If a woman uses these 7 specific phrases in a conversation, she’s highly attracted to you

When it comes to women, it’s pretty hard to know where you stand, right?

We’ve probably all heard the saying “Men are from Mars and women are from Venus” and it’s true. 

It’s like men and women are from different planets, speaking two totally different languages. But what if I told you, it doesn’t have to be so confusing.

Here’s the scoop: a woman is unlikely to come out and tell you she’s attracted to you, there are certain phrases she’ll use that’ll let you know she’s into you. 

Today I’m sharing a few of those specific phrases to help you decode when a woman is attracted to you so that you know when to make your move. 

Let’s dive in and see how many of these you’ve already heard from women in your life. 

1) “You’re so funny” 

As cliché as it sounds, we ladies can’t resist a guy who can make us laugh. 

And that’s not just my opinion: research shows that women are attracted to funny men, especially when it comes to finding a long-term partner. 

When a woman finds you funny, she can’t hide it. She’s laughing along to all your silly jokes and generally having a good time with you. 

But when she actually tells you “You’re so funny” she may as well be telling you outright that she’s highly attracted to you.

When you hear that phrase from a woman, there should be no doubt in your mind about what she thinks about you. 

The best part of all is that laughing together also plays a role in both forming and maintaining healthy romantic relationships.

If you’re both laughing, it’s a good sign that she’s not only highly attracted to you but also that you’re on track to develop a strong and healthy relationship. 

2) “I feel safe with you”

As a man, you might not take much notice when a woman tells you they “feel safe with you” but you should pay attention to it because it’s a big deal. 

It’s important for everyone to feel physically safe in their environment, that’s pretty obvious. 

And if a woman is spending time with you one-on-one, it’s a given that she feels physically safe with you. 

But there’s another kind of safety that’s important for women; emotional safety.

If she’s letting you know that she’s feeling safe with you, it’s another subtle hint that she might be attracted to you. 

Here’s the thing: emotional safety is necessary for emotional connection.

“When our body and mind experience safety, our social engagement system enables us to collaborate, listen, empathize, and connect” as outlined by The Gottman Institute.

When a woman lets you know that she feels safe with you, what she’s really telling you is that she’s feeling a connection with you and she’s eager to explore it.

Don’t underestimate the power of a woman feeling safe around you, it’s a big sign she’s attracted to you. 

3) “You’re not so bad yourself”

Have you ever complimented a woman, only to have her reply “You’re not so bad yourself’?

If so, it’s a huge sign she’s highly attracted to you.

Look: I know that “you’re not so bad yourself” doesn’t sound like the world’s biggest compliment. 

But as women, we’re taught to play hard to get and make the guy chase us a little so we’re not very likely to declare our undying attraction to you. 

We’re going to play it cool, at least for a while. 

By saying “You’re not so bad yourself” we get to pay you a little compliment that tells you we’re into you and attracted to you, without going overboard. 

I remember when I was first dating my partner, I thought he was a 10/10 (and still do!) but I couldn’t tell him that, right? 

So, I used this phrase, whenever he complimented me. It was my subtle way of letting him know that I was attracted to him too. 

Next time you hear a girl use this phrase on you, recognize it for what it is, a subtle sign she finds you attractive.

4) “I remember you said…”

Another specific phrase that suggests a woman is highly attracted to you is when she says “I remember you said…”. 

Turns out: when a woman remembers the little things you’ve told her, it’s a pretty big deal.

Research has found that when a girl is ‘infatuated with their beloved’ or in simple terms, really fancies someone, she’s more likely to remember trivial things about that person. 

So when you hear that girl say things like “I remember you said that’s how you like your coffee” or “I remember you told me about your favorite movie” it’s a really good sign she’s into you. 

Listen out for this one, it’s pretty subtle but when you hear it, it’s the perfect opportunity to bite the bullet and make your move once and for all. 

5) “Where have you been, I missed you”

Have you ever bumped into a girl you haven’t seen for a bit, and she greets you with, “Where have you been? I’ve missed you”? 

Maybe it’s someone from your gym when you’ve skipped a few sessions, a coworker after you’ve been away on vacation, or just a girl in your friend group you haven’t caught up with in a while.

While it might just sound like a friendly hello, unless you’re already really tight, her saying she misses you could be a solid hint that she’s more than just a little interested.

When someone tells you they miss you, it’s not just small talk. It’s a sign they’re into you and might be trying to establish an emotional connection with you. 

Next time you hear “I’ve missed you” from someone you’re not super close with, remember it’s not just about the words; it’s about what’s behind them; possibly a hint that she’s attracted to you. 

6) “Stop flirting with me” 

My friend Janet used to have this trick for letting guys know she was attracted to them without actually telling them, and it worked every single time. 

Whenever she was interested in a guy she’d say some variation of “Stop flirting with me” or “Why are you flirting with me?”.

If you’ve ever had a girl reference or joke about how you’re flirting with her, it’s a positive sign that she’s attracted to you. 

The truth is: she’s the one flirting with you to get your attention and to suss out how you feel about her. 

You might be worried that you’re making assumptions or misreading the signals but let me put your mind at ease.

Research shows that people flirt as a way to communicate with someone they’re attracted to. 

Plus when a woman thinks you’re flirting and she is not interested in you, she will not bring it up in a friendly way or joke about it. 

When a woman is bringing up and joking about you flirting with her, it’s a subtle sign that she’s actually the one who finds you attractive. 

7) “Who’s that girl you were talking to?”

One of the biggest ways a woman will show she’s attracted to you is by asking you about other women in your life. 

It doesn’t matter if they’re just friends, when she sees another girl’s name on your phone or notices you being friendly, she’ll want to know who that girl is. 

She might ask you outright by casually saying something like “Who’s that girl you were talking to?” or she’ll be more coy and figure it out by talking with others. 

Either way, when a girl is curious about other girls in your life, maybe even getting upset about them, it’s a sure sign that she’s feeling a bit of jealousy and probably likes you.

Final thoughts

Women are experts at keeping their cards close to their chest, often keeping their true feelings under wraps. 

However, if you tune in to the specific phrases they use, you can start to pick up on subtle hints of attraction. 

Listening closely is key: those small, revealing words can tell you a lot about whether a woman is interested in you or not. 

Cat Harper

Cat is an experienced Sales and Enablement professional turned writer whose passions span from psychology and relationships to continuous self-improvement, lifelong learning and pushing back on societal expectations to forge a life she loves. An avid traveler and adventure sports enthusiast, in her downtime you'll find Cat snowboarding, motorcycling or working on her latest self-development project.

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