If a woman is secretly infatuated with you, she’ll usually display these 7 behaviors

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Women can be hard to read sometimes – sometimes, she thinks she’s flirting, but it goes right over the guy’s head. And then there’s the opposite – when she’s deeply attracted, but trying to hide it.

Maybe she has a partner already, or you do, or there’s something standing in the way like you two being colleagues. 

But even when she’s not outwardly showing it, there are subtle behaviors that can reveal her deep-seated emotions. 

I realized this myself because there was a man I had a huge crush on while I was with someone else. When my relationship ended and I finally confessed my feelings for this man, he admitted he knew all along.

Thinking back, I can see that I was unknowingly dropping clues all along. 

So if you have a woman in your life and you wonder what she feels for you, these telltale behaviors might be the key you’re looking for. Let’s dive into what they are.

1) She’ll find ways to be around you

In the realm of unspoken fascination, proximity speaks volumes.

When a woman is secretly infatuated with you, she’ll make it a point to be in your vicinity often. It’s her subconscious way of getting your attention or trying to connect with you.

This doesn’t mean she’s stalking you or being weird. It’s more about the fact that she finds comfort in your presence and wants to create opportunities for interaction.

For example, I couldn’t help but gravitate towards this one man at every party or gathering where he was. Even when I wasn’t standing near him, I would always be aware of where he was, more or less – and find myself drawn closer to that area. 

Take note if this lady pops up at your hangouts more than usual or if she’s always around when you need a hand. These are subtle signs of her eagerness to be a part of your world.

2) She’ll remember the small details

Another way I gave myself away to my crush is that I paid special attention to remembering the little things. 

Such as his coffee order. That’s one thing he mentioned to me when he told me he knew I was secretly infatuated. It was a small thing, but it was a detail that not everyone even in his circle of close friends knew or cared about.

It wasn’t that I had a great memory; I just paid more attention to him than most people, and absorbed every little thing I found out about him. It was my subconscious trying to connect with him on a deeper level. 

Is there a woman in your life who seems to notice the little things that others miss? There’s a good chance that she’s more than just casually interested

3) Her body language is open and inviting

Body language is a powerful communicator of feelings and intentions, often revealing more than words alone, because we can’t always control it completely.

I was really embarrassed to find this out when I saw footage from a birthday party I went to, that my crush was at as well. 

Someone had taken a clip while we were talking, and even I can see how it was pretty clear that I was into him. 

I was leaning in closer when he talked, kept eye contact a bit longer, and my whole body was turned towards him. Even though mentally I was trying to stay away, my body was telling a different story.

Another thing you might notice is that she unconsciuosly mirrors your actions. These are all signs of engagement that she may not be able to consciously hold back. 

4) She initiates contact

In the world of secret infatuations, initiating contact is a clear giveaway.

When a woman is infatuated with you, she’ll likely reach out more often. This could be through text messages, phone calls, or even social media likes and comments. It’s her way of staying connected and showing that she’s thinking about you.

In my case, I did my best to stay away, as I was in a committed relationship with someone else. But I couldn’t help but find innocent reasons to get in touch. When I could have asked a question to various people, I always chose him. 

When he was the one to get in touch, I didn’t just give a short perfunctory answer, but I developed the conversation. 

It can be tricky to read this sign, as some people are just open communicators, or maybe she genuinely does have a reason to talk to you. But if she’s initiating contact, she surely has positive feelings of some sort towards you.

5) She genuinely cares about your well-being

There’s something incredibly touching about someone who cares for your well-being, especially when it goes beyond the superficial level.

If a woman is secretly infatuated with you, her concern for you will be sincere and heartfelt. She might ask about your day, check in when you’re feeling down, or show concern for your health and happiness.

This level of care is more than just friendly concern. It’s a sign of deep affection and a desire to be a part of your life.

It’s also a sign that she thinks about you more than she may be able to admit. Her genuine concern for your well-being signifies that she values you as more than just a friend.

6) She shows interest in your interests

When someone is truly infatuated, they usually show a keen interest in the object of their affection’s hobbies and interests, even if they’re vastly different from their own.

For example, this crush of mine was very into electronic music. Even though it’s not my favorite style, I took the time to check out his favorite musicians and the YouTube videos that he liked. 

In your case, you might notice that she asks you questions to understand what you like better, or even make an effort to become interested in the same hobbies herself. 

This doesn’t mean she’ll suddenly become a die-hard fan of everything you love. But her willingness to explore these aspects of your life could indicate a deeper level of interest.

7) She treats you differently

At the heart of secret infatuation is a unique connection that sets you apart from everyone else in her life.

If a woman is infatuated with you, she’ll treat you differently than she treats others. This could manifest in many ways – from giving you more attention, to being more patient with you, to showing more respect for your opinions.

You can probably tell from the personal experience I shared above that the man in question had a special place in my heart. I wasn’t doing these things for anyone else – but with him, I just couldn’t help it.

This is a reflection of the special place you hold in this woman’s heart.

At the heart of it: It’s about connection

The complexities of human feelings and behaviors often boil down to one simple element: connection.

This connection, whether it’s a fleeting crush or deep-seated infatuation, manifests in various ways that can be as subtle as a whisper or as clear as a bell.

When a woman is secretly infatuated with you, her behavior changes in subtle yet significant ways. Just like I did, she might seek out your company more often, remember small details about you, mirror your actions, or show genuine concern for your well-being.

These signs are not just random behaviors; they are manifestations of her deep emotional connection with you. They reveal the special place you hold in her heart and mind.

So if there’s a woman in your life showing these signs, take a moment to reflect on the connection you share with her. It might be more profound than you realize.

Ava Sinclair

Ava Sinclair is a former competitive athlete who transitioned into the world of wellness and mindfulness. Her journey through the highs and lows of competitive sports has given her a unique perspective on resilience and mental toughness. Ava’s writing reflects her belief in the power of small, daily habits to create lasting change.

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