If a woman is secretly attracted to you, she’ll display these 8 subtle behaviors

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Do you find yourself in a situation where you like a woman, but you’re not sure if the feeling is mutual? 

Knowing if a woman feels attracted to you can be very tricky. Because you’re not sure, you make a move, and she brutally refuses you, leaving a hole in your confidence that will sting for months. 

But you’re not alone. We’ve all been there. 

Many subtle behaviors show that a woman is secretly attracted to you. So, if you want to make a move, have a look at these 8 signs first.

1) She looks for opportunities to touch you

Touch can be direct but also a very subtle sign that someone is interested in you. If a woman is attracted to you, she’ll find ways to touch you as it means more connection to you. 

If you’re a colleague, she might often straighten your collar or tie, and this could be a subtle excuse to touch you. 

She might even like to high-five you or hug you tightly whenever you say goodbye. 

If you notice any of these subtle touching signs, it means she is drawn to you.

2) She stares when she thinks you’re not looking

A woman who finds you attractive will check you out more often, especially when she thinks you’re not looking. 

Think about it. Do you usually stare at people you have no interest in? If you’re not in conversation with them, there’s no reason to constantly check them out. 

Try to glance over and catch her look to be sure. If she smiles and quickly looks away, she likes what she sees, and you should send that smile back. 

3) She laughs at your jokes

We laugh at someone’s jokes for various reasons: politeness, wanting to act friendly, or finding the joke or the person funny. 

Laughing doesn’t necessarily mean romantic attraction, but it does mean we enjoy someone’s company. 

This is the one you should be careful with, but you can still tell if she likes you. 

For example, if you know you’re not that funny or the joke wasn’t very funny, and the rest of the people had a bit mild reaction to it, but she is passionately laughing, it’s a great sign she’s attracted to you.

She obviously finds you amusing and enjoys your humor.  

She feels comfortable around you, and she might even keep eye contact while laughing.  

Have you ever watched The Office?

If you both share and create inside jokes together like Jim and Pam, conversation with her will go past casual interaction and into a genuine bond.

4) She initiates conversations

If a woman is attracted to you, she’ll want to know you better, so she usually finds a way to start talking to you. 

Is she the first one to send a text where she asks how your day is going or just to start a casual conversation? She’s into you. 

If her questions become more personal, and she wants to get to know you a bit better, she wants to build a connection. 

This can also mean she wants to be a friend, but you should read between the lines. 

If you notice her texts become more frequent, and her questions are more open when you text, it means she wants to continue talking with you and doesn’t want the conversation to stop. 

She just enjoys it too much. 

5) She likes and comments on your social media posts

Not only is she texting you, but she’s also liking and commenting on your social media posts. Well, that might be an indication she’s attracted to you.

If you’re still not sure, see how frequently she likes your posts and what kind of comments she leaves. 

If they’re positive and thoughtful, then it means she put in an effort and she admires you, especially if her emojis are playful and affectionate. 

If she frequently responds to your Instagram stories, it shows that she’s actively following your day-to-day updates.

6) She gives you sincere compliments, and she blushes when you compliment her back

When a woman gives you sincere compliments and blushes when you compliment her, it can be a sign she’s attracted to you. 

If her compliments are related to your new haircut, or she noticed you have new trousers or a T-shirt, she’s interested in you. 

If her compliments go even deeper and she compliments you on your recent project, she pays attention to what you do and recognizes your success. 

It took me ages to figure out if my wife’s into me, so I feel your pain here. But finally, I got the sign. Her face started blushing every time I complimented her. 

My compliments were nice and friendly, but she was still blushing, and that’s when I knew. She likes me.

7) She remembers small details about your life

Remembering specific details you shared with her from previous conversations reveals she’s attracted to you.

If she remembered your cousin’s name or your friend’s name, even your old neighbor’s name, do I have to break it to you? 

Add to that your favorite food or drink and your love for books and sci-fi movies, and you have a woman who pays attention to details that make you who you are and who wants a deeper connection with you.

She might also notice changes in how you look or even your interests, like the new quirky sock collection you have on display every day. 

But here’s my favorite telltale sign:

8) She’s nervous around you

I don’t know about you, but remembering my dating times, every time I was interested in a woman, I felt so nervous being around them. 

I was scared I would say something wrong or that I didn’t look good enough that day. 

I always wanted to make a good impression on women, but my hands were often sweaty, and when I was nervous, my ears got very red, which I thought was not very attractive.

And you know what? The other side can see those little clues. 

You can notice when people are nervous, and you can start reading into that nervousness. 

If a woman starts fixing her hair, biting her lips, trying to fix her clothes constantly, and she seems a bit lost when she’s around you, then it’s a sign she’s attracted to you.  

Especially when you add to that a few other behaviors mentioned already. 

Final thoughts

Feeling attraction, no matter if it’s sexual, mental, or just plain romantic, affects our behavior, and there are signs that we can recognize when someone’s attracted to us.

From being stared at, remembering small details about ourselves, getting compliments, or being touched subtly. 

These are just some signs women project when they’re attracted to us. It’s a natural thing to want to know if the feelings are mutual, as this can lead to something bigger and even life-changing. 

Also, context matters, and I always wanted to be 80% sure to make a move. 

I hope these signs will get you there, but if you’re still not convinced or you’re more of a straight shooter, then a more open and direct conversation will help you get some clarity.  

Whatever it is, good luck, my friend. 

Adrian Volenik

Adrian has years of experience in the field of personal development and building wealth. Both physical and spiritual. He has a deep understanding of the human mind and a passion for helping people enhance their lives. Adrian loves to share practical tips and insights that can help readers achieve their personal and professional goals. He has lived in several European countries and has now settled in Portugal with his family. When he’s not writing, he enjoys going to the beach, hiking, drinking sangria, and spending time with his wife and son.

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