If someone uses these 11 phrases in a conversation, they lack sophistication and class

Some people seem classy at first sight.

They wear fancy clothes, they’re poised, they have a nice smile…

But the moment they open their mouths, uh-oh. You instantly know they’re anything but classy…

And it’s probably because you’ve heard them say these phrases:

1) “Eww. That looks cheap!”

Some people equate class with glamour—but they’re totally different things!

Class involves the way one acts, and genuinely classy people don’t give a f*ck about how expensive something might look.

More importantly, they’re not judgmental.

Even if something indeed is cheap, so what? 

They know that people have the right to wear whatever they want because real class goes deeper than the fabric around your body. 

2) “OMG! I have juicy gossip for you!”

The moment I hear someone say this, I get turned off.

To me, it just shows a real lack of class, especially when the gossip is about other people’s misfortunes.

Seriously, why do they care about other people’s miseries, or who’s dating whom? 

Classy people talk about ideas.

The only time they talk about others is when they give necessary information, or to give them praise. 

3) “I don’t want to sound rude, but…”

This phrase is often used by a-holes as a hall pass to say something really rude. 

What’s annoying is that the disclaimer means you can’t get offended, because after all, they warned you that it wasn’t gonna be pleasant—that it’s not their intention to be rude.

Classy people avoid being rude—period. If they know they will sound rude, then they’d either shut their mouth or say it in a way that’s not rude.

Instead of saying this line, they’d adjust their language instead. 

They know it’s everyone’s duty to be a little bit gentler, and this is a code that they live by.

4) “I know it’s TMI, but…”

While it can be nice to live life out loud, some people can go a bit overboard and broadcast every thought and experience to the poor, unsuspecting people around them.

They’d go “Sorry, TMI but… I had sex with our boss, and it was amazing!”

Or “Sorry, TMI, but there’s this big floater in my toilet this morning…”

They think that having a no-holds-barred approach in their conversations makes them more “genuine”, but this is actually something classy people avoid. 

Classy people believe in being their genuine selves, yes, but they’re also self-aware and they know how to read a room. 

When they realize that they could say something that’s uncomfortable for others, they’d shut their mouth.

5) “I’m not supposed to tell you this but…”

But they will. And not because they truly care for you, but because they just really want to and they can’t resist drama. 

They’ll tell you what someone else said to them in confidence about you.

Or they’ll just straight-up tell you other people’s secrets.

To them, it’s not like the world would end if they told you. They might even justify it to themselves as an act of loyalty to you. 

But betraying someone’s trust is just that—a betrayal! 

And this love of drama just shows they’re toxic, and they’re someone you probably can’t trust. 

6) “Use your head.”

Or worse “Are you stupid?!”

People who lack sophistication and class have a condescending nature and can even be verbally abusive.

They think they’re smarter than everyone else, and they have no problem with letting you know it. 

That’s why the people around them walk on eggshells, and they’re not exactly fun to be around.

Classy people, on the other hand, are careful with their words, and they’re also aware that there are different kinds of intelligence.

So, even if you share an idea that isn’t the best, they won’t see the need to tear you down for it. 

They’d say, “That’s interesting. But I think we can improve it by doing X and Y.”

Or if you mess up and they’re clearly in the right, they’d say, “Hmm. Maybe we can Google it to verify.”

7) “Well, mine is better.”

People who lack sophistication and class lack social awareness.

They want to be the center of attention all the time.

If the other person is sharing something interesting about their life—like the tricks their dog can do—they’d find a way to one-up them!


So they can take the limelight.

It’s funny because you can even talk to them about how sad you are, and they’d even go, “Oh, but I’m sadder.” It’s just always, “Me, me, me!”

People who are classy and sophisticated are sensitive to social cues, and they’ve also mastered the art of interpersonal communication.

So, when someone’s talking, they let them take their time.

In fact, they’d be happy to let you do most of the talking because classy people are generally interested in others.

8) “I just don’t like them—period.”

As I get older, I notice that the people around me are becoming more judgmental and bitter.

I have a friend whom I haven’t met for a long time. I was talking about our common acquaintance—how I enjoy her Insta, and that I envy her life in New York.

At this, my friend made a face and rolled her eyes. She said, “Ugh, I don’t like her.”

When I asked why, she didn’t really elaborate. She said, “I just don’t.” And that’s that. 

I found it sad that she’s the kind of person who can be so dismissive about things. And that she can be so open about her dislike for a person for no good reason. 

People who are classy and sophisticated would never say anything like this. 

Even if there are certain people that they don’t like, they don’t just blurt that out. 

And even this is rare, because generally, unless someone is truly despicable, they don’t hate on others just ‘cause.

9) “That’s none of my business!”

Tell them about children suffering in war-torn countries, or the rising sea levels, or your neighbor’s sick senior dog.

And you know what they’ll say?

“That’s none of my business.”

Then they’ll proceed to tell you all about their life, their work, their partner… Because that’s all they care about. 

While practical, you can’t say it’s very classy behavior, can you? 

Truly classy people care a lot about other people and the world around them, even if they can’t do much to impact these things at the moment. 

This is probably the reason why people with a class get involved in their community, support a cause, and speak up when necessary.

Class comes through with how we care for others. 

And if someone doesn’t give a flying f*ck about the world, then I can’t say there’s much class about them at all.

10) “Look what you made me do.”

People who lack class aren’t accountable for their actions.

If they lash out or say something cruel, they’d somehow blame the other person for it.

Say, you open up about your love life.

They’d say harsh things about your partner, and then tell you, “Well, it’s your fault. You know I’d give it to you straight because I care for you!”

Or, let’s say you didn’t reply to their message because you got so busy at work. They’d rush to your office and make a scene… and they’d say, “Look what you made me do! If you just replied…”

Classy people would never do this.

Not only do they have control over their impulses, they know that their actions are their own.

They’ll take full responsibility for them, even if what they did was a response to your words or actions. 

11) “I hope you rot in hell!”

No matter how angry a classy person gets, they don’t wish for the misery of others.

First, they’d try to manage their anger and calm down. But if that’s not possible, they’d just choose to shut their mouths or walk away.

And if that’s not possible either, they’d express their feelings, but make sure that they’re not personally attacking the other person.

They’d engage in heated arguments, sure, but even in anger, they stick to the issue at hand. 

They don’t feel the need to hit where it hurts, just so they’d “win” the argument. 

They know you can never take back words that have already been said, and so they’d rather keep their class by keeping their mouths shut.

Final thoughts

No one wants to be that person who says the wrong things at the wrong time, or is seen as a walking social faux-pas. 

If you saw yourself or someone you know in the scenarios described on this list, try not to be too hard on yourself or the other person about it. 

Start with some honest-to-goodness reflection. Reflect on your actions and words. 

It’s important to consider the intent behind one’s actions, yes. But remember that real class goes beyond that—it will ask you to be mindful of how you affect other people. While sophistication means you’re able to consider things from different perspectives. 

Like most things, these are characteristics that can be learned through practice. The more you do it, the easier it gets. 

So, work on it, and pretty soon you’ll find that you’re one of those people whose class and sophistication one just can’t help but admire. 

Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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