There’s a fine line between the lonely, and those who actually just thoroughly enjoy hanging out with…themselves.
Maybe you’re the lonely one, or maybe you lie more on the introverted side of the scale and are one of those special people who just love their own company.
Wherever you lie on the scale, I can tell you now that contrary to popular belief, these individuals are not anti-social nor aloof – as much as society paints them out as such.
They simply have a different way of experiencing and appreciating their surroundings.
So are you ready to find out about the distinctive traits that set solitude-lovers apart?
Let’s delve into the 9 giveaway traits that show someone really does love their alone time:
1) Cherishing solitude
Some individuals will decline a Saturday night partying invite out of social anxiety or fear, but others will genuinely rather hang out at home.
Because for those who genuinely enjoy being alone, it’s not an odd choice, but the most delightful opportunity.
Your favorite snacks, no loud and irritating talking when you watch your favorite show, snuggly blankets…
These individuals flourish in their solitude, finding it not only peaceful but also invigorating.
And it’s not that they shun social interactions or dislike company, but rather that they find a sense of satisfaction and peace in that quiet alone time.
This can also mean losing themselves for hours in a captivating novel, going on solo-hikes, or simply sitting by the window watching the rain, these solitude seekers find happiness in their solo activities.
So next time you see someone opting out of a social event to spend time alone, don’t mistake it for antisocial behavior. They’re merely honoring their need for solitude and rejuvenating in their own unique way.
2) Really enjoying moments of silence
Some find silence so stifling, they have to fill it with nonsensical chatter and blabbering.
But not solitude lovers; instead, they relish these moments of peace.
They find something incredibly soothing about being able to sit in silence, without the interruptions of conversation or background noise, and without the need to fill silence with mindless small-talk.
It gives them an opportunity to connect with their thoughts and with the world around them, deepening their emotional connection to both their inner and outer worlds.
So when you come across people who seem to relish such quiet moments, understand that they’re not being anti-social or rude – they’re simply basking in the tranquility that only quietness can offer them.
3) Valuing personal space
People who genuinely enjoy being alone often place a high value on their personal space.
It’s their sanctuary, a place where they can unwind, think, and engage in activities that they love without any interruptions.
True – that means you might find them more protective over that personal space. They may not like physical touch or might be hesitant to host people at their homes.
For them, their personal space is more than just a physical location. It’s a state of mind, a zone of peace and tranquility where they can be themselves without any judgment or expectation.
So be aware of how much solitude-lovers value their space. It’s because for them, it’s their safe-haven – thus you should treat it with care and respect.
4) Exploring hobbies independently
The most creative ideas and inventions are often born in solitude, as this is the period in which individuals can relax into themselves and engage in the activities they love most.
They might love painting, writing, gardening, or even running solo marathons or other forms of extreme fitness (done alone).
These solo endeavors are not just a way to pass the time or keep their emotional wellbeing at bay, but an opportunity for self-expression and discovery.
So don’t shun your pal if they don’t want to take you on their daily run. Some people just need to keep their hobbies for themselves, and that should be encouraged – not criticized.
5) Enjoying solo adventures
(I write this as I’ve just embarked on 6 weeks of solo-travels!)
For those who genuinely enjoy being alone, embarking on solo adventures can be exhilarating.
For those who don’t, the idea is absolutely perplexing. Who do you talk to?! Who do you sleep next to?!
But no: for solitude lovers, whether it’s an alone trip to a new city, a quiet hike through nature, or a simple walk in the park, they often find joy in exploring the world alone.
These solo escapades give them the freedom to follow their own pace and interests without having to accommodate the needs of others.
And they can still meet friends along the way; they’re just setting out alone with an open mind and an open heart, seeing where life leads them.
Plus, these journeys are not just about exploring new places, but also about discovering themselves (as cliche as that sounds!)
It’s in precious moments of solitude that personal exploration and growth happens at a monumental rate.
6) Preferring deep conversations
Individuals who enjoy being alone often prefer deep, meaningful conversations over small talk.
They’d rather delve into philosophical discussions and get passionate in debating new ideas, share lengthy personal experiences, or discuss a book they’ve read in great detail than engage in idle chit-chat over something as mundane as the weather;
For them, these deeper discussions are not just about exchanging ideas, but also about creating authentic connections and tossing innovative ways of thinking back and forth.
So if you encounter someone who tends to steer away from small talk and leans towards more profound discussions, it’s not because they’re trying to be difficult or because they lack the social skills.
If anything, they’re simply seeking a far deeper and more genuine connection with you – so why not try to match them!
7) Practicing mindfulness
Mindfulness – the practice of being fully present in the moment – is often a daily ritual for those who love solitude. They might start their day with a quiet meditation, take mindful walks, or practice deep breathing exercises.
This intentional focus on the present moment helps them tune out distractions and connect with their thoughts and emotions.
It also helps to create a sense of inner peace and clarity, enhancing their ability to be alone without feeling lonely.
And no, they’re not just sitting in silence out of boredom; they’re engaging in a powerful practice that enhances mental well-being and fosters self-awareness.
There is much we can learn from the extremely mindful individuals out there, so if you don’t already incorporate meditation into your daily routine, consider doing so.
This free Self-Healing Meditation is one of my personal favorites!
8) Appreciating simplicity
Things don’t always have to be overcomplicated and intricate to be appreciated.
A quiet evening at home, a simple home cooked recipe, a long walk in the park – these simple pleasures hold a special place in my heart.
In the rush of our busy lives, it’s often these simple moments that bring the most joy and contentment.
Yet solitude lovers always take note of the beauty in these brief and fleeting moments of what many others would only overlook as too normal, too every..
The peace of an early morning, the satisfaction of completing a puzzle, the warmth of a cup of tea – they’re reminders of the beauty in simplicity.
These aren’t just ordinary moments; they’re opportunities to pause, reflect, and appreciate the simple joys that life offers.
9) Valuing self-discovery
The time spent in solitude is a precious opportunity to delve deeper into their thoughts, dreams, and aspirations, and they love the journey. Even if it can at times bring a great deal of overthinking and anxiety (a shout out to my highly sensitive individuals out there!)
Whether it’s through journaling, reflecting, or simply sitting in quiet contemplation, these moments of solitude offer a unique chance to understand oneself better.
And is never simply a case of spending time alone; it’s about enabling yourself to discover how much you’re capable of on your own, how much of the world there is to see if you start looking, and how much more you’ve yet to learn about yourself.