opportunities for good connections or friendships.

Therefore, if you have this trait, you’re definitely on the path towards becoming a more popular person. You get along with everyone!


It’s great to be someone who can make friends everywhere they go, after all, who doesn’t want to be well-liked?

However, this shouldn’t take priority over building genuine connections and nurturing meaningful relationships. Don’t lose yourself trying to be everyone’s favorite!

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Tina Fey

I'm Tina Fey, the founder of the blog Love Connection. I've extremely passionate about sharing relationship advice. I've studied psychology and have my Masters in marital, family, and relationship counseling. I hope with all my heart to help you improve your relationships, and I hope that even if one thing I write helps you, it means more to me than just about anything else in the world. Check out my blog Love Connection, and if you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter

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