Adrian Volenik
The more I look around, the more I see people who are secretly unhappy. Yes, on the surface, they exhibit all the typical signs of happiness and success, but deep down, you know they’re unhappy, and they know it too.
The thing is, we all imagined different things in our lives, and for many, it didn’t turn out the way they’d hoped. Not by a long shot.
To find out if someone is secretly disappointed in life, you just need to pay attention to their words and read between the lines.
Here are some typical phrases people who are secretly unhappy in life use.
1) “I don’t care”
When someone often says, “I don’t care,” it could be a sign that the person is feeling a bit unhappy inside.
Imagine if you ask them about something, and instead of expressing their thoughts or feelings, they repeatedly say, “I don’t care.”
This might be their way of not wanting to talk about what’s really going on inside them. It could show that they’re going through a tough time but aren’t ready to share it with you.
So, when someone uses this phrase a lot, it’s probably a subtle clue that they might be secretly dealing with some unhappiness or difficulties in their life.
2) “I guess”
“I guess” often implies uncertainty or a lack of strong opinion. But this phrase can also suggest a person is uneasy about their emotions or might be facing inner conflict.
They don’t feel entirely comfortable expressing their true feelings, using “I guess” as a way to downplay or mask their genuine emotions.
It’s a subtle clue that beneath the surface, there might be complexities and emotions that they’re not ready to openly discuss.
3) “It doesn’t matter”
When someone says, “It doesn’t matter,” they might be saying that whatever is happening or being discussed isn’t important to them.
On the surface, it might seem like they’re easygoing or not bothered, but beneath that, it could mean something entirely else.
Sometimes, people use this phrase to downplay things because they don’t want to make a fuss or draw attention to their feelings.
They’re putting on a brave face, but inside, something is bothering them. So, when you hear “It doesn’t matter,” it could be a little hint that there might be more to the story, and they might appreciate a caring conversation.
4) “Never mind”
When someone says “Never mind,” they’re telling you to forget about something or not pay attention to it.
It’s their way of stopping a conversation or saying that whatever was being talked about isn’t important.
But, you know, sometimes people say this when they might actually care about what’s going on. It could mean they don’t want to talk about it or share their feelings.
5) “I’m used to it”
While this phrase might suggest adaptability on the surface, it can also be a subtle signal that the person has experienced a challenge or difficulty many times.
In fact, so many times that they’re accustomed to it, even if it’s not good. For example, if someone faces a constant problem or obstacle, saying “I’m used to it” means they’ve learned to cope with it over time.
I was certainly in that situation for many years, working terrible and frankly often degrading jobs at supermarkets, gas stations, and similar.
After some time, you get used to all the crappy things that happen pretty often when you work with the general public.
6) “It’s okay” and “I’m okay”
When someone says, “It’s okay,” the truth is, they might not actually feel okay. They try to cover things up, saying things are fine even if they’re not.
I mean, I can understand them. I’ve done it myself many times because I didn’t want to bother others with my problems, or I was worried about being misunderstood.
So, when you hear this, there might be more going on beneath the surface, and they could use some support.
But it’s up to you if you’ll dig around to find out what’s happening with them or not.
7) “I’m just tired”
Show me a person, and I’ll show you someone who’s tired. Everyone is tired these days because we’re completely overwhelmed with responsibilities and even life in general.
I read somewhere that medieval farmers had a better work-life balance than we do. Now, many people are trying to barely survive by having two to three jobs.
That’s why when someone says, “I’m just tired,” they might be secretly unhappy with their life. They need or want a change, but they’re stuck in the middle of a rock and a hard place.
8) “It is what it is”
When someone says, “It is what it is”, they’ve accepted something or feel resignation towards a situation.
On the surface, it sounds like they’re cool with things as they are. However, deep down, it means they’re dealing with something that’s not making them quite happy.
It’s like they’ve come to terms with whatever’s happening, but they have an unspoken wish for things to be different or better.
It’s their way of saying, “I can’t change this, so I’ll roll with it,” but underneath, they have a desire for positive change or improvement.
9) “No big deal”
When someone dismisses things with “It’s no big deal,” they’re downplaying the importance of an event or situation.
They’re probably trying to avoid making a fuss or drawing attention to personal matters, even if the issue means a lot to them.
Again, I’ve used this many times in the past to downplay my achievements because I didn’t want to draw attention to myself.
10) “Just forget it”
When you’re having a tough day, and someone asks if everything’s okay and you say, “Just forget it,” it could mean you don’t want to bring them into your problems.
You’re trying to brush off the issue, hoping it magically disappears, right? But deep down, you might really need someone to ask a bit more, show they care, and help you out.
So, when someone often uses “Just forget it,” they’re dealing with more than they’re letting on, and a little support could mean a lot to them.
11) “I’m just doing my thing”
On the surface, this sounds chill, like they’ve got everything under control. But underneath, it could mean they’re dealing with stuff on their own, maybe not feeling super happy about it, but not ready to spill the emotional beans.
It’s like they’re keeping their struggles behind a cool exterior, just doing what they gotta do, even if it’s not all rainbows and sunshine.
12) “Can’t complain, I guess”
When someone says, “Can’t complain, I guess,” it’s like a low-key way of saying, “Things could be worse.”
It’s the kind of response you give when someone asks how you’re doing, and you want to keep it light.
It might mean they’re dealing with some stuff, but they’re not ready to spill all the beans.
They’re putting on a brave face, even if there’s more going on beneath the surface. So, it’s a mix of keeping it chill while juggling life’s ups and downs without getting into the nitty-gritty details.
13) “Just another day”
Describing a day as “just another day” means there’s a sense of monotony or routine without excitement.
When someone says, “It’s just another day,” they’re saying things are kinda routine and nothing special is happening.
They’re probably feeling a bit stuck or wishing for something more interesting in their life.
You know, like when you’re hoping for a bit of excitement or a break from the usual daily stuff.
So, behind this simple phrase, there might be a quiet longing for a change or a sprinkle of excitement to make things a bit more fun.
Final thoughts
Tell me now, how happy or unhappy are you with your life? Are you satisfied with how things turned out or do you believe it could be better?
